Shainin found that since she first replied to a fan's question in a private message a few months ago, she has been receiving private messages from different fans from all over the country from time to time, and they seem to regard her as a confidant sister, a confidant, and a guide on the road of confusion.

Shainin didn't feel annoyed, but he developed a habit every day to restore the fans' problems.

The system said that from the time she bound it and registered a live broadcast on her penguin account, whether it was her live broadcast or her private message reply, in fact, all her actions were with energy.

This kind of energy is invisible to the naked eye, but it will bring the positive and beautiful positive energy she transmits to fans across the Internet.

Therefore, every time Shainin sees fans' doubts and questions, he will think carefully and reply after consideration.

Although he has not been able to empathize, Shainin understands how important it is for a person to have personal guidance when he is confused, and it is important to work hard, but it is even more important to find the right direction in life.

Only in the right direction can we unswervingly go down, and that kind of effort will be more meaningful.

When I opened the private message, I saw a few private messages.

Xie Ning picked up the pillow and put it on his back, leaned back on the bed slightly, and began to look and reply.

I don't know how long it took, Shainin clicked on the last private message marked in red.

[Sister Xie, hello, I like to watch your live broadcast. I would venture to ask, are you good-looking? Even though you're wearing a mask when you're streaming, I think you should be good-looking. But what if I don't look good since I was a child, I'm like an ugly duckling, an ugly duckling is an ugly duckling after all, and a swan is a different species, no matter how hard I try, I can't become a swan. 】

【…… Sister Xie, I have made a lot of efforts, but why am I still so ugly in the eyes of others, in my own eyes, what do I have to do to become beautiful and make others like me, can you tell me? 】

It's a long, long private message, in which is a girl talking about her experience of becoming beautiful, but it can change, and she seems to be confused.

After reading it, Xie Ning was indeed stunned for a while.

Suddenly, the word "appearance anxiety" sounded.

Shainin would know this word, or because of Ruan Zhenzhen.

Ruan Zhenzhen had anxiety about her appearance before, and spent a lot of time on maintaining her face and figure every day, and even thought about plastic surgery.

At that time, Xie Ning was a little puzzled, Ruan Zhenzhen was actually very cute and cute, why did he still have appearance anxiety?

Ruan Zhenzhen glared at her at that time and said, "You think everyone is a great beauty like you." However, even those big beauties and handsome guys in the entertainment industry sometimes have appearance anxiety, you, you have a better mentality, and you don't pay attention to these, but many people, especially girls, really care. ”

Ruan Zhenzhen said that many girls have appearance anxiety.

I will be afraid that I will not look good enough, I will not be confident in front of the boy I like, and I will not be able to get his liking if I am not worthy.

will be afraid of their ordinary or even a little flawed appearance, attracting criticism and dislike from others.

……

Good-looking girls always seem to be easier to get preferential treatment, fat, ordinary girls with tall and handsome boyfriends will always be said toads eat swan meat, and will be sung that boys must not be true love for girls, and boys will one day abandon girls and leave.

This is indeed the reality that is now commonly seen, on the surface.

There is also the spotlight effect, whether it is society, news, or life, there always seems to be a voice, urging girls to become beautiful, you must have an A4 waist, a pointed chin......

All the voices are telling you that you have to be more beautiful.

So, appearance anxiety arises.

To be honest, Xie Ning really hasn't been anxious about her appearance, is it because she is good-looking, or is she in a good mood?

Shainin thought that it should be the latter.

In fact, when she was young, especially when she was six or seven years old, at that time, the little Shainin had not yet grown, and her family liked to feed her, which caused her to be very fat, and she was even laughed at by other children because she was too fat.

What did she think at the time?

Have you ever cried because of this? It doesn't seem to be.

I don't know if her family often praises her, kisses and hugs her, and always says in front of her: My granddaughter/daughter/sister is the best-looking.

Over time, she was a little popular at that time.

Even if I am fat, I am the best looking in the eyes of my family, and I think I am the best-looking.

At that time, she was raised by the love of her family and was a little believable, and her mentality was really good.

Looking back now, Shainin still doesn't feel that he was ugly and unsightly at that time.

Xie Ning thought, probably because of love, because of the affirmation of her family, because her family loved her, because she also loved herself who was chubby and not so good-looking at the time.

So, people will look anxious, and in the final analysis, it is a lack of affirmation and love, which comes from others and from self.

But in fact, the love and affirmation from yourself is the most important.

However, over time, we are accustomed to living in the eyes of others and in our words, but we forget that loving and affirming ourselves is more important than others loving and affirming ourselves!

However, people who live in the eyes, evaluations and words of others are too tired.

Xie Ning thought about it, considered the words, tapped the keyboard with his fingertips, and replied-

[My dear, although I don't know who you are, I'm glad that you like me, you can muster up the courage to send me a private message and tell me your experience and feelings, you have worked hard and been brave. I also hope that my next one or two small suggestions can bring you thinking and reference in another direction. 】

[I remembered a sentence I once saw: roses are beautiful, but you don't have to grow into roses, if you want, you can be a little daisy, you can be a sunflower, you can be a nameless flower on the side of a country road, you can be a thousand, be ordinary, ordinary and unique yourself. 】

[Roses are beautiful, but other flowers are equally beautiful, and it is these colorful, different colors, and different postures that create a beautiful and hopeful spring. The flowering period of each flower is different, just like everyone, their own flowering period is also different, you don't need to envy others when they bloom, just wait for your flowering period. 】

[Not everyone loves roses, even if the ugly duckling can't become a swan, but it's also unique, perhaps, in this world, there are people who like ugly ducklings, not just swans, even if no one likes ugly ducklings in the end, then ugly ducklings can like themselves. Everyone has their own unique beauty, maybe it's appearance, maybe it's temperament, maybe it's self-cultivation, maybe it's character...... What we have to do is to have a pair of eyes to discover our beauty, beauty, first for ourselves, and then for others. Just like the saying, love yourself before loving your neighbor, and please yourself before pleasing others. 】