A philosopher proposed, "Instead of spending a lot of time and effort digging many shallow wells, it is better to spend the same amount of time and energy digging a deep well." ”

It is not easy for a person to recognize his own talents and find his own direction; What's even more difficult is to be able to resist the impact of the trend. Many people follow others with the crowd just because something is fashionable or popular. He forgot to measure his talents and interests, so he wasted his talents. The gain is only a momentary excitement, and the opportunity for real success is lost.

A truly independent "person" must be a person who is not gullible and blindly obedient. The integrity of one's mind cannot be destroyed. When we abandon our own position and want to evaluate something from someone else's point of view, mistakes often come unexpectedly.

We might be able to understand it this way: "Try to see things from the point of view of others, but don't lose your own point of view because of this." ”

When we are in an unfamiliar environment and have no experience to draw on, we need to constantly build confidence before we can act according to our beliefs and principles. If there is one thing that maturity can bring you, it is discovering your beliefs and having the courage to live them, no matter what the circumstances.

Time will allow us to sum up our own set of trial standards. For example, we will find that honesty is the best guide to doing things, not only because many people have taught us this, but through our own observations, groping, and thinking.

Fortunately, for society as a whole, most people agree with the basic principles of life, otherwise we would be in a state of chaos. Maintaining independence of thought and not following the crowd is difficult, at least not easy, and sometimes dangerous. In pursuit of security, people conform to their environment and often end up being slaves to their environment. However, countless facts tell people that the true freedom of human beings is won after accepting various challenges in life, through continuous pursuit, hard work, and various controversies.

If we really mature. There is no longer a need to timidly go to the shelter to adapt to the environment; We don't have to hide in the crowd and dare not show our uniqueness; We don't have to blindly follow the ideas of others, but we have our own opinions and opinions on everything.

It is not easy to hold on to an opinion that is not supported by others, or not to follow a principle that is universally supported. It does take a great deal of courage for a person to be unwilling to go with the flow and to stand up for what he believes in the face of attack.

At a social gathering, everyone in the room agreed with a certain point of view, and only one man objected. He politely didn't say a word at first, and then he smiled because someone asked him bluntly what he thought: "I would have liked you not to ask me, because I have different opinions from everyone else, and what a rare social gathering it is." But since you have asked me, I will say what I think. He then briefly stated his point, which was immediately refuted. But he stood firm and unyielding. In the end, although he did not convince others to agree with him, he gained everyone's respect. Because he stuck to his own point of view and did not become a vassal of other people's ideas.

Today, we live in an era where experts come first. As we become accustomed to relying on the authoritative opinions of these experts, we slowly lose confidence in ourselves, making it difficult to give opinions or hold on to many things.

Our current approach to education is usually based on a predetermined personality model, so it is difficult to develop independent leaders in this way of education. Since most people are followers rather than leaders, we need to be trained as leaders, but we also need to be trained on how to consciously and obligently follow leaders. In this way, people will not be like the cattle and sheep sent to the slaughterhouse, blindly following and going to the "execution ground" without knowing it.

So, it does take courage for parents who are bold enough to come up with their opinions and opinions about how their children are being educated. Because they are usually told that it is better to leave these problems to those senior experts or authorities to solve. But there are always brave people who dare to stand up and break the authoritative point of view and put forward more practical opinions and perspectives on the education of their children. There is a middle-aged man who likes to think for himself and stand by his beliefs, constantly asking questions and confronting the opinions of the general public on his own. Soon, many people admired him and elected him to be a member of the Community Education Committee. Afterward.

Not only his own children, but also many students have benefited from his advice.

There are many infant physicians who tell us how to feed, raise and care for children, and there are many early childhood psychologists who tell us how to educate children; When doing business, there are many experts who remind us how to make business prosperous; In political choices, most people also follow the opinions of certain groups; Even our private lives are often influenced by the opinions of certain so-called experts. These so-called experts observe, study, write, and then convey their opinions to the public, so that the public can digest and absorb them, and conclude that they are a panacea for the cure.

Most people in life don't understand that they are the greatest experts in the world. It's just because some "experts" say so, or because it's a fashion, you can also join in the fun and be fashionable by following along.

Indeed, the hardest thing we can ask ourselves to achieve today is, "Be yourself." "In today's society, which is full of mass products, mass media, and assembly-line education, it's hard to know yourself, and it's even harder to stay true to who you are. We often distinguish a person's characteristics by the group or class to which they belong, such as "he is a trade unionist", "she is a working woman", "he is a liberal", "he is a reactionary", and so on. Almost every one of us has a label, and we label others mercilessly, much like a child's game of "catching robbers".

Edgar Moore often used the so-called "snail condition" to warn the world, which he believed would stifle the value of the human individual. He diagnoses "this strangulation, as with the hated Nazi regime." "It shows the brutal, ugly, and authoritarian side of human nature.

Finally, he concluded: "Humans have not yet attained the realm of angels, but that is not a reason why we have to become ants.

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Only a mature mind can experience this glorious nature of human beings, and only a mature soul can experience the feeling of being "a little lower than the angels" and not "a little higher than the beasts". For all such people, blind obedience is only a refuge for the cowardly, not a reality.

It is very important for us in life to be able to have our own complete mind, to make it sacrosanct, that is, to stick to the sense of the heart, not to blindly follow, not to follow the crowd.