"The moon is cloudy and sunny, and people have blessings and misfortunes", everyone will have a time when they are sick and hospitalized. When a family member, friend, or boss or colleague is sick, we must not pretend to be deaf and dumb, but must seize the opportunity to show love to them. This is very beneficial for the patient to maintain a good attitude and recover sooner; At the same time, it is also conducive to promoting everyone's harmony and smoothly carrying out future work.

●Do not touch the patient's pain

When visiting a seriously ill person, it is not necessary to talk too much about the condition, and the conversation should not touch the patient's most uncomfortable symptoms, so as not to upset the patient. If the other party is already carrying the mental burden of illness, if you talk too much about the illness, it will inevitably make the burden worse. When you see a patient's haggard face, you can't be surprised and ask, "Why is your face so ugly?" Instead, say, "The medical conditions here are good, and your illness will get better soon." ”

A better way to talk during a visit is to first briefly ask about the patient's condition, and then talk more about the lively and interesting news in the society to divert the person's attention and reduce the mental burden. Staying in the hospital room for a long time, this new news was exactly what he longed to know. If you can talk about the happy events and good news related to the other party as much as possible, so that he is in good spirits, his heart is wide and fat, it will be more conducive to his early recovery.

● Talk a lot about pleasant things

Try to talk about words and things that make the patient feel happy and comforting. The purpose of comforting the patient is to relax and recover as soon as possible, so it is important not to bring in news that may increase his anxiety and anxiety, and to avoid talking about topics that may irritate the other person or the other person's taboos. However, in general, the patient should always tell the patient about his illness and feelings, and at this time, he should listen carefully and find some factors that are beneficial to the patient, so that he can take over the topic and comfort the patient. For example, if a patient has said that he has a good appetite, the visitor can use the topic to "play" and talk more about the importance of a good appetite in overcoming the disease, so that the patient can agree that this is a favorable condition, so as to increase the confidence to overcome the disease.

●Talking about the meaning of illness from the opposite side

When people are sick, there is no positive meaning in any way of speaking. However, in order to reassure the patient, we can completely change the perspective, focus on the process of life, and give some value and meaning to the illness, so that the patient can feel that although the body is consumed and the work is delayed, the patient can still gain some special experiences or abilities, so as to have a sense of compensation mentally. Of course, before that, it is best to emphasize the improvement of the patient's condition, so that he has a psychological basis for deep thinking.

For example, when a person goes to visit a friend, he reassures him by saying that he does not ask about his condition or how to treat it, "It seems that your dangerous period has passed, and this is fine." In the future, you will have one more immune function, which will add a barrier compared to us, and this disease may not bother you again! "Visitors have a unique view of the other side of what it means to be sick. He first pointed out that the patient's dangerous period had passed, which made the patient feel a little relieved, and then emphasized that although being sick is not a good thing, it gives the patient an advantage that no one else has: he has developed immunity to the disease and will not get it again in the future. When the patient heard him say this, he naturally received some kind of compensation psychologically, and his mood was much better.

●Emphasize the patient's other strengths

Patients are tormented by the disease and are only concerned about the severity of the disease itself, but rarely consider other important factors that determine the condition and recovery. As a patient visitor, it is necessary for us to dig out the patient's strengths in other aspects, put them in a prominent and important position, and emphasize that these advantages are not possessed by other patients, so that the patient has every reason to adopt a more optimistic attitude than others. When patients recognize these strengths, they will definitely have the confidence they deserve in their recovery.

A young construction worker was injured while working at height and was in a coma. After the patient woke up in the hospital, he felt that his lower limbs did not obey the call, so he suspected that he would be disabled for life, and had the idea of suicide. A friend of the patient noticed the signs of his thinking and encouraged him in time: "You are young and strong, with strong physiological functions and strong metabolism, as long as you actively cooperate with the treatment and strengthen exercise in the future, you will definitely not be disabled." This is what the doctor said, please believe me! Just a few words of encouragement made the patient abandon the idea of suicide and enhance his confidence in treatment. In the days that followed, the patient not only actively cooperated with the treatment, but also strongly devoted himself to the recovery of physiological functions, and was discharged from the hospital after a few months. Later, he told his friend, "If you hadn't given me timely encouragement, I wouldn't have had the confidence to recover my health." ”

Here, the patient thinks that he will be crippled for life based solely on the fact that he does not obey the instructions of his lower limbs, which shows that he thinks too much about the condition and does not recognize the other influencing factors. The friend took advantage of the patient's good physical fitness, highlighted that he tried his best to convince him that he would not be crippled, and emphasized that this was what the doctor said, and as a result, the patient regained confidence in recovery.

●Make optimistic estimates from subtle changes in the patient

When sick, due to the pain of the disease, the patient often has deep worries about the illness, and if the lack of timely guidance may lead to the breeding of pessimism, and adopt a negative attitude towards treatment. When visiting patients, we may wish to grasp the subtle changes in the patient's body, emphasizing that this change means that the condition is slowly improving, indicating that there is great hope for recovery. When we say this, we can pretend to be casual, and the more we do this, the more we can convince the patient that it is true and make an optimistic assessment of their condition.

A patient with jaundice hepatitis was hospitalized for a period of time, and he always thought that his disease was not improving, and he became pessimistic and lost confidence in treatment. At this time, a friend came to visit and hinted: "Your face is much better than before, and the doctor said that your jaundice index has decreased, which means that your condition is improving!" This suggestive language lifted the patient's spirits and gave him an optimistic acceptance of treatment. Soon after, he recovered and was discharged from the hospital.

The visitor catches the change in the patient's face, suggests that the patient's condition is "much better than before", and then quotes the doctor to prove it, so that the patient naturally believes it. In fact, it doesn't matter whether the patient's face is really much better, what is important is to cheer him up, pluck up courage and strengthen confidence.

●Advise patients to recuperate with peace of mind

When people get sick, their normal study, work, and life are forced to be interrupted, and they have to temporarily isolate themselves from the outside world and live a boring life accompanied by illness. Anyone who is sick will probably feel irritable and anxious, especially some people who are anxious, and they are eager to recover immediately and make up for the lost time. For such patients, it is very necessary to tell a story or an analogy to make them realize the truth that "one mind cannot be used for two purposes". Only when the patient understands this truth can he realize that his anxiety is not only unhelpful but harmful, so that he can recuperate with peace of mind. Here's an example of this:

Liu Ming, a high school student at a certain school, faced the final exam due to the fierce competition in the class, but he suddenly exhausted his body and was admitted to the hospital, losing more than a dozen pounds of weight. During his hospitalization, he was always thinking about his studies, for fear that he would fall behind because he missed his homework, which would aggravate his condition. His friend Wang Dong came to visit him, and when he learned about Liu Ming's situation, he said to him, "I want you to imagine your life as an hourglass." Do you know? In the upper half of the hourglass, there are thousands of grains of sand. However, there is never a way for more than two grains of sand to flow through a narrow leaky pipe at the same time. Each of us is like this hourglass. There are many things to do every day, and if we do them one by one, like sand passing through an hourglass grain by grain, then we can both get things done and keep our bodies from being damaged. On the contrary, if you are recuperating from illness while still thinking about memorizing texts and doing exercises, then you will not be able to do well in grades and not be able to recover from illness, and there will be only disadvantages and no benefits, right? ”

Wang Dong used the hourglass as an analogy to tell Liu Ming the truth of "one mind cannot be used for two purposes", which is vivid and inspiring. Liu Ming understood this truth and realized that only by recuperating with peace of mind can he make up for the lost homework and really do a good job in studying, so he will no longer be anxious, and his body will recover quickly.

●Take care to keep the caliber consistent

For patients, especially those with serious diseases, when visiting, they should not only respect the doctor's instructions and the wishes of the patient's family, and be tight-lipped, but also be casual in front of the patient, and even talk and laugh with him, and appear relaxed and happy. Patients are generally very attentive to the actions of their relatives and friends, so it is necessary to advise the patient's family members to be good at controlling their feelings, especially in front of critically ill patients, never to show their sadness, and to behave calmly. It is also important to note that when patients have any treatment requirements, they should be accommodated as much as possible. The things entrusted to the patient must be done in every possible way. When saying goodbye to the patient, convey the greetings and best wishes of other relatives and friends to the patient, and say that they will definitely visit the patient next time, so that the patient is full of hope and confidence.

●Language taboos when visiting patients

When visiting a sick person, there are some things that must not be said. We must pay attention to the linguistic taboo in this regard, so as not to step into a minefield.

For example, if you look at a patient who is suspected of having cancer, you can't just say to him, "You are said to have cancer, is it true?" Although this cannot be said, there are many people who take a similar view. For example, when you learn the name and illness of the other person, you can say, "I heard that you have a bad heart, what a difficult disease!" Or, "Yo! You're so hot, I heard it's a red flag! Be careful! "Wait.

If you've ever visited a patient, it's easy for you to understand the fact that the people around you don't necessarily tell him the truth. Because the patient's feelings are fragile, the mind is not strong enough. At this time, if you are thinking about the patient everywhere, then you should not tell him the whole truth, you should change the name of the disease and the condition a little, and then tell him easily, and never tell him the information you heard from the doctor or others.

Sometimes, the patient will barely brace himself up to greet you. At this time, you must not "show the wrong feelings" and say, "Hey! Do you look more energetic than I thought you would! "This is really the most heartless statement.

After thinking about it, when you go to visit the patient, as long as the other person does not speak, it is better not to talk too much. You just have to say, "How do you feel?" What is your physical condition? Or "Please take care of ......" without saying a lot of superfluous words.

Another example is that "the year is cold, please take care of ......" and other sayings, which will also cause some people to be unhappy. Especially for the elderly, there are many people who don't like to hear the word "twilight". This is something to be aware of.