Is it too high an expectation of life?
The journey of life is not far away, and there are not many days to come, power and power, fame and fortune...... All of them are passing clouds, and only indifference is the eternity of life.
Life needs simplicity to precipitate. Jump out of the busy circle, throw away the high expectations, go into your own heart, experience life seriously, enjoy life, you will find that life is simple and fun. A simple life is not a busy life, nor is it a life of poverty, it is just a way not to let yourself get lost. As a result, you can leave behind the complicated and meaningless life and devote yourself to your life, experiencing the passion and supremacy of life. Chen Qing and his wife, Wu Li, used to work in the same state-owned unit, and both husband and wife had a stable income. Every holiday, the couple will take their 5-year-old daughter Yaya to the amusement park to play ball, or go to the museum to see exhibitions, and the family of three is happy. Later, after being introduced, Chen Qing jumped ship to a foreign company, and soon, with the mobilization of her husband, Wu Li also left her job and went to a foreign-funded company.
With their outstanding performance, Chen Qing and Wu Li have become the backbone of their respective companies. The couple worked hard during the day, and sometimes they had to take their work home when they were too busy. My 5-year-old daughter was sent to a boarding kindergarten. Wu Li feels that since she and her husband jumped to a decent and beautiful foreign company, this home has a bit of a hotel taste. The child comes back once a week, and sometimes she has to go on a business trip, so it is difficult to see the child. Unknowingly, the child graduated from kindergarten, and at the graduation ceremony, she saw her daughter performing a show, and she didn't recognize this sensible but poor child. The child has learned so much from the teacher, but in the garden of family affection, she is like a lonely little flower. Frequent overtime encroaches on the time spent with her daughter on weekends, so that the daughter she usually loves the most seems a little strange in her eyes. All this made Wu Li fall into a kind of confusion and uneasiness. Do you, like Wu Li, often find yourself inexplicably caught in a state of uneasiness, but unable to find a reasonable reason? In the face of life, our hearts will send out a faint call, only by avoiding the noise of the outside, listening quietly and listening to it, you will make the right choice, otherwise, you will be lost in the rush and noise of life, and you will not find your true self.
Some high expectations don't actually bring you happiness, but they have always controlled our lives: having a spacious and luxurious apartment; a happy marriage; Let children enjoy the best education and become the most productive people; Work hard to achieve a higher social status; Able to buy high-end goods and wear expensive fashions; Keep up with the trend of fashion and never fall behind...... If you want to live a simple life, it's important to change these high expectations. A life of affluence and luxury comes at a great cost, and it does not bring happiness to the people. If we reduce our need for material things and change this luxurious lifestyle, we will save more time to enrich ourselves. A leisurely life will make people more confident and resolute, cherish the emotions between people, and improve the quality of life. Happiness, joy, and ease are the goals pursued in simple life. This kind of life can make people realize the true meaning of life.
The same is true of love that happens between people.
There is a kind of love that burns like a fire, and the brilliant light that radiates in an instant can quickly melt two hearts; There is also a kind of love like a spring rain, quietly moistening each other's hearts. The former is intense but short-lived, the latter is bland but long-lasting. In fact, the normal state of life is happiness in the ordinary, and the life after love is dull is simple but very warm.
Love does not lie in the throbbing of the moment, but in the common touching and waiting. There is a middle-aged couple who are 9-to-5 office workers. Every morning, the husband carries his bicycle downstairs, and his wife carries a bag, a men's briefcase in one hand and a women's bag in the other. After walking out of the staircase, the husband put down the bicycle, took the two bags from his wife's hand, put them in the basket, and then carefully adjusted the bell and brakes; Then he turned around and let his wife sit firmly in the back seat of the car, and finally stepped into the car and kicked hard, and the car carried them forward smoothly.
The gentleman never forgot to look back at his wife, and saw her sitting happily in the back seat of the car like a little princess, her hands gracefully wrapped around her husband's waist, and her face was full of satisfaction. The gentleman's gestures show his love for his wife, and the happiness on his wife's face is also the best reward for her husband.
For decades, countless dawns and twilight, they have lived so peacefully. The years have left wrinkles on their faces, but their hearts are still young, as if they are still young boys and girls in love. Although the love of a man on a bicycle for his wife is not extravagant, it is the most simple, the most real, the most intimate, it is subtle and long-lasting, like the spring rain in March sprinkled on his wife's heart. This is the love of the heavens, and there is no need to deliberately pursue any vigorous feelings; In the bits and pieces of life, there is a tacit understanding of "holding the hand of the son and growing old with the son". The love of the long stream of water, like a spring breeze, is gentle and soft, and it is warm and intoxicating.
The dazzling fireworks are beautiful, but after that moment of blooming, there is no longer any trace of opening. It is the taste of the ordinary situation that is worth savoring, because that is the real taste of life.