Everyone wants to be valued by others, even if it is an affectionate conversation or a quiet listening to make him think that he is important to you. Knowing that you are important will naturally have more confidence in yourself, and even the most mediocre person will be more confident as a result.

There's no better way to really get someone to open up to you than if you make them feel that you're genuinely interested in what they're doing. Your attention to others will naturally make them feel noticed, valued, and recognized by you.

Spend more time with your child and ask him often, "What are you doing?" To the cashier at the grocery store, you might as well say to her, "Your fingers will become very flexible every day, and you must be suitable for playing the piano or guitar." When you get to the office on Monday morning, why don't you say hello to the first colleague you meet, "Hey, how was the holiday?" Doing so will allow you to develop the habit of being kind to others, and it will also show your interest in others. When you get along with others, always respect others and give them self-esteem.

If you're always chattering about yourself and about your past greatness, you're going to find that people will leave you because you're not making them happy. They want you to be able to talk about them and be able to be interested in things that are relevant to them.

The New York Telephone Company once conducted a survey on telephone conversations to find out which word is most used in real life, and the word "I" was used about 3,950 times out of 500 telephone conversations. This shows that no matter who you are, no matter what your actual situation is, you always value yourself very much in your heart.

John Dewey, America's most learned philosopher, said, "The most profound driving force in human nature is to want to be important." "When everyone comes into this world, there is a desire to be valued, cared for, and affirmed, and when you meet his requirements, then others will glow with great enthusiasm in the aspect you value and become your good friend.

One of the most important rules of human behavior is to make others feel important at all times. If we follow this rule, not only will we not get into trouble, but we will also be able to obtain many friendships and eternal happiness. But if we break this law, we will inevitably invite trouble. There was a woman who invited four colleagues to her house for dinner, and she was very sincere and set a large table of wine and food. At that time, three colleagues arrived as promised, but one colleague was still nowhere to be seen, and the hostess was so anxious at the door that she looked around, rubbed her hands and stomped her feet.

At this time, a colleague ran out of it and comforted her not to worry. Who knew that the hostess casually said something like this: "Those who should come will not come." When the colleague who persuaded her heard this, he thought to himself, "Shouldn't I have come in this way?" So he slammed the door and left.

Seeing this, another colleague hurriedly came out to persuade him. Unexpectedly, the hostess burst out of her mouth again: "Alas, what shouldn't have gone is gone again!" When the colleague who was originally kind to persuade heard this, he immediately became angry: "If you shouldn't go, it doesn't mean that you shouldn't go." Okay, you also explained, I'm leaving. Finally, the colleague who was waiting in the house hurried out to help the host retain the guests.

It's a pity that I didn't expect that this hostess's eloquence was really bad, and she even came up again: "I didn't say it to them at all." Finally, the guest listened: "Oh, you didn't say it to them, didn't you say it to me?" Forget it, I won't stay, let's go together! It's just a joke, but it's a powerful reflection of people's desire to be respected.

So, how can you make people feel valued? Here are some tips:

First, use their names as often as possible.

The most favorite sound of the human ear is the pronunciation of one's own name. That's right, it's their own unique voice. If you use it regularly, it means that you genuinely care about them, and that will make them feel that you are very precious.

Second, listen to them.

It sounds simple, and it is, if you're serious. But if you're pretending, it's the hardest thing in the world. Put aside thoughts about yourself and listen to what they have to say to you.

Third, praise and recognize their accomplishments.

It's not a big thing, it's okay to be a small thing. You can say, "One day I passed by your garden, and the flowers and plants you planted grew so well." That may be valid. Or: "Your tie looks great and goes well with this suit!" "Noticing and saying what makes people unique can make them feel special.

Fourth, if there is someone waiting to meet you, be sure to greet them.

Never ignore the people waiting to meet you. Even if you only look at them knowingly and let them know that you will be there soon, it will make them feel that you care about them.

Fifth, respect the other party's decision and wishes.

A person's decisions and wishes are his own right and his freedom. To show respect for him is not to regard him as a vassal of others, but to respect the person's independent personality and to recognize his existence and value.