The first one is to dress neatly.

You yourself must be dressed cleanly, if you don't have a good clothes, you have always been a sloppy image around your nobles, do you think there will be nobles to carry you?

No matter how capable you are, you dress every day as if you were asking for food on the street, will you appear in front of others?

This is impossible, so the first rule is to dress neatly, and you must have your own proper appearance.

I went out to eat with Mr. Pan, and I really encountered this kind of thing, and the customer said that why did the employees of our company buy Bentley instead of Rolls-Royce? This reason is very simple, because Pan Dong drives a Rolls-Royce Phantom, so let me ask you, employees drive the same car as the boss, do you think this is appropriate? What do you ask the outside boss to think of the employee's emotional intelligence, does it mean that the whole company is rich, or will you think that the employee has no emotional intelligence? Will Pan Dong expel him directly? Yes! Why? Because he is too showy and has already covered up the limelight of being his boss, so this is the real reason why the employees of our company can only drive Bentleys at the highest, BMW and Mercedes-Benz at the second, and Volkswagen or Tesla at the lowest.

That's what I mean by dressing neatly, not just dressing, but also having to cater to that rule when it comes to travel – because you're not the boss yet, you're not qualified to drive a car of the same level.

Are you in all your state, are you decent? Did you make your own boss feel comfortable?

Your impression depends on your behavior, because you want to make sure that customers or the leaders of your own company do not dislike you, you appear around others, and don't even make others feel ashamed to carry you, this is the first rule of being a person and doing things.

The second, pay yourself.

Everyone should have heard this term for the first time, what does it mean to pay yourself? A simple person can explain to you why you are paying yourself.

Did Yue Yunpeng pay himself? Have any of you seen Xiao Yueyue's interview? Is he stupid or not, stupid or not? It can be seen through the fact that the new cross talk actor came to wipe the table, and then Xiao Yue Yue went on stage to perform, and as soon as he went up, he was bombarded down, and after coming back, after two days, the new cross talk actor came to the stage to perform, and later said to Yue Yunpeng, Brother Yue, you still wipe the table. Let me tell you, Yue Yunpeng does all kinds of work, wiping the table, feeding the dogs, picking up the children, taking care of the house, decorating, and doing all kinds of work. This person is at his master's place, if he just learns cross talk with Lao Guo, do you think Yue Yunpeng can become a talent? Just learning cross talk, and not doing anything else, do you think this person will become a talent? Will it be reused by Lao Guo and them?

Including the post-95 generation like me, I want to remind you that many of the rules of the masters, now you post-95 generation will not and do not understand.

It turned out that when I was working in the company, I happened to go to human resources and met a new person. He came to our company, went to the company in the morning to fetch water, and made tea for his master in that position, which is a standard action, and he has to wash the lunch box for the master after eating, so I will ask all the book friends, what do you think is the purpose of his doing these things? It is the accomplished people who have helped you.

What does it mean to pay yourself? Just don't pick, why are you here? Have you come to the company to enjoy the blessings, or let someone with the ability teach you the real skills? There is a fundamental difference, you come to any company to learn your skills.

Find those who have the ability to teach you the real skills, you need to pay yourself, let the other party work hard to teach you all the real skills, believe it or not, during the time you learn the real skills, you are a day to ten days in use, you are a year to ten years, you can top 10,000 hours an hour, not to go around in a company, not to compete with yourself.

What is the third one? It's invisible.

What does this mean? Appear next to your leader or noble brother, don't always think about showing yourself when doing things, and don't always think about asking for merit and rewards. Don't keep thinking about what you've done, deliberately let your eldest brother know that it's not easy for you to do this.

It's the person who asks for merit and reward, do you think it's reliable? Or is it someone who does things quietly, do you think he is reliable? You just think about what kind of person you like.

People are all the same, and you know what kind of person I like the most? It is to pay everything silently, because your silent payment will be found to be the most shining thing sooner or later, so your silent payment is the wealth you have accumulated. On the contrary, he is the kind of person who shows his teeth and claws, and the desire to show a strong desire will make your effort greatly reduced, and he knows better than you how difficult it is to accomplish something.

The fourth, nodded and bowed.

Everyone should be able to understand this literally, but due to everyone's different thinking patterns, some book friends will think, how can the author tell us such flattering words?

I'm telling you, nod inwardly and bow outward.

The people who saw themselves, the henchmen of the eldest brother, nodded; When you see your noble eldest brother or someone in his family, nod; When you see a colleague in your company, you nod.

Externally, big brother's friends, big brother's customers, big brother's nobles, big brother's big brother, you have to be waisted.

Think about it, if you follow such a person by your side, will you take him out often? Will you give him a chance often? Do you think that this person is someone you are worth bringing and befriending?

Will he be looked down upon? Remember, it is okay for anyone to look down on, and the most important thing is that we use our own strength to let our family look down on ourselves first.

Because, let your own family look down on yourself, so that the real self can look down on yourself.

It's okay for anyone to look down on me, as long as I can afford to look down on myself.

If, at that time, Han Xin wondered if he would make others look down on him when he drilled his crotch, he wouldn't have drilled through, right?

As a result, we sometimes find that what we need more is to be more confident.

If, nodding internally and shutting down externally, you have thoroughly studied these two points, and you can be a little brother, then you must be the best little brother. You don't lack the slightest opportunity, your own big brother will be the one who is proud of you, so what you see is too important.

When I see that there are such people around me, they appear in front of the big boss, and in an instant the poor man's self-esteem can be broken at once, and this matter has nothing to do with self-esteem, which is called etiquette, etiquette and behaving in the world.

Fifth, the classic moment.

Combined with the fourth rule, is nodding internally and bowing externally a classic moment? The whole classic moment will change your own destiny, it will make the big brother four or two, you figure this out, you will know how to get along with the big brother, the classic moment is worth our recall, worth remembering and worth saying again and again.

What is a classic moment?

You get along with your eldest brother, and then you do a good job at something, or when others say to your eldest brother, your younger brother is very good, tomorrow I will do something, can you borrow it from me?

I ask you, is this a classic moment? To shape these classic moments, it takes some practice to grasp them.

The author himself has suffered countless losses to share with you in such detail, and when you find that someone will change you, this classic moment is your key moment.

Sixth, host lore.

This is a new word, all book lovers should have played the game, right? Know what the host is not? For example, we humans are the host of bacteria, and many bacteria will parasitize on our body, which is a kind of host.

Dear book friends, when you were looking at all kinds of sea creatures in the aquarium, I wonder if you have ever seen that big shark with many small fish following him? The big shark is the host of these small fish.

So what is host lore?

For example, we often see employees of some large companies, they may not be the smartest, nor the most capable, but they can be trusted and reused by the boss. This is because they know how to build a good relationship with their boss or boss, and how to adapt and cooperate with each other's work. They know how to kill hosts, which is also a very important skill in the workplace. Also in our daily lives, we should also learn to host lore.

For example, if we are going to visit an elder or a client, we should not simply express our thoughts and opinions, but should first understand the situation and needs of the other party, and then design and express our own plans according to the other person's situation.

For example, we can say, "I know you've been busy lately, but I'd love to meet you up and talk." We can find a quiet place to have a cup of tea and chat together. ”

Such words are very capable of host lore, and can make the other party feel our respect and care, so as to establish a good relationship.

Whether in the workplace or in life, we should learn the skills of host lore. It's not about pandering to others, it's about learning how to build good relationships with others and how to adapt to different environments and people. In this way, we can better play our own advantages and abilities, and realize our own values and dreams.

If you know how to play Host Lore, your eldest brother can't do without you in his life, and if you can digest the first five, you can be considered to be able to do most of the rules of life.