It's a kind of vision to be a little bit "snobbish" when we make friends. Snobbery is not about seeing the wind and steering the rudder, and stammering anyone who is rich and powerful. Snobbery is actually to classify friends, in other words, to distinguish which friends are our real friends and can share weal and woe with us; And which friends are more in the relationship of interests; Which friends are just nodding friends...... Once upon a time, there was a man who had many friends, all of whom were of all religions and nine streams, and he often boasted to others, saying that he had many friends and was the best in the world. As a result, someone asked him: "With so many friends, can you all treat them equally?" ”

He thought for a while and said, "Of course we can't treat them equally, we must classify them differently." He said that he made friends sincerely, and he would not take advantage of his friends or deceive them, but when others came to make friends with him, they were not necessarily sincere. Among his friends, there are many friends with high personalities, but these people also want to get a little benefit from him, and in addition, there are many friends with bad intentions.

He said: "I can't also trust my friends who have bad intentions and are not sincere enough, because that will only hurt me." Therefore, on the premise of not offending friends, this person divides his friends into categories, including "friends with necks", "heart-to-heart", "businessable affairs", "friends of wine and meat", "nodding friends", "keeping a distance", etc., and he decides the intimacy of the relationship with the other party according to these categories.

We have to say that this person is very smart, because each of us can not only associate with people of noble character, if we can assign a correct category to friends, not only can we avoid unnecessary harm to ourselves, save the energy of human relations, but also maximize the energy of friends.

The category of friends is naturally not divided from the beginning, but is slowly differentiated according to the quality of friends, the degree of intimacy, the distance of feelings, and the distribution of interests in the interaction with friends.

Of course, we advocate treating friends with sincerity and not deceiving, but we should be careful about everything. For a deep friend, we can share everything about you with him; For friends who can't make deep friends, it's fine to maintain basic politeness.

No matter how wise and rich the other person is, he must first be a "good person" to have a deep friendship, that is, the other party's motive for being friends with you must be pure. There was once the chairman of a company, when he talked about his entrepreneurial history, he said with deep feelings: Back then, I started a business with a buddy, and the buddy spoke boldly and did things neatly, but in the end, when the company's efficiency was not good, he immediately set up another door, took away all the customers, and several capable employees were also taken away by him. At this time, I was with a big brother who was usually very silent, and he patiently guided me and helped me on the side, until I rebuilt the company, he said that he was old, he couldn't do anything, and he didn't ask for anything, so he went back to his hometown. Before leaving, the chairman held a banquet to thank him, and he said: The reason why I help you like this is that I want to help you because I see that you are an honest young man. It's really a tribulation to see the truth. Classifying friends is to distinguish and divide friends from bad friends in communication. You can't be like a business card, with manager-level ones put together and deputy manager-level ones put together. If you divide it like this, it will seem too snobbish, and I believe that no one wants to be friends with someone like you.

The big brother in the above example decided to stay and help him on the grounds that "you are an honest young man", and you don't divide him into your friends with such friends, so what are you waiting for?

We need to make more friends like the "big brother" in the example, whether you are poor or prosperous, they will always help you. If you can use these friends as meridians, then you can weave a strong and stable network of people that extend in all directions.