Being an emotional person does not mean that everything is based on feelings and follows feelings. But it is also true that "only care about what you once had, don't care about how long it lasts", has become a mantra for many people, we have no right to interfere in other people's lives, marriage and divorce are normal, but there are many couples who have been together for a hundred years and love each other. Is there really no friction between them? Of course not, but that they are able to give in sensibly when they have an argument between them.

Marx and Yanni have a particularly good relationship. Marx liked to "nibble on books" the most, while Yanni liked "sewing"; Marx liked fiery red, while Yanni loved azure. It seems that there are big differences between the two of them, but they tolerate each other and understand each other, so they are sweet and affectionate. Song Dynasty lyricist Li Qingzhao is very active, her husband Zhao Mingcheng is happy and quiet, Li Qingzhao likes to play chess, and stipulates that if he loses chess, he must fill in the words, Zhao Mingcheng's chess skills are not high, and the words are not as good as his wife, but for the sake of his wife, he still rationally gives in and tolerates, and always accompanies him enthusiastically. Whenever it snows heavily, Li Qingzhao "wears a hat and a cape" to find poems and sentences, and "must invite his husband to make peace", which is undoubtedly a chore for Zhao Mingcheng, but he can always accompany him, naturally, Zhao Mingcheng is a goldsmith and is also obsessed with the stone of the square inch, Li Qingzhao can also restrain himself not to disturb him. As both parties give in to each other and adapt to each other's interests and hobbies, their relationship endures and endures.

On the contrary, if you don't give in, there will be discord between husband and wife, and then there will be contradictions, even quarrels, and in serious cases, it will cause emotional breakdown.

There is such a couple, the husband is a secondary school teacher and the wife is a designer. In addition to grading homework, her husband also likes to read and do a little amateur creation; After work, my wife likes to listen to music, dance, watch movies, and raise flowers. When she first got married, every holiday, the wife often asked her husband to accompany her to the movies and dances, and the husband had to accompany her against his will. After a long time, I feel that this is equivalent to wasting my time, so I would rather read at home than haunt those places often. Sometimes the husband reads good poems and novels and thinks that they are wonderful, so he invites his wife to enjoy them, but the wife is indifferent, and sometimes she seems to be listening, but in fact she is absent-minded, and the husband also finds it boring to talk to himself. The husband said that reading can increase knowledge and make people wise, and the wife said that listening to music and dancing can obtain spiritual enjoyment and cultivate sentiment; The wife complains that her husband does not understand life, and the husband accuses his wife of eating all day long and greedy for pleasure. Sometimes the husband struggles with ideas under the lamp, while the wife invites a group of men and women to turn on the tape recorder and dance "boom, boom. In a small hut, husband and wife often have conflicts over space and time, and as time goes by, the conflicts become more and more intense.

In your daily life and work, giving in sensibly can not only help others fulfill their wishes and provide convenience for others, but in turn, others will try to provide convenience for you, help you, and cooperate with you.

The British naturalist Charles Darwin had already formed an evolutionary view in 1839 and wrote manuscripts one after another, but he did not rush to print and distribute the table, but continued to verify the material and supplement the arguments.

This process takes up to 20 years.

In the early summer of 1858, just as Darwin was preparing to publish his findings, he suddenly received a paper entitled "The Tendency of Variants to Leave Their Original Patterns Indefinitely" by Wallace, another British naturalist who had been engaged in research in the Malay Archipelago, the same content as Darwin's research was preparing to be published out of manuscript.

On this important question of who was the founder of evolution, Darwin was ready to give up his work and give all the rights to Wallace, who wrote to Dr. Ryle, a British natural scientist: "I would rather burn my whole book than to think that Wallace or others think that I am a philistine in my dealings with people." ”

Ryle, who was well aware of Darwin's research, strongly disagreed with Darwin's actions. At his insistence and persuasion, Darwin agreed to send his original outline and Wallace's paper to the "Linnaean Society" and read them out at the same time.

Wallace learned that Darwin had made this scientific discovery 20 years before him, and he said with emotion: "Darwin was a patient and painstaking researcher, diligently gathering evidence to prove the truth he had discovered." He declared: "This discovery should have been attributed to Darwin alone, and by chance I was given a place." ”

Darwin did not lose anything by his comity, on the contrary, in addition to his scientific achievements, he won widespread praise for his morality. It seems simple to make a step, but it is so difficult to implement it in life. Only a person who understands the essence of being a human being can do it easily, and it is this kind of person who can become a winner in life.