Chapter 109: It's not her who is sick, it's you
"Have you ever felt the urge to die?"
Lu Jiu stared at Wang Mengfei and spoke softly.
As soon as these words came out, the father and daughter all stared at him with wide eyes, and there was no doubt that there was incredulity written on their faces.
Because his daughter was very resistant to her illness, Wang Dingxu did not tell Lu Jiu the specific situation at the first time, and only said that her physical condition was not good.
As a result, Lu Jiu's first sentence after taking the pulse asked her if she had any suicidal tendencies, which really surprised Wang Dingxu.
"Am I acting obviously?" Wang Mengfei regained his composure, and a pair of eyes quietly looked at Lu Jiu.
"Nope." Lu Jiu shook his head.
"And how do you see that?" Wang Mengfei asked.
"Your body told me that." Lu Jiudao.
My body?
Wang Mengfei looked at Lu Jiu strangely, "Can you tell me what it tells you?" ”
Lu Jiudao, "It tells me that you often have insomnia, you have to use drugs to control it, you don't eat well, you are restless, cranky, have memory loss, and you can't be interested in anything." ”
"It also tells me that you're stressed, you want to rest, you don't really want to have these negative emotions, but the pressure around you makes you have to do this, you've been through it for too long, so you want to walk away."
After listening to Lu Jiu's words, Wang Mengfei didn't seem surprised, but suddenly laughed.
"You're right, but it's useless, I've seen a psychiatrist, and depression can't be cured."
Lu Jiu smiled, in fact, from the moment Wang Mengfei came in, she revealed two words all over her body, resisting.
She wasn't intentionally resisting Lu Jiu, she was intentionally resisting anything, including her father.
"And what if I say you don't have depression at all?" Lu Jiu said with a smile.
"No?" Wang Mengfei frowned.
"You're just stressed, causing yourself to have some insomnia, the so-called depression is just something you take medicine to eat, it's not your own problem at all, why should you bind yourself to a disease name?" Lu Jiudao.
"Taken from medicine? Doctor, can you explain this clearly. Wang Mengfei said.
Lu Jiu clenched his hands into fists and pressed them together, "My two fists are like the old and new blood here in the heart, when the new blood replaces the old blood, my two fists will collide, the new blood will knock out the old blood, and at the same time, the new blood will also follow out, but at the moment of impact, the old and new blood will have a pause, we call it a drop of blood in the heart, that is, the heart." ”
"Similar to the collision experiment of two pendulum iron balls in junior high school physics, at the moment of impact, a ball will stop in its original place, and this pause place is the place where we work hard to nourish our minds, if this mind runs, people will have a short period of restlessness."
"Just like if you are suddenly frightened one day, the moment the blood flow in the heart is too fast, it will change this pause point, the drop of blood in the heart will run away, people will have panic, loss of mind, if this drop of blood can not return to its place for a long time, then there will be insomnia."
"Because your god is gone, and it is not in your heart at night, but in your brain, so you will think crankily when you should sleep, so that after a long time, all the internal organs will go wrong together."
"Why? Because insomnia means that you can't sleep, stay up all day, first of all, there will be anxiety, followed by emotions can not be vented, in this way, the heart, liver, kidney will have problems, followed by irregular eating caused by work and rest disorders, spleen and stomach problems, and the lungs, sad lungs, excessive insomnia and anxiety, will make your mood more and more depressed, always involuntarily worry about something, if the external environment pressure is too great, over time, the lungs will have problems. ”
"Once insomnia chooses to take drugs to control it, such as sleeping pills, then it will inhibit the function of your heart and force you to sleep, but it will not care whether your god returns to the heart, and in the long run, the heart function will deteriorate, and you will completely lose control of your mind, and the effect of sleeping pills will be reduced, and anxiety will double at this time, and then escalate, which is the so-called depression."
"If you see a doctor at this time, then the doctor will most likely prescribe some antidepressant drugs for you, but do you know what the side effects of antidepressants are? Insomnia, delirium, tachycardia, etc., then you will find that this is a closed loop of treatment, insomnia takes sleeping pills, then depression takes antidepressants, and then continues insomnia, the cycle repeats, and in the end, all patients who can't resist the harm of depression will go on a road and happily commit suicide! ”
Wang Mengfei calmly listened to Lu Jiu's story, I don't know why, she was not afraid of what Lu Jiu said, even if it was the final suicide, she even felt that what Lu Jiu described was what she experienced and wanted to execute, so that when she looked at Lu Jiu again, she suddenly felt a sense of intimacy.
Because the doctor in front of her understands her!
"Doctor Lu, it can't be so serious, I see those who have depression, and I haven't seen a few suicides, are you a little too alarmist?" Wang Dingxu couldn't accept it after listening to it.
"So how many depressed people have you met? And how much do you know about them? Do you know how painful it is when they get sick? Lu Jiu asked.
Faced with Lu Jiu's series of questions, Wang Dingxu couldn't answer them at all.
How can he have time to care about others, just his daughter, he can't manage it a little.
"But ......"
Wang Dingxu wanted to say something, but Lu Jiu changed his words, "Actually, in my opinion, it's not her who is sick, it's you." ”
"Me?" Wang Dingxu wondered.
"Her pressure from the beginning came from you, and I should be right about that." Lu Jiudao.
"I'm putting some pressure on me, no." Wang Dingxu was puzzled.
"No?" Lu Jiu looked at Wang Mengfei, "Tell me, what is your pressure?" ”
Wang Mengfei looked at her father and slowly spoke, "He always forced me to go to the big city to develop, let me see the world more, every time I called, I wanted to climb up, and I had a good relationship with my leadership colleagues, never asked me if I was tired or not, as long as I mentioned going home, he would scold me and say that I was not productive." ”
"I know that he must regret not having a son, otherwise he could have let his son do what he didn't achieve when he was young."
Wang Dingxu shook his head, "No, I never thought about it that way, never." ”
Wang Mengfei said, "But that's what you did." ”
"I ......" Wang Dingxu looked at Wang Mengfei's indifferent eyes and was speechless for a while.
Lu Jiu looked at the father and daughter and couldn't help but sigh.
Metropolis...... See the world......
Yes, how many parents are describing their dreams to their children, always hoping that they can go to the big city to see the world and become promising.
But is going to a big city just to see the world?
Appreciating artwork in the Jinling Forbidden City is your world, farmers planting crops in the fields are his world, and what you really haven't seen the world is that you accuse farmers of not understanding art, and farmers accuse you of not knowing how to farm.
Children in the city can see high-rise buildings everywhere, children in the countryside can also see the sky full of stars, the so-called world is just one side of the world, who has seen the world more than whom?
Isn't the world just about calmly accepting the strange people and things in this world?
Could it be that if you have traveled, developed in big cities, eaten delicacies from the mountains and seas, and walked in the countryside and eaten roadside stalls, you are not in the world?
The teacher never went abroad in his life, but his writings sold well all over the world and became the program of the struggle of the proletariat.
Zhuangzi never reached the universe, but he was able to create astronomical works such as Wandering Wandering, which have been passed down to future generations and remembered by hundreds of millions of Chinese people.
The gap between people is never whether they have seen the world or not, but whether they can see the world through any side of the world, see themselves and see all beings.
"Uncle, take the liberty of asking, if she wants to live according to her own ideas now, will you still interfere?" Lu Jiu asked.
Wang Dingxu was silent, he looked at Lu Jiu, and then at Wang Mengfei, for a long time, he gritted his teeth, "As long as she can be good, anything will do." ”
Lu Jiu nodded, and then looked at Wang Mengfei, "I know that simply enlightening you doesn't mean much to you, in fact, you should understand many things yourself, but I still want to say that depression, anxiety and panic are not signs of weakness, they just show that you have tried to be strong for too long." ”
"It takes enough courage to work hard in a big city, whether it is a boy or a girl, we are just ordinary people living in this world, now, you can try not to be strong, you don't have to resist everything, pretend that I am strong, live simply, try to let yourself go."
"As long as you can try to do this, then if you are physically uncomfortable, I will help you recuperate, so that your so-called depression can be completely recovered, how about it?"
In fact, it is difficult to enlighten when you have depression, there are really no symptoms when you get sick, and it doesn't even have anything to do with your mood, you are obviously very happy in the last second, and the next second you will suddenly lose for no reason, and all kinds of negative emotions will follow.
Severe people often have the feeling of suffocation, and the discomfort is not something that outsiders can empathize.
So, when you feel that you have depression, there is a high probability that it is fake, but when you are involuntarily sad and sad, or even have self-destructive emotions, then there is a high probability that it is true.
And the source of all depression is insomnia, which is more important than taking medicine.
It's a pity that with the current medical environment, no one will go to a Chinese medicine doctor if they have insomnia, and there is a high probability that they will still go to the hospital, and then enter that dead cycle.
The better ones can be suppressed by the drug all the time, but this time will not be too long, and the worse ones will choose to face death if they can't stand the long-term torment.
Lu Jiu is actually very sympathetic to this kind of people, most of them are emotionally sensitive people who always like to think about others, and they read it every day in emotional internal friction.
Because when they get along with others, they will repeatedly think about their every word, every behavior, and even every action, whether they hurt the other party at that time, and if so, how to avoid it next time.
At the same time, some unintentional slander from the other party will also make them review for a long time, and even when the other party can't remember their words and deeds, they will still be haunted.
Such a person will not take the initiative to hurt others, but such emotions will invisibly hurt themselves.
Once there is still some paranoia in the personality, then after long-term insomnia, it is very likely to become a potential patient of depression.
In the later stages, when they are tormented by the side effects of the drug, they will become manic and hysterical, but these are not their intended actions.
But in the eyes of others, they are like crazy beings.
Wang Mengfei's condition is quite stable now, at least the drug can stabilize her mood, and the side effects are not too serious.
This means that there is still treatment.
"Really...... May I? ”
(End of chapter)