If you are humble, you can't be domineering, at least, you have to give others the right to speak when they speak.

When it comes to giving people the right to speak, the best example is the quote of a politician in the West: "I don't agree with you, but I will defend your right to speak with my life". Criticism is a rational way of engagement, not the prerogative of a few. Everyone has a voice before the truth. It is precisely because there are different opinions that there is no dictatorship in this world. You can disagree with other people's opinions, but you can't deprive them of their right to speak, that's the bare minimum principle. In the same way, you can criticize others for their mistakes, but you have to give them the opportunity to explain, but many people can't do that.

Once upon a time, there was a famous mountain with beautiful scenery, clear spring water, and lush fruit trees. A pair of doves nested on the top of a big tree, and life was quite quiet.

In the peaceful life, the male dove worked hard to collect delicious fruits and bring them back to the nest, and the love nest of the young couple was finally full of fruits. The male dove, who was prepared for danger in times of peace, told his wife: "Don't use the fruit stored at home for now, and now you can find other food enough to support yourself outside and fill your stomach." There are unforeseen circumstances, once you encounter wind and rain, food is rare, and you can live on the fruits of savings. "The virtuous wife is good and carefree, and she has no worries about her husband's diligence and family. As the days passed, the delicious fruits in the nest were gradually dehydrated and dried out by the wind and sun, and the original amount of the nest was reduced a lot. The unknown male dove blamed his wife: "I have long confessed that you should not eat these fruits, why did you eat them alone?" "I didn't!" The wife replied. "Before, the whole nest was full of fruits, but now there are fewer of them, and there is no food? Where did that go? The gentleman scolded in disbelief. I don't know why it's missing? The wife replied. The two of them quarreled endlessly, and suddenly, the male dove was angry and pecked the top of the female dove's head with his beak, and the female dove died!

The lonely male dove was sad to stay by the nest alone, and suddenly it rained heavily, and the dry fruit absorbed water and filled the nest again. The dove thought to himself, "The fruit is full again, and it is clear that she did not eat it." He confessed to his wife: "Lovely wife, come back to life quickly, the fruit in the nest is really not your food, I should have believed you, everything is my fault, wife, you forgive me, everything is my fault......" However, it was too late.

This may be a fairy tale or an allegory, but we can see from it that many people think in their own way of thinking about others, without giving others the opportunity to explain, and without allowing others to easily challenge their authority. As a result, when the truth was revealed, there was no regret.

There was an article in a certain magazine, which went something like this:

Lao Wang just wanted to sit on a desk, but the glass suddenly broke. Before the director came in, he opened his mouth to reprimand him severely, saying that such a big person as Lao Wang didn't even understand the basic care of public property. Lao Wang couldn't insert a word, and after thinking about it, he decided to replace the bad one with the good glass on his desk, and glue the bad one on his desk. On Monday, when the director inspected the hygiene, he found this piece of glass, and before Lao Li could open his mouth, the director reprimanded him, saying that he deliberately broke the glass, and also raised the problem to the height of Lao Wang's deliberate destruction of the unit's image. Lao Wang trembled with anger, but the director did not listen to his explanation. Two days later, Lao Wang went to the street to buy a new piece of glass, but he was reluctant to throw away the broken piece, so he carried the broken piece home after work. As soon as he walked to the gate of the unit, the director came to him, jumped out of the car with a "pout", pointed to the glass, and was angry, from the behavior of King Zhi to his thoughts, and then rose to the height of politics: "Lao Wang, you can stop coming to work tomorrow and write a review at home."

When do you have a deep understanding, when do you come to work again, there is no salary and no bonus during this time! "This is good, Lao Wang has always been honest, at that time, there were so many employees of the unit and pedestrians on the street around to watch, I was so angry that I couldn't do it, and the next day I had a headache and went to the hospital. Later, when the unit leader went to visit him, Lao Wang only trembled and wrote a sentence: "Give me the right to speak!" ”

A person who does not allow other people to speak is a conceited person, a narrow-minded manifestation of their own thinking, and in the long run, they will become more and more egoistic and extreme, which will make it more difficult for you to interact normally with other people. Think about it, not only is it not only a gentleman's demeanor to give people the right to speak, but you also have to listen carefully, and if you do that, you will definitely benefit immensely!

Giving people the right to speak is the basic requirement of being a human being, and it is also a necessary principle for doing things.