As the saying goes: "One fence has three piles, and one hero has three gangs", "There is great strength in numbers", "Unity is strength", "The hearts of the people are united, Mount Tai moves", which is the truth that unity produces a joint force. In modern society, the division of labor is refined, the competition is fierce, you have to complete your own career, only with the help of the power of others, good at and use other people's intelligence, ability and talent, so as to get the help of everyone, work together, overcome the goal, and achieve career success.

A successful person in Hong Kong recounted his experience;

A friend who is good at feng shui said to me: "When buying a house, you must have a wide front, not only must you have a balcony, the balcony can see far, and it is best to have a wide view in front of the door." The living room should be square, not crowded and cramped. Living in a house with this pattern, the pattern of people will also become larger. A larger pattern is easier to succeed with. ”

"Can the layout of the house really affect the pattern of people?" Someone jokingly asked: "If you live in a house with a big pattern, you will also get bigger!" ”

He actually looked serious: "Of course, if you think about it, if you stand on the balcony, you have a wide view and air circulation. Sitting in the house and walking out the door, it is a world again. The heart is wider, the capacity is larger, and of course the pattern has become larger. On the contrary, living in a cramped place, hitting the wall in the east and the wall in the west, looking out of the window, not far from the range hood. Locked in it every day, the heart is small, the heart is narrow, can the pattern be big? ”

"The problem is that houses with a good layout are often more expensive, isn't it difficult for the poor to get bigger, and it is much easier for the rich?"

"That's right! Didn't Confucius say? 'Poor without grievances, rich without arrogance. ''Rich without arrogance' is a pattern! ”

God-given mind, sure success!

We cannot agree with his specious view. However, it is also found that the "pattern" has a really important impact on people's achievements.

The poor are not unpatterned, and some seem to be born with an open pattern. There is a friend who used to be a disciple of the four walls, and since he was a child, he has the spirit of "making a wide alliance with the corporal of the world". When he was a platoon commander in the army, he cared for every colleague, so that the young soldiers in the company, after being discharged from the army, became his friends in society.

Although his salary is not much, he often treats guests, and he has the boldness of "five flowers and horses, a thousand gold qiu, and Hu'er will exchange for fine wine". His friends included all walks of life, among whom the rich wanted to befriend the famous and powerful, and the famous and powerful wanted the support of the chaebols. After his introduction, everyone was like a fish in water, so that the career development went smoothly, and when he climbed to the top and shouted, friends from all walks of life all responded.

Within a few years, he succeeded. He added: "If I succeed, my friends should not be disappointed." He shared the fruits of success with his friends, and pulled a large group of successful friends to help those who were disappointed.

He was more successful, and he seemed to be so successful that he could no longer fail, because whenever he had the slightest difficulty, a whole bunch of friends would come to his aid.

Those heroes who were born recklessly in history probably have such a pattern. This is a God-given mind, destined for a person to succeed.

Although many people are thriving and prosperous, they may not be able to improve the situation. What's even more sad is that with the development of the career, the pattern that should be wider and wider sometimes will shrink.

There is a friend who works in a company, when he first entered the society, he kept running around every day, always visiting his classmates and friends suddenly in the dark night, and left in a hurry after borrowing money.

Later, he sent it, but he didn't have a puddle. It is said that at the party, when he found a friend who might have borrowed money from him appeared, he would leave in a hurry with his back hunched back in the same posture as he had back then.

His employees have a high annual salary, and their positions are not guaranteed. Because he would rather quit the high-paid old employees and replace them with low-paid newbies. His company is doing well, but the year-end bonuses are pitiful. And it feels like an employee cutting his flesh when he gives out a bonus, treating everyone with a look that everyone owes him. He is so "petty" and "stingy", but every friend who has been to his house says "I have been to his house, so I understand him". Because he is more stingy at home, even to himself.

His wife takes the bus every day to buy groceries, and she is not allowed to take a taxi. His living room is uniquely stocked with flower pots, supposedly to cover the rug's holes. He sat down on the couch, and the protruding spring would hurt people.

This makes people think that his pattern has been so small that he has "detained" himself. What's the use of him making so much money?

Zhang Daqian often said, "Give someone a painting, especially a good one." Indeed, his good paintings are often given to dignitaries in politics and the press. It's just, think about it again, who would not praise him for his works? So the more he praised, the more red he became; The more popular it is, the more open it is, and the more money you make, and you share it with your friends. The greater his fame and the higher the price of his paintings, the more he dared to paint, and the more he dared to break through, because even if he painted splashes of ink with "high and low", everyone would still buy it.

Zhang Daqian's greatest achievement is "splashing ink (including splashing color)".

Before his death, he donated many important collections and masterpieces to the Forbidden City and the History Museum, and even donated the house to make a memorial. This can't help but make people think: Zhang Daqian's pattern is a "master's pattern", and he doesn't have too many "personal feelings", so he can get "public love".

The pattern is not to deny others in self-confidence, which is a kind of understanding and tolerance. The pattern is not "hidden from oneself" but "distributed to others".

The more proud the pattern, the more selfless. The pattern is not a "win-win", but a "win-win".

Life is like a tower. The higher you want to stack, the bigger the chassis has to be. You can't put every stone on the spire, but you have to divide some more into the base of the tower. The spire is you, and the base is the people around you.

Man is an emotional animal, he needs emotional communication all the time, he needs to get friendship, on the way to success, if you want to persevere to the end, it is not enough to rely on the support of faith, but also to have the nourishment of friendship, good interpersonal relationships will make you gain strong strength and confidence, just like Zhang Daqian, a person, even if it is a genius, can not be proficient in everything, you should learn to care, to understand, to help, and appreciate every culture, every food, every nation! You should learn to share and prosper with everyone, so that you can win the love of more people.