One should be humble, but not inferior. Low self-esteem is often accompanied by slackness. It is a stumbling block on the way forward, which can greatly reduce a person's motivation and ability. While it's normal to slip into a state of low self-esteem for a short period of time once in a while, being in it for a long time is a disaster.

Despise oneself is the greatest weakness in character

Zhou Qun was born in a remote mountain village, and his parents were honest farmers. He has been bullied a lot since he was a child, and because his family is poor, he always swallows his anger. But he had a smart brain and worked hard, and finally got admitted to university. It stands to reason that he should be able to raise his eyebrows, but no, on the contrary, his inferiority complex and closed consciousness are more serious.

After comparing his own clothes, living utensils, and family status with those around him, he came to a conclusion: everything about himself is inferior to others, everything in his hometown is inferior to others, and he is embarrassed, and he is not even worthy of talking and doing things with them. As a result, he never took the initiative to talk to his classmates, and always walked with his head down and slept with his head covered. The recreational and sports activities organized by the class and the department, he can escape as much as possible, and if he can't escape, he squats in the corner and queues up, and his only idea is not to enter the field of vision of his classmates. He always felt that people's eyes were full of criticism, sarcasm, sarcasm, and ridicule for him.

Once, the class organized a New Year's Day gala, and he went. During the drumming and flower passing show, he sat in the corner and was very nervous. When the drumbeat stopped at his place, he turned pale with embarrassment, and after a moment of embarrassment, he rushed out of the classroom, tears rolling in his eyes. Another time, the class had a Mid-Autumn Festival dinner, and the students were full of interest and interest. When everyone toasts to the friendship of the whole class, they find that he is not there. When the squad leader returned to the dormitory, he was sobbing with his head under the quilt. Zhou Qun's loneliness was seen by his classmates, but he rejected people thousands of miles away with a strong inferiority complex and a closed consciousness. So, as time went by, no one thought him strange, and although he lamented his misfortune, no one took the initiative to talk to him and help him. He was always sighing, sad, depressed, and had no interest in anything. With the aggravation of courses and the aggravation of psychological load, Zhou Qun finally had a nervous breakdown in the second semester of his sophomore year of college. In the final exams of that semester, he failed several subjects. According to the school's regulations, students should repeat a grade. This is tantamount to rubbing salt on his wounds, which is already under heavy psychological pressure. When he learned the news, he was restless, and he disappeared that night. Eventually, his body was found in the lake behind the school. He committed suicide by jumping into a lake with a large bag of stones on his back.

Low self-esteem is like a poisonous snake that gnaws at the soul, not only sucking the fresh blood of the soul and making people lose the courage to live, but also injecting the venom of misanthropy and despair into it, and finally causing the healthy body to die.

On the rugged road of life, the poisonous snake of inferiority complex will quietly appear at any time, especially when people are tired, sleepy, and confused, we must be more vigilant. It's normal to slip into a state of low self-esteem for a short period of time once in a while, but being in a state of low self-esteem for a long time can lead to a disaster. The root of low self-esteem is to underestimate oneself or deny oneself too much, to attach too much importance to the opinions of others, and to think too much of others and too humble to oneself.

Only by controlling the inferiority complex can people dare to be aggressive and become a person with the spirit of initiative and creativity; In order to open up a new situation in the cause and lay a solid foundation for success; Only then will you have a positive attitude towards life, live a cheerful and happy life; will have the courage to take responsibility and become a responsible person. And anyone who makes a difference in their career is a responsible person. Only by abandoning low self-esteem will we think positively in ordinary times; will actively overcome all kinds of obstacles and become a person who is not afraid of difficulties; will take the initiative to make new friends and improve the relationship with old friends.

The problem with low self-esteem is that no matter how successful you are or how capable you are, you always want to prove that you are truly versatile. In other words, many people tend to set an image of themselves and refuse to admit what their true self is.

For example, if you've always wanted to be a slimmer person, you're always worried that you're not going to lose weight, and every time you measure your waistline, you'll worry and completely forget that your body is in optimal health.

You always keep your perceived weaknesses in your head, remind yourself of your shortcomings, and compare them to the strengths of others. Therefore, the more you feel that you are inferior to others, and the more you feel that you are self-conscious, so you ignore your own advantages and hit your self-confidence.

If you let your low self-esteem control you, then you will belittle yourself without mercy in the evaluation of your self-image, dare not express your desire to assert yourself, dare not appeal your opinions in front of others, dare not confess your love to others, dare not show yourself in behavior, and always seem very restrained and timid. At the same time, there is a fear of the outside world, of others, especially of unfamiliar environments and living people. Out of instinctive self-preservation, they will isolate and distance themselves from what they fear, and thus imprison themselves in a lonely castle. If other negative emotions can make a person temporarily deviate from the goal or slow down the speed of success on the way forward, then a person who has been in a state of inferiority for a long time will not have any hope of success at all, and even the existing achievements cannot arouse their joy, excitement and confidence, but they are just blindly immersed in their own experience of failure and cannot extricate themselves, are not interested in anything, have no confidence in anything, are unwilling to go into the crowd, and refuse to be approached by others.

Most of the people in the world who can't get out of the predicament of survival are due to lack of confidence in themselves, they are like a fragile grass, they have no confidence to go through the wind and rain, which is a terrible inferiority complex.

People with low self-esteem are accustomed to being self-indulgent, always feeling inferior to others, and this emotion has been entangled in their hearts, resulting in the loss of the original joy of life, troubles, sorrows, losses, and anxieties come one after another; People with low self-esteem are not interested in work or life, they are discouraged, lose their fighting spirit, and lose their courage to forge ahead; Once a person with low self-esteem encounters a setback, he complains and feels sorry for himself, blindly blaming the injustice of fate; People with low self-esteem are particularly sensitive and lack a broad mind, and often a casual move by others will poke their nerves, thinking that others are belittling and insulting themselves. It's a pity that they never think about it - why do you ask others to look down on you when you look down on yourself?

Maybe many people will say, "I believe in myself!" "So do you really believe in yourself? When difficulties, frustrations, sarcasm, and blank eyes follow, can you really be indifferent and stick to the self-confidence in your heart? In fact, a lot of people can't.

Admittedly, everyone has their frustrations at times. So, when we feel pain, confusion, and disappointment, why don't we summon the potential strength, challenge the root cause of pain without bowing our heads, abandoning it, giving up, or being humble or arrogant, turning pain into motivation, turning frustration into happiness, and using actions to win the respect of others?

Only self-esteem and self-confidence can make us feel that we are capable

It is said that when Napoleon personally led an army into battle, the combat effectiveness of the same army was doubled. It turned out that the combat effectiveness of the army was largely based on the soldiers' admiration and confidence in the commander-in-chief. If the commander-in-chief is skeptical and hesitant, the whole army will be in disarray. Napoleon's self-confidence and strength made every soldier under his command extremely combative.

If you have strong self-confidence, you can often make ordinary men and women make amazing careers. A timid and undetermined person, even if he has outstanding talents, fine talents, and noble character, will not be able to accomplish great things in the end.

A person's achievements will never exceed the heights that his self-confidence can reach. If Napoleon, when leading his army across the Alps, simply sat down and said: "This thing is too difficult." "It is certain that Napoleon's army will never cross that high mountain. Therefore, no matter what you do, unwavering self-confidence is the most necessary and most important factor to achieve success.

Strong self-confidence is the source of success. Regardless of talent or talent, success depends on unwavering self-confidence. I believe that what can be done will be successful. On the other hand, if you don't believe in what can be done, you will never succeed.

There are many people who think that they are not born to do great things, and they will not have a happy life. With this kind of humble mentality, of course, there will not be much achievement. Many young men and women who could have done great things and made great achievements, but in fact they are doing small things and living a mediocre life, the reason is that they give up on themselves, they do not have lofty ideals, and they do not have firm self-confidence.

Compared with money, power, origin, relatives and friends, self-confidence is a more powerful thing, and it is the most reliable capital for people to engage in any business. Self-confidence can overcome all kinds of obstacles and difficulties, and can make the career a great success.

Evaluate ourselves by the way we see ourselves, how much we think we are worth, and we can't expect others to value us more than that. Once we step into society, people will judge from our faces and from the look in our eyes how much value we have given to ourselves. Many people believe that a person's judgment of his own value should be more true and accurate than the judgment of others.

From a moral point of view, trusting those who are confident is also an insurance practice. If a person begins to doubt his own integrity and honesty, then it is not far from being doubted by others. Moral depravity is often the first sign of oneself.

The German philosopher Schelling once said, "If a man can realize what kind of person he is, then he will soon know what kind of person he ought to be." Let him first feel that he is important in his thoughts, and soon, in real life he will also feel that he is important. ”

It is important for a person that we are able to convince him of his own abilities, and if this is done, then he will soon have great power.

"It is true that humility is a virtue and that is increasingly valued," said Kossuth, the leader of the Hungarian national liberation movement, "but we should not underestimate the value of self-reliance, which is more important than any other personality factor." ”

The British historian Froude also said, "For a tree to bear fruit, it must first take root in the soil." In the same way, one also needs to learn to rely on oneself, learn to respect oneself, not to accept handouts from others, and not to wait for the gift of fate. It is only on such a basis that it is possible to make any intellectual achievements. ”

"Relying on oneself and believing in oneself is an important ingredient of an independent personality," says Michelle Reynolds, "and it is it that has helped the warriors who have participated in the Olympic Games to win the championship." All the great men, all the great men who have made a name for themselves in the history of the world, belong to the same family because of this common characteristic. ”

Only self-confidence and self-esteem can make us feel that we are capable of doing something that no one else can replace. And those who are weak, indecided, and always look to others in everything, as Shakespeare said, do not and will never experience the glory that shines in the self-reliant.

A confident personality is the number one secret to success

Self-confidence is a positive character performance, a powerful force, and one of the most valuable resources. On the journey of life, it is self-confidence that broadens the horizons of exploration; It is self-confidence that drives the pace of progress; It is self-confidence that has achieved one dream after another. It can be said that without self-confidence, dreams will only be a mirage; Without self-confidence, life will only be gray in tone; Without self-confidence, even simple things can be considered obstacles that cannot be overcome. It is important to know that in the long river of life, there are good times and bad times; There is the joy of success, and there is also the bitterness of failure. Moreover, the road to success will never be easy, sometimes it will be full of thorns and even cliffs. At this time, we need self-confidence as the pillar of our spirit, otherwise, success will not be in our way.

Michael Jordan is the greatest basketball star in the world, but, can you think of it? In high school, Michael Jordan was a loser on the basketball team. He ran to ask why he wasn't admitted, and the coach said, "First, you're not tall enough; Second, your technique is too tender. You won't be able to go to college and play basketball in the future. He said to the coach: "You let me practice in this team, I am willing to help all the players carry the bag and help them wipe their sweat, I don't need to play, I just want me to practice with the team and have the opportunity to learn from them." "The coach saw that this man loved basketball so much and agreed to his request. As soon as the game was over, Jordan really went to wipe the sweat of the other players.

That's how the world's greatest basketball stars got their start in the game.

When a person has self-confidence, he can overcome all kinds of difficulties, give full play to his talents, and make great achievements in his career.

How great is self-confidence, how great a person's achievements are; A person's achievements will never exceed the heights reached by self-confidence. When Napoleon led his army across the Alps, he was confronted with a cold mountain, and if he had been the first to be timid, his army would never have crossed that mountain. Therefore, unwavering self-confidence is the source of all success.

Once, a soldier delivered a letter to Napoleon on horseback, and because the horse was running too fast, he fell sharply before reaching his destination, and the horse whimpered for his life. When Napoleon received the letter, he immediately wrote a reply, handed it to the soldier, and instructed the soldier to ride his horse and send the reply away quickly.

When the soldier saw that the horse was very strong and adorned with great ornamentation, he said, "No, General, I am just an unknown soldier, and I am not worthy to ride on this beautiful and strong horse." ”

Napoleon, for his part, told him solemnly: "There is nothing in the world that a French soldier does not deserve." ”

People with the mentality of a French soldier like the one mentioned above are found everywhere in the world, and they think that their status is too low, that they are too inconspicuous, that all the happiness of others does not belong to them, that they do not deserve to be enjoyed, and that they cannot be compared with those great men at all. This concept of inferiority and self-inferiority often becomes the main reason for not seeking progress and being willing to degenerate.

A confident personality is of great significance to those who aspire to succeed. It has been said that the desire to succeed is the source of creation and possession of wealth. Once a person has this desire and is stimulated by autosuggestion and subconscious, it forms a kind of confidence, and this confidence is transformed into a "positive feeling". It stimulates the subconscious mind to unleash infinite passion, energy, and wisdom, which in turn helps it achieve great things.

Even if you are questioned by others, you have to believe in yourself

After repeated setbacks, Li Bai let out such a long roar: "I am born to be useful, and I will come back when my daughter is gone!" When many people read this sentence aloud, they can feel the poet's endless heroism and confidence, and at the same time, they will also carry a little self-comfort. In fact, as Li Bai said, everyone who comes to the world will have their own uniqueness and unique value. It can be said that each person is unique in the world, and everyone has their own "useful" talents. It's just that maybe sometimes it's hidden deep enough to dig with all our might; Sometimes our talents are not recognized by others...... However, we must not deny our own talents because of this, let alone doubt our abilities because of setbacks and failures in life, and lose confidence and collapse.

If you look at the past and present, you will find that many famous people have had the same painful experience as you have – they have been thwarted by teachers, colleagues, and even family members, who have denied their talents and asserted that they will never be able to do what they want to do. However, they never had the slightest doubt about their talents, and they persevered in their perseverance, and finally brought their talents to the fullest.

Darwin's parents wanted their son to become a priest, but Darwin's passion for biology disappointed his parents, but he always insisted on his prowess in biology. He found his right place and finally wrote his immortal masterpiece "The Theory of Evolution". Think about it, what if he obeyed his parents' orders?

When Ellis Hurley was a little-known literary youth, he received an average of one rejection letter every week for four years. Later, Ellis almost stopped writing the book "Roots" and gave up on himself. He felt that his ambition was unrewarded and his talent was empty, so he prepared to jump into the sea and commit suicide. As he stood at the stern of the boat, facing the rolling waves, he suddenly heard all the deceased relatives calling: "You have to do what you have to do, because we are all gazing at you in heaven, don't give up!" You can do it, we look forward to you! A few weeks later, the book "Roots" was finally completed.

In 1905, Albert Einstein's doctoral dissertation was "crossed out" by the University of Bonn. The reason is – the essay is off-topic and whimsical throughout. Einstein was frustrated, but did not lose confidence.

Woody Allen - Oscar winner for Best Screenplay, Best Producer, Best Director, Best Actor, Academy Award winner, he failed English in college.

Leon Ullis, a writer, scholar, and philosopher, failed the English exam three times.

James Whistler, a famous American painter, was expelled from West Point for failing chemistry.

Michael Jordan, the "God of Basketball", was once removed from his middle school basketball team.

Winston Churchill was rejected by Oxford and Cambridge for their poor liberal arts.

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It turns out that even today's recognized geniuses have been questioned by everyone at one time and have been hit by all kinds of blows. Thankfully, they are not struck down, frustrated, or overwhelmed, and they always believe in their abilities. It is precisely because of this that they have been able to achieve admirable achievements and have made their names deeply engraved on the monuments of history!

However, some of us often begin to self-deprecate, self-degenerate, and even call ourselves a waste when we meet others. It really shouldn't be. You know, no one is waste, not to mention that even the so-called waste has its own use value, and the rational use of waste can also turn waste into treasure? Remember Li Bai's poem: "I am born to be useful!" This is by no means self-consolation after disappointment, it is full of absolute affirmation of self and personal value, and what self-confidence is this!

We need to stir up this bride in our hearts, which requires us to do two things:

(1) Never look at yourself from a worldly perspective

The world is a sphere from multiple angles, and if we change it from one angle, we may be able to find the focus of our lives. Please always believe that "I am born to be useful" and realize your value in hard work.

(2) Don't give up on yourself

No matter what low point we are at right now, don't give up on yourself. Believe in yourself, since we have come to this world with some kind of mission, there is a certain reason, and it is not just for eating, drinking, and sleeping.

Even if you're a cleaner, don't think about how lowly your job is, you can cry out to the world: how dirty the earth would be without us! No matter what industry you're in, don't take yourself lightly. You have to remember that there is no distinction between high and low status, except for the high and low of the heart, everyone is engaged in different jobs, and they are all contributing to the world, but each person has a different division of labor.

There is no doubt that everyone in this world, even a grass and a thing has its own value, even if it is a fallen leaf, it also bears the responsibility of "turning into spring mud and protecting flowers"; Even a legless bird is fulfilling its obligation to fly; Even if he is a wanderer, he is running for his own future and his relatives. In fact, no one is superfluous at all, and no one is a waste, it's just that the abilities are different, so the responsibilities are different. As Li Bai said - "I am born to be useful, and I will come back when my daughter is gone"!

Be a more amazing person

We see people almost everywhere who have been doing simple and ordinary things all their lives, and they seem to be content with it, when in fact they are perfectly capable of doing something more difficult and complicated, but they don't believe they can do it.

A lot of people aren't ambitious enough to start a great business because their expectations are low, and as a result, it's impossible to start a great business from scratch. The narrowness of their goals in life limits their ability to establish a grand ambition.

Michelangelo's words under an elaborate statue in Raphael's studio are "to be a greater man".

It is ambition that gives a reliable foundation for a beautiful life, which pushes us to achieve our goals and helps us resist the temptations that can destroy our future.

What a state of chaos the world would be if humanity had not had the ambition to create the world and improve its own conditions!

Nothing strengthens our will more than the sustained efforts to achieve our ambitions. It leads our minds to a higher realm and brings more beautiful things into our lives.

Goethe said: "The most important thing in life is to set a high goal and to achieve it with sufficient talent and endurance." ”

What could be a nobler ideal than the pursuit of the value of life? Motivated by ambition, failure is almost impossible. Under different civilizations, people's ideals are also different. The ideals of a person or a country are related to their current conditions and future development potential.

In the course of a person's life, there will always be various difficulties and setbacks, in this case, you must be brave enough to say to yourself "I can do it"!

Everyone wants to be successful, but the road to success is always full of thorns, and if you give up, then you will never succeed. Only by persevering and telling yourself that I can do it, then you will succeed one day.

In order to succeed, you must have the following conditions: desire to improve yourself, perseverance to smooth the mountains, and belief that you will succeed. Always believe in yourself, it's not as simple as talking. If you do it, you're not far from success.

No matter what kind of difficulties or crises you encounter, as long as you think you can do it, you will be able to deal with and resolve them. Having a positive idea of your abilities can be a positive force that can lead to effective actions that will lead you to success.

The determination of self-discovery, the habit of self-reliance, can make you stronger and stronger. The crutches are for the lame, not for the strong young man, and whoever tries to walk through life on spiritual crutches will not go very far, and he will never become a great achiever.

There is only one person in the world who can make or break your success or failure, and that person is yourself. Only you can truly support you on your path to success.

I really like yourself

If you were to divide all the living beings in the world into two kinds of people, how would you classify them?

In fact, no matter how you classify them, there are more than two kinds of people in the world. However, if you insist on dividing into two kinds of people, then there are really only two kinds of people in the world, that is, those who like themselves and those who don't like themselves.

According to this standard classification, I am afraid that there are a large number of people who want to squeeze on the side that they don't like themselves, and only a few people can happily raise their hands and say, "I like myself." ”

People who don't like themselves always have a lot of reasons: I'm too short, I have pimples, I'm not good at socializing, I'm not good at learning, my family is poor, my parents are not decent......

And people who like themselves don't necessarily have a high-sounding reason. They like themselves, they are not blind, they do not believe that they are perfect, but they clearly recognize that they have a lot of shortcomings, just like everyone else. It's just that they are willing to accept everything about themselves, all their strengths and weaknesses, without trying to hide them, without deliberately changing them, and of course, they will not envy others in vain.

Enjoying yourself is the starting point of happiness.

People are inherently unequal, there are beauty, ugliness, fat and thin, tall and short, rich and poor, but there is also a fair side, all the good conditions and all the bad conditions will not be concentrated in one person at the same time. If you think about it, a beautiful person may be too lazy to achieve nothing; And capable people may be overworked, damaging the body; Wealthy people who indulge in sex may not be able to keep a happy family; Learned people are self-disciplined and rigorous, and they may also lose the opportunity to make a fortune. When you think about it this way, everyone has gained, but they also lose something.

The happiest people are those who are aware of the imperfections of life, but can cherish everything they have in the midst of this imperfection.

"Seeking perfection" is a common problem of human nature, having a good job, and hoping to earn more money; has an ideal marriage and hopes for a prosperous career; Once you become a rich man, you can't wait to show your face frequently in newspapers and magazines and be in the limelight; There are even more people, career, wealth, marriage, love, etc., all the good things want to be in their own hands.

As everyone knows, perfection is not the law of nature, the moon will be missing when it is round, the spring flowers will be thanked, and the spring will run endlessly at four o'clock in winter, and it has never been fettered by any beautiful moment.

It is difficult to seek absolute perfection in life, sometimes good times and sometimes bad times, wealth comes like a huge wave when it comes, and when it goes like a beach with low tide, love, marriage, and career are difficult to be beautiful, and it is even more difficult to always be smooth.

Living in such a bumpy fate, it is no wonder that many people complain about others, fall into the ranks of resentment, find fault with everything they have, and shroud themselves in the shadow of unhappiness all day long.

Only those who like themselves know that the secret of happiness is not to gain more, but to cherish what is already there. If you take a deep look at your own happiness, you will understand that everyone is blessed with great blessings.

No one can know for sure whether they are really popular, but everyone can ask themselves: Do I like myself?

Psychologist Kate has discovered that in order for others to like the real you, you should develop the trait of liking yourself. You may be surprised to learn that beauty, charisma, relationships, etc., which are generally considered attractive are not qualities you need to have.

There are many people in this world who are neither beautiful nor rich by nature, but they can be loved by their friends, and the most important reason is that they really like themselves.

If you can take the advice of psychologist Kate, maybe you can easily become a person who loves yourself.

Learning how to be alone, no matter how old or young a person is, whether they can face loneliness is the best test of personal maturity. Mature people have an independent self, do not need to rely on others all the time, and even when they are lonely, they can be strong and handle it properly, exuding mature self-confidence. And this mature and stable personality is a symbol of a person's acceptance of himself and his belief in himself.

We must treat each person as a different individual, and we often subjectively jump to conclusions before we get to know a person clearly: this person must be very stubborn, this person may not be easy to get along with, and this person may be very picky...... These preconceived notions often prevent us from recognizing people for what they are.

Therefore, putting aside preconceptions and learning to see the true side of others can win more valuable friends for ourselves.

Dig out the source of happiness, happiness must be found by yourself, it will not automatically fall from the sky. There are many things in life that make people happy, and you can discover them. Learning an Chinese, sharing new ideas with friends, playing sports, joining meaningful clubs, and taking time off for vacations are all ways to enjoy yourself with your wit. You will just sit and complain about the boring life and not actively create happiness for yourself, then you will soon become a nuisance.

Don't be sarcastic. cynicism, not only failed to prove that he was smart, but instead exposed himself as a narrow-minded, arrogant and incompetent person.

Degrading others is not the same as exalting oneself. A truly respected person knows how to recognize the value of each person and will not easily destroy the reputation of others, and this kind of respect for people is a manifestation of confidence in oneself.

What is important to you, even if others are not cooperative, you have to follow through. People who compromise easily and give up their ideals casually may seem to be very amiable everywhere on the surface, but this kind of person who has no personality at all often cannot be sincerely admired and loved by people. If you think you are worth fighting for, you must go all out, so that you can affirm your own worth and enjoy what you do.

Efforts should be made to strengthen the strength of feelings. Coldness and self-control, of course, can protect oneself, but when interacting with others, you can devote yourself with sincerity, and have feelings of joy and sorrow, which is the real deep feeling. Don't be afraid to show your feelings, instead, work harder to develop the right way to express your innermost feelings.

Learn how to support a friend. It is difficult for selfish people to feel the warmth of human affection. Only by being willing to give friendship, willing to help others, willing to share joy and sorrow with others, can we experience the beauty of life.

Use principles to observe your own life. You are the only one in the universe and have your own principles of life. You don't need to imitate others, and you don't have to twist yourself. Li Si's hat is worn on Zhang San's head, which may not be suitable, and your life can only live happily and wonderfully if you follow your unique principles.

It's actually very simple to like yourself. You don't need to put on nice clothes, change your face, say words that cater to others, as long as you calm down, learn to value others, value yourself, and develop a mature and independent personality, you will take a big step towards the goal of "liking yourself".

Who is the most important person in the world?

The answer, of course, is: yourself.

Before you get too busy trying to win the approval of the whole world, don't forget to please the most important person first - learn to like yourself and accept yourself.