People who are proactive will infect others with the same emotions, and if they can make this positive attitude encourage and drive others, they can play a greater role with this positivity. In fact, it's a more effective way to get things done.

The dog trainer of the circus, when the dog shows a slight improvement, will gently pat it, praise it, and give it meat to eat, as if he was being commended for doing a great thing. This is nothing new, and has been practiced by animal trainers for hundreds of years. It's puzzling that when we want to change a person, why don't we change the dog's approach? Why not replace the whip with meat? Why not encourage instead of crackdown? Even small improvements, if given praise, motivate others to keep going.

Even for prisoners in prison, it is valuable to praise the slightest improvement. One prison warden said: "I have found that just the right amount of recognition for the efforts of the offenders is more likely to win their positive cooperation than sharp criticism and punishment, and it is also a great way to promote their change of personality." ”

A kid who works in a factory really wants to be a singer, but his mentor gives him a slap in the face. "You are not fit to sing," he said, "you don't have a good voice, and you sing like the cold wind on a rainy night." But his mother didn't think so. This is a great mother who is poor but can inspire her children. She was sure that he could sing, and she could already see that he had this talent. She doesn't buy shoes on weekdays in order to save money to pay for her children's music tuition.

The farmer's mother's praise and encouragement changed her child's life, and the child later became a famous singer.

Many years ago, there was a young man in England who had always wanted to be a writer, but God liked to play tricks on people. His father was arrested and imprisoned for not being able to pay his debts. He had only been in school for four years and often suffered from hunger. Eventually, he got a job labeling black oil bottles in a rat-infested warehouse. At night he slept in a dimly dilapidated old building, with two street children from the slums of London. At first, he lacked confidence in his ability to write, so he often ran out quietly in the dead of night to send his manuscripts out so that people would not laugh at him and be rejected one by one. Finally waiting for the great day, one of his articles was published. Although he didn't get a penny for his manuscript payment, an editor praised him. He was so excited about it that he spent a day wandering aimlessly through the streets, and he burst into tears.

The praise and affirmation received from the acceptance of a work changed the fate of his life. Without that encouragement, he might have spent the rest of his life working in rat-infested factories, and we might never have known his famous name, which was Dickens.

If you can inspire the people you reach and realize the potential they have, you can really change them.

There is an American child who works as a clerk in a cloth shop. He had to get up at five o'clock in the morning, clean, and work like a slave for 14 hours a day, which was hard labor, and he didn't like it very much. This went on for two years, and at last he could not bear it any longer, so he got up one morning, without breakfast, and walked 15 miles to consult with his mother, who was a housekeeper in someone else's house.

He went berserk, begged her, cried and swore that if he had to remain in the cloth shop, he would kill himself. He also wrote a long, miserable letter to his old headmaster, saying that he was exhausted and did not want to live. His old headmaster gave him some comfort, and encouraged him that he was a very bright boy who was fit to do better, and then the old headmaster managed to make him a teacher.

The principal's encouragement changed that child's future and left a bright mark in the history of English literature. Because the boy has since studied hard and written 77 books, and has earned more than a million pounds with his pen. He is Wells.

We all have incredible powers, but we don't use them; One of these powers that we don't have to apply is to praise others, inspire them, and discover the amazing potential they may have.

So, if you're trying to convince others, if you want to enlist their help to do something beautifully, if you want to be a popular person, it's best to completely abandon the old ways of criticizing, scolding, intimidating, and so on that are unpleasant for both parties, and instead praise and motivate.