In the process of communicating with people, although language and writing only account for 7% of the influence, it is also very important. Many people are used to using some terms when they speak, or they are good at using some words. If you can listen to the other person's idiomatic words and use these spoken words often, the other party will definitely feel very cordial, and they will feel very pleasant to listen to you, and they will have a good impression of you, and finally achieve the purpose of opening up contacts.

In the process of communicating with others, especially in the process of asking questions, it is necessary to arouse the interest of the other party and guide the other party to generate positive feedback through questions.

For example, if you go to someone's house without making an appointment and talk about something they may not be happy with, you ask him, "You don't hate me as an uninvited guest, do you?" This is actually very difficult for the other party to answer, maybe he hates it in his heart, but it is inconvenient to say it. But if you ask him, "I want to delay you a little bit to discuss something important to you and me, you won't refuse, will you?" The other person may reply, "Of course not." ”

In the process of interacting with people, we should not only carry out one-way information transmission and reception, but should carry out two-way interactive communication and communication on the basis of eliminating distance barriers, that is, we are all familiar with "interactive zero-distance" communication. In this way, not only can you effectively convey your own views to the other party, but also allow the views of both parties to intersect, so as to reach a consensus and avoid unnecessary misunderstandings, so that you can live your own life and interact with others with your own unique principles and methods.

But one thing we must be careful about is that when we first get to know someone, the secrets of both of us, even innocuous ones, should be temporarily sealed. Only when the relationship between two people has entered a certain level, we should bring out our own ugly things with our friends and laugh at ourselves, but when we first get in touch, we must promote good and hide evil, and avoid exchanging "secrets".

Talking is the most effective way to get closer to each other in a relationship, but many people are shy to say it because they don't know what to say, or because they are worried about whether they are speaking appropriately. In fact, this worry is completely unnecessary, and 80% of our communicators have no bearing on our impression of the opening line.

Therefore, no matter how plain the content of the opening remarks is, as long as we can speak with a normal heart, enthusiastically, and pay attention to the tone of the speech, and then as the conversation deepens, then the distance between the two parties will naturally become closer and closer. In this process, it is also very important to find something that both parties agree on, and finding a common topic will produce the feeling of being familiar at first sight and hating each other, otherwise you can only look at each other and be cramped and speechless.