We should also pay attention to the problem of "degree" in the use of human favors. It has been said, "Friendship is a deposit in the bank." "Since it's savings, you can't overdraw; Otherwise, friends will eventually become a barren place of friendship. There is a magazine editor, because the magazine is a purely literary publication, so the economic efficiency is very poor, the manuscript fee is low, and there is no source of manuscript. In order not to lower the standard of the magazine, the editor of the magazine began to use his connections to ask for manuscripts from some well-known writers. And these well-known writers have written several drafts in the face of their friends, but the manuscript fees have not been paid for a long time. As a result, this editor, who was originally very popular, messed up all his good connections because he overdrew his favors. When you overdraw favors, friends will naturally doubt your motives, are you taking advantage of them? No matter how noble a person is, he is selfish, as long as the friendship is overdrawn, how can your friendship last for a long time?

In real life, the purpose of some people to make friends is very obvious, and that is to take advantage of it. A few days after making friends, I began to try to borrow money from friends and ask for help. In this case, the friend will definitely be vigilant in his heart.

Some people take advantage of their friends' thin-faced and embarrassed character to refuse, and they will borrow small money from friends and take advantage of them in three days.

Friends are like us opening an account in a bank, and we can save your idle money for a rainy day. The more you save, the richer your wealth will be.

Of course, we can also open an emotional account, open the bank in the hearts of friends or customers, and you deposit sincere care and value-added services in order to maintain your relationship. The more you deposit into your relationship account, the deeper your relationship with your friends will be.

A true good friend can make this passbook endless, like a stable and high-interest fixed passbook, so that every time you see the numbers in your account, your heart will send out a knowing smile.

The more enduring the relationship, the more you need to keep saving. I don't know if you've ever had this kind of experience, occasionally meeting old classmates, even if you haven't seen each other for many years, you can still immediately regain the old friendship without any sense of alienation, and this is because the accumulated feelings in the past still exist, and you haven't overdrawn this friendship. If you're someone you're in regular contact with, it's even more important to invest from time to time, otherwise a sudden overdraft will catch you off guard.

When saving and using your "friend's bank", we should pay attention to a few principles:

1. Find out what your relationship with the other person is, and then decide whether to ask someone for help.

2. The number of times you use favors should be as small as possible, so as not to use up the favor deposit.

3. Have moderate feedback, that is, return the favor, don't take people as if they should help you, as the saying goes: "There is a mention and a deposit, and then there is a mention." ”

4. Even if the other party once owes you a favor, you should not ask the other party for help with a pleasing mentality, because this will more likely cause the other party's unhappiness.

5. Don't easily ask someone for help, otherwise this kind of personal debt will make you unbearable.

If you don't understand these things, and you ask your classmates and friends for help at every turn, then you will find that the way your friends look at you and speak to you will become unnatural, and you will seem to become an undesirable persona.

As much as your friends help you, you have to reciprocate. If you don't give back moderately, it's actually an overdraft. Because you usually advance too much for friendship, when you are really in trouble, when you need a friend, maybe the friend has been extremely disappointed in you, or thinks that you have fulfilled your friend obligation and does not want to help you anymore.

Of course, if a friend wants to have a long-term relationship, he also needs to "ask" it once in a while, and you can find an excuse to make your friend owe you a little or you owe a friend a little.

This will not only maintain a long-term friendship, but also make friends feel that you have an extraordinary relationship. If friends pay too much attention to each other, and "gentlemen's friendship is as light as water", friendship will often end in a lack of loans or interests.