When you hold a handful of roses in your hand, have you ever observed them in detail? These roses, at first glance, look very similar. However, if you look closely, you will see that they are different. Even those who belong to the same species produce flowers that are not quite the same as each other. For example, the speed of growth, the degree of curling of petals, whether the color is uniform, etc., as long as you carefully identify, you can find that they have their own unique style.

This is true not only of the natural world, but also of human beings, and Dr. Arthur Geese is a great researcher of ancient life and folklore. He once said, "No two people's lives are exactly the same...... Everyone has their own unique life experiences. ”

Yes, everyone's life experience is unique. Although the basic elements that make up the human body are the same, each of us has a wonderful life of its own and is in no way identical to any other.

If we want to mature, we can't go independent first. In this way, you can communicate with others and build meaningful relationships.

It sounds easy, but it's hard to do. For example, we often divide others into a certain class – for example, ordinary people, upper middle class, lower middle class, mass class, low-income group, street blind class, white-collar class, blue-collar class, upper class, and so on - all of which reflect our unwillingness or inability to see others as individuals, but only as one of those groups with no characteristics, no personality, no name.

The same is true of our own situation, which is the subject of many people's categorization. Many social researchers or investigators know almost everything about us: how many drinks we drink each day, how many cars we have, what brands we have, what TV programs we like to watch, what radio stations we listen to, and so on.

This categorization usually emphasizes "positioning", "no barriers", "social mobility", etc., in order to meet our needs in judging a certain ethnic group, while completely ignoring the uniqueness of the individual. Individualism has now been destroyed and even on the verge of extinction. It is no wonder that we are now less and less aware of our own uniqueness, and do not even dare to think or act differently from others.

Of course, modern people are full of desire for knowledge of how to make themselves "unique". Regardless of the pressure that society places on us to conform to the demands of the group, deep down we still know and desire to be different from others. In order to express this desire, to release this bondage, many people are sent to the clinics of psychoanalysts or to the treatment rooms of psychotherapists. There are even many people who use alcohol and drugs to anesthetize themselves and make themselves completely depraved.

Is there any way to treat these diseases? How can we become more aware of our uniqueness? How can we get to know ourselves with a more mature attitude? Here are three suggestions:

First, take some time out of your day to be alone to learn more about yourself.

Due to the hectic and stressful nature of modern life, we rarely have time to give ourselves a chance to ponder. We must find a way to find time to face ourselves and know ourselves.

However, different people often have different ways of being alone. Some people think while walking; Some people go to the garden alone to walk and relax; Some people only sit by the window and occasionally look out the window at the blue sky or trees; Some people prefer to be alone in the ashram or self-isolated. Whatever method you use, in short, take a short time each day to come out and be undisturbed, so that you can experience yourself, your life, your beliefs, and your actions.

Second, break the shackles of bad habits.

We often wrap ourselves in the boring events of bad habits, suffocating in them without realizing it, and it takes a lot of will and determination to get rid of them. Think about how many of us repeat the same behavior every day, and as a result, life becomes sluggish, mentally invigorated, and incapable of innovation.

Third, discover what is most satisfying in life.

Exciting moments bring out who we really are, make us feel satisfied, feel the deepest, most active life, and that's what makes us excited!

A person's personality cannot be changed, but it can be revealed through certain behaviors. In order to discover our true selves—where we are different from others and where we are truly valuable—we must first untie the many human shackles of fear, intimidation, self-doubt, confusion, and rigid minds. At this time, excitement is like a torch, which can break free from the layers of shackles that bind one's self-appearance, so that the true self can be liberated.

Excitement comes in many faces, and love is one of them. There is a movie called "Marty", which is about how two monotonous and lonely people open their hearts to each other because of love and move towards a better future.

For others, excitement can also be described as an exhilarating act of work, activity, or creation. Yale University's William S.

Professor Philp has written a book called "The Joy of Teaching", in which he describes in detail how his teaching career has made him excited and happy.

Dangerous or critical moments can also be exciting, because they bring out certain personalities. Disasters such as wars, floods or earthquakes often produce heroes. Because it is in such a very exciting or challenging moment that people bring out their true selves and their latent consciousness abilities.

The process of spiritual maturity is a process of continuous self-discovery and self-exploration, unless we understand ourselves first, it is difficult for us to understand others, and self-discovery is the starting point of wisdom.