Life is an irreversible and repetitive process, in order to improve people's social value and make life more meaningful, we must be good at knowing ourselves, controlling ourselves, so that personal development and social progress are coordinated and matched. Spiritual ascension comes from constantly thinking, knowing, experiencing, and adjusting, and determines how you want to live in the world, just as you put a mirror in front of you, what you see is what you choose and want to express.

The word "self-knowledge" is familiar to friends, that is, people's understanding of themselves. People often say that "the most important thing is to have self-knowledge", and the word "expensive" is enough to see how difficult it is to know oneself; Another word "Ming" shows how wise self-knowledge is. In fact, most of us are unconscious, which is like "not seeing eyelashes" - the human eye can see things a hundred feet away, but cannot see their own eyelashes, or it can be said that "I don't know the true face of Lushan, only because I am in this mountain".

In fact, we don't need to whitewash ourselves too much, people don't know it, in the final analysis, it's too self-conscious and too subjective. Yes, we all think that we are good, and we like to hear others praise us, but we will instinctively cover up our own flaws, and we will instinctively reject the criticism of others. As a result, as time goes by, our eyes in our hearts become dusty, and we will become more and more unable to see ourselves.

The most common manifestation of unself-awareness is narcissism, just like some of us always feel that we are all good, how to look at it and how pleasing to the eye, as the Tang Dynasty Zheng Gu said - "Whoever in the world is willing to know himself, must be judged by the best of the eye." If you teach your grandmother-in-law to be in the mirror, you will not work hard. "Who is my mother-in-law? The wife of the Yellow Emperor is virtuous and virtuous, but her appearance is really not flattering, Zheng Gu uses this as a metaphor, but the narcissistic posture of the world is vividly depicted.

There are some people in life who are self-righteous, self-righteous, and complacent...... When you hear a little compliment, you think you're perfect; With a few achievements, I thought I could do anything; With a bit of fame, he began to look at no one...... It is undeniable that there are such people among us, whether you have reached this point or not, at least, we should sound a warning bell in our hearts to not let ourselves fall into the trap of "not knowing".

I once saw such a fable, which is very revealing, and we will share it with all of us: a goat suddenly came out of the fence, and it wanted to eat the cabbage in the garden, but the gap was too small for it to enter. At this moment, it inadvertently caught a glimpse of its own shadow, which appeared long and long under the oblique rays of the sun......

"Why do I have to eat this cabbage when I am so tall? I can go and eat from the tree. ”

The little goat ran to an orchard in the distance, and before it reached its destination, it was nearly noon, and the sun shone on its head, and its shadow shrank into a very small ball.

"Alas, I'm so short, it seems that I can't eat the fruit, so I might as well go back and eat cabbage." But after a few moments, it turned sad to joy, "I'm so slim now, it won't be a problem to get into the fence!" ”

By the time we got back outside the fence, the sun had turned west, and the shadow of the little goat was stretched again.

"Why should I come back? I'm not shorter than a giraffe, and eating the fruit of the tree is effortless! ”

In this way, the baby goats went back and forth between the orchard and the fence, still hungry until dark...... In fact, many times we are really like this little goat, our consciousness will always be affected by different circumstances, so we lose our accurate judgment of ourselves, so that the "I" in our hearts will tempt us to make a lot of wrong moves. If we really want to have an objective and fair understanding of ourselves, then we must change our perspective and jump out of the strange circle of "self", just like looking in the mirror, not only looking at the front, but also looking at the negative, and even make an objective evaluation of our height, weight, beauty and ugliness.

A person can only make accurate judgments about things if he looks at himself objectively. On the other hand, if we deviate from the basic facts, evaluate ourselves too high or too low, and establish an unrealistic position for ourselves, we can only repeat the wrong choices and end up eating the bitter fruits.

It can also be said that we all have a scale in our hearts, and if we weigh ourselves, it is easy to feel inferior; If you weigh yourself, you will inevitably be conceited. Only when we are properly called, can we recognize ourselves realistically, know our own catties, and give ourselves an accurate positioning. However, the fact is that we weigh it when we weigh it sometimes, but we weigh it more often, so we can't help but be a little ignorant of the severity, which brings a lot of unnecessary embarrassment and pain to ourselves.

Obviously, we must be self-aware, know what kind of person we are, know our strengths and weaknesses, know what we are suitable for and what path we should take, only in this way can we find our own social positioning and not be confused. Otherwise, even if we are a treasure ourselves, if we misplace it, it will be no different from waste. Mark Twain, a great American writer, made this mistake. When he was young, like many of us, he dreamed of making a fortune every day, and he was bent on making a fortune on capital investment. But in fact, this man has a literary mind but no economic acumen, so he loses badly. It wasn't until he was 58 years old that the impoverished Mark Twain recognized himself and began to devote himself to writing. And guess what? It took him only 3 years to pay off all his debts and eventually become a world-famous writer. This really doesn't convince you. No matter how talented a person is, if he can't recognize himself clearly and can't find a suitable place for himself to play, he is doomed to have no chance of success.

Nowadays, standing in a chaotic and complex world, the future is bleak, sometimes we are inevitably panicked, for the multiple choice questions that life throws at us, if we want to choose a correct answer, we must first form a correct understanding of ourselves, and correct our deviation from the goal and action steps in time, only in this way can we avoid detours.

Recognizing ourselves is an essential spiritual exercise. In this way, we will be able to release the maximum energy, or in other words, we will be able to get closer to success.