As the saying goes, "no one can do anything wrong unless he is a sage", but when others have "faults", how to point them out is also a science. When we criticize others, we must pay attention to strategy, we must not be impulsive and open-mouthed, sometimes, we need to praise others sincerely, of course, sometimes we also need to criticize with kindness.

If you have an employee who likes to be late, how should you handle it as a boss? If you criticize this employee who likes to be late: "Why are you late every day, the company is not alone; The company is not a vegetable market, you can come whenever you want; You always ignore the company's rules, think about it yourself. "If you do this, it may cause the other person to break the jar and break it, but it will not achieve your purpose of criticizing him.

In fact, if you can do it another way, you can capture the emotional weakness of the employee, as long as you click, "I think you are also a veteran employee, and you also know that it is wrong to be late, and I believe that if you can get to work on time, you may find the joy of coming to work on time." "When you're done with that, every employee will be willing to accept your criticism.

It can be seen that when we criticize others, we will definitely make them disgusted, but if you can subtly hint at their mistakes, then you will be respected by others. Therefore, the smartest way to criticize is to learn to use language skillfully before starting to criticize others, and never speak quickly, which will hurt others and yourself. America's greatest orator, the pastor Henry Ward Beecher, died on March 8, 1887. Henry Ward Bichir was so influential that he was even called a "world changer" at the time.

So in his honor, it was decided to hold a speaking conference, and at that time Lyman Albert was invited to give a wonderful speech to those who were saddened by the death of Henry Ward Bichier.

Because Lehmann Albert wanted to perform better at that time, Lehmann Albert changed his speech over and over again. When he felt that the manuscript had almost changed, he decided to show it to a good friend first, so that he could give valuable advice.

As a result, after reading it, Lehman Albert's friend felt that the writing was not very good, there was no distinctiveness, and there was not much innovation compared to ordinary speeches, so he wanted to tell Lehman Albert.

If Lyman Albert's friend didn't know how to speak, he said bluntly: "Lyman Albert, your manuscript is too bad to say that, if you really give it to everyone, it is estimated that they will fall asleep." This manuscript seems like a boring encyclopedia, how can you write it like this after you have been speaking for so many years? I really can't understand what you think. ”

But this friend of Lyman Albert did not say so bluntly, but said very tactfully: "Lyman Albert, this speech would certainly be a very good article if it were published in a magazine." ”

In fact, the clever Lyman Albert understood what his friend meant when he heard it, and although his friend praised the excellence of the speech, he also hinted to Lyman Albert very subtly that it might not be appropriate to use it in the speech, and it would not have received good results.

For this reason, Lehmann Albert listened to a friend's advice and began to rearrange the manuscript again, until he no longer relied on any manuscript for his speech. If we want to criticize someone, but without hurting their feelings, or even if you criticize the other person and make them appreciate you, then please say the criticism tactfully. It is often much better to remind the other person of some of the mistakes they have made in an indirect way than to teach them a direct lesson.

Of course, don't say too much, if one or two sentences can explain it, then don't say more, just click. It is best not to criticize others in more than three sentences, and some people who do ideological work will always receive good results through a few words, and of course they will not forget to leave room for the other party.