Life is fair, if you want to live casually, maybe you can only live an ordinary life; If you want to live a glorious life, maybe you can only live a harder life; If you want to live longer, maybe you can only live a simpler life.

Success is the goal of our life, but on the road of life, the only criterion for measuring success or failure is not only the result. And we should also consider what kind of price we pay for staring at this "success", whether the gains outweigh the losses, or the losses outweigh the gains. An astronomer goes out every night to observe the stars.

One night, while walking slowly on the outskirts of the city, he accidentally fell into a dry well. He cried out for help.

It happened that a passing monk heard it and hurried over to save him. When the monk saw the astronomer's embarrassment, he couldn't help but sigh: "Donor, why do you only care about exploring the mysteries of the heavens, why do you even turn a blind eye to the ordinary things in front of you?" ”

The astronomer said, "For me, it is my dream to explore the mysteries of heaven and it is a sign of success in my life." The monk only shook his head helplessly. The definition of success should be said to be the opinion of the benevolent, and the wisdom of the wise. Some people think that success is achieved by having a lot of money, but wealth often has nothing to do with happiness. Robert Frank, a professor of economics at Cornell University in New York, said that although wealth can bring happiness to people, it does not mean that the more wealth people have, the happier they are. Once the basic needs of human survival have been satisfied, each increase in the amount of money no longer has any special meaning for happiness itself, in other words, at this stage, money cannot be converted into happiness and joy.

If a person neglects family affection, loses friendship, and gives up the enjoyment of other beautiful aspects of life in the process of desperately pursuing money, even if he becomes a billionaire in the end, won't it be difficult to get rid of the entanglement of loneliness and confusion? So it is not money that determines our desires and needs, but our desires and needs that determine what money and status mean to us. What if you are a thousand times richer than Tao Yuanming, can you get his share of "picking chrysanthemums under the east fence and leisurely seeing Nanshan"? In New Jersey, USA, a famous veterinarian named Molly advises people to learn from animals. Using birds as an example, she said, "Birds know how to enjoy life. Even the busiest birds often stop on the branches to sing. Of course, it may be that the male is courting or the female is responding, but I believe that most of the time they sing for the presence of life and the joy of being alive. However, human beings, as the primates of all things, may not be able to have such open-mindedness in their attitude towards life, and some people cannot achieve such a state in their entire lives. Some people think that if you get money, you will be happy, what a ridiculous idea! It can be seen that they do not know that money and happiness are not necessarily linked. Money does not necessarily lead to happiness, but there are many examples of unhappiness caused by money.

Others believe that only having a reputation means success. As everyone knows, fame and fortune are just passing clouds, and the glory of life is hidden in the bits and pieces of ordinary life. Some people think that being powerful is success, and some people think that being outstanding is success, and mediocrity means failure, but the reality of life is often that some people look ordinary and live a really good life. Alex McCross, a professor of political science at Columbia University, has found that people who are down-to-earth and realistic tend to be much happier than those who are ambitious.

In fact, no one will live as good as nothing, and no one will be able to live without regrets. One doesn't have to care too much about one's ordinariness, which can make life more real; A person doesn't have to care too much about what the future holds, as long as we work hard, the future will not let us down; A person does not have to care too much about how others see him, as long as he is upright, others will definitely respect us; A person doesn't have to care too much about gains and losses, life is originally hovering between gains and losses.

If a person wants to live a happy life, he must learn to adjust his goals according to his actual situation and appropriately suppress the desires in his heart. Don't be depressed because of your mediocrity, in life, wisdom and happiness are not related, but "smart but mistaken by smart", "stupid people have stupid blessings" examples are everywhere.

Many people live carefree when they are young, although they have no money, no fame, no status, but they are really happy, they don't have to think about anything, they just do what they like to do. But when they began to pursue the various things that everyone longed for and the legend could bring them happiness, they gradually found that they had to give up the things they loved to do, and what they got did not bring them much happiness, but brought them burden, so that they could not pursue other things, and they could not easily face their true dreams. At this time, they often ask themselves over and over again in agony: "Why do I get what I don't want, and I always don't get what I want?" ”

In fact, in a sense, in life, a man's greatest achievement is to have a good wife, a woman's greatest success is to have a good child, and a child's greatest success is to be able to grow up mentally and physically healthy. This is the most down-to-earth life.