After taking care of these internal affairs of the national team, Zhao Yaning also ushered in the match between the Chinese team and Estonia. In this game, Zhao Yaning was replaced after playing half the game on the field. And this game, because of Daewoo's goal, won 1:0 in the end.

Since it was a friendly match, Zhao Yaning did not invest much motivation. It's much more tiring to talk to the old players of the national team than to play ten games. After the game, he barely stopped and went back to France.

It's just that he didn't immediately answer Monaco, and in Paris he still had something to do.

"Hello, Mr. Loyle." Zhao Yaning said hello to his counselor, and then sat down.

"Hello, Joey. We haven't seen each other for a long time, and you're back home to play for the national team, right? So, is there anything you'd like to share?"

Zhao Yaning was silent for a while, although he knew the rules of the other party's profession, he still couldn't help but ask, "I have evil thoughts, but these problems are related to some things of my national team, you won't tell others, right?"

"Of course not, we have professional requirements, and haven't we signed a non-disclosure agreement? Joey, I said that the lack of trust is a big weakness of your character, have you forgotten?"

"I haven't forgotten, it's just that this evil is not the same as before." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said, "I have some things that are not very pleasant in the national team, the matter is very long, and it may take a long time to finish, I hope you are patient." ”

"I'm a consultant, I charge on time, and I'm certainly patient."

Zhao Yaning smiled slightly, and then began to speak. Mr. Lloyle leaned forward slightly, listening to his words and nodding his head.

The story is indeed very long, and Zhao Yaning said it very fragmented, but he still told it little by little. It took more than half an hour for him to finish what he wanted to say, "That's it." I'm bothered right now because I don't know if it's me wrong or if they're wrong. I want the national team to produce results, but they are always careless about the results of the national team. I used to think they were incorrigible, but now I see that they still seem to have a place for apes. It makes me confused, I don't know, I'm asking them to play well, am I wrong or are they wrong?"

Listening to this, Loyle nodded and spoke, "Joey, the last time you came, you said that you wanted to use NPL technology to analyze, I said to use the stimulation method to dig out your childhood character formation, and then use cognitive behavioral therapy to change your behavior habits, and if you want, use motivation to positively strengthen your behavior concept." The stage you go through is the stage where you understand yourself and know yourself. You get to know yourself and start to notice that there is a certain difference in your thinking patterns, behavioral habits and socially accepted habits, which means that you have improved. The next step is that it's time for you to change your thinking. ”

"So, you think I'm wrong?" Zhao Yaning asked rhetorically, "But playing football well, this is the most basic thing for football players to pay attention to." ”

"Joey, first of all, listen to me calmly: theoretically, each of us has a different understanding of the world. Therefore, theoretically speaking, each of us perceives the world subjectively, not objectively. What you say and what you shouldn't say is actually just your own personal judgment, and in these things, only those things that are agreed with others, that is, things that are correct in everyone's subjective perception, are objectively strived for. Now, your understanding of the world is in conflict with many people, then it means that you are not looking at this time objectively. As a young person, sometimes I always ask, am I wrong or the world is wrong? This kind of problem arises because you live in your own world. ”

These words made Zhao Yaning's eyes widen, "You mean, I'm just deceiving myself?"

"It's not self-deception, it's the way you know things, it's purely a certain problem. It's not a big deal, there's a problem with the way everyone sees things. Each of us is subjective, and there is no such thing as an absolutely objective understanding, and each person's subjective concept will be different, so there is a conflict. ”

"So how do I resolve this conflict?" Zhao Yaning asked.

"That's how we can look at it." Loyle smiled, "Your values, the values of Chinese players, and the values of good players are three different values. Your values are closer to the values of a good player, but not the same as those of a Chinese player. Right?"

"Yes." Zhao Yaning nodded.

"So, your conflict, in the final analysis, can be boiled down to a clash of ideas." "The Qur'an says, 'If the mountain doesn't come, I'll come to the mountain,' said Loyle. NLP technology believes that there are at least three solutions to anything. We use NLP technology to solve it, and you have a variety of problems to solve in the face of this problem. If you don't want to change yourself, then you can also change the philosophy of others. ”

"How?" Zhao Yaning was puzzled.

"The idea of people is not static, and you can influence others through your abilities. You mentioned that you're now the captain of the national team, right?"

Zhao Yaning nodded.

"Then you should try to influence others with your ideas. If you can get them to share the same values as you, will it be settled soon?"

"But, sir, the reason I'm here is to make myself better...... What does changing others have to do with my own growth?"

Zhao Yaning's question made Loyle nod, "I'm glad you asked that, it shows that you pay attention to yourself, and you start to hope that you will get better, which is a good thing." ”

After praising him, Loyle continued, "In NLP technology, human perception is divided into three types of internal senses: visual, auditory, and sensory. ”

"Generally speaking, visual people value self-expression, value color, are lively, speak loudly, have a straightforward personality, and are athletes, most of them are this type of people. Auditory people, on the other hand, are mostly people who value the expression of words and sounds, speak rhythmically, do things in an organized manner, and are prepared. ”

"So what kind of class am I?"

"The third category is the feeling type. Perceptual people are characterized by few words, poor language skills, a desire to be cared for and respected, a very high degree of importance to their own feelings, a high value to honor, a penchant for using words related to values when talking, and blaming others, not for the ability to blame others, but more for attitudes......"

"This is indeed me." Before he could finish speaking, Zhao Yaning interrupted Mr. Loyle with a wry smile.

"The last time you came, it was your coach who wanted you to change your personality, and I guess he wanted you to change into a visual person. After all, on the football field, people who value self-expression and have a straightforward personality are more acceptable. But the reason why I didn't immediately give you positive reinforcement and make you change your personality is because I think you should be more of an auditory person than a visual person. Visual people, born with thick lines, don't pay attention to details, I don't think that's what you want. You want to succeed, so I want to be able to guide you to become a person who has enough self-knowledge and is able to self-reflect to promote self-improvement. ”

"Thank you, sir." Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said, "But what should I do to become a grown?"

"Didn't I already tell you? Solve the problem. When you try to solve problems in different ways, your perception changes with your behavior. Convince your teammates to try to do things with words, with plans, and not with your feelings, that's my advice to you. When you start to be organized, organized, and make planning a part of your life, you really grow. Loyle waved his hand, "Personally, I don't like to give people some specialized, targeted mental training. I think that this kind of training taken from life is more helpful to people. We can do it for a while, and if it doesn't work, I'll adjust your treatment, okay?"

At this point, the conversation ended, and Loyle looked at Zhao Yaning and said, "I hope you can play a few good games." I'm not a fan of Monaco, but you're playing really well. ”

"Thank you, sir." Zhao Yaning nodded.

"Are you going to Monaco now?" Loyle asked again.

"No, I still have something to visit a friend." Zhao Yaning hesitated for a moment and said.

"Girl?" Loyle laughed.

"Sometimes I really doubt you're scheming."

"I won't, but I'll see how you react. And I think it's a very beautiful girl you really like, right?" Loyle patted his head, "Besides, you seem to have any concerns, she's not your girlfriend, is she?"

"I have a girlfriend...... Maybe this can be discussed on our next topic. Zhao Yaning scratched his head and said.

"Okay, though, I'll be able to give you a piece of advice right now, and a minute will be enough." Loyle looked at him, "It's much easier to solve the problem of teenagers. I'll just tell you one sentence: what kind of girl you like is not only your choice of love, but also the projection of your personality. First love, generally speaking, is a projection of one's purest personality. And beauty, in general, is a projection of some of their own good wishes. Remember, it's not just a matter of your love, it's also a matter of your personality. ”

These words made Zhao Yaning stunned for a long time, and he didn't know how to speak. ()

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