Being comfortable will have a direct impact on your success.

The year before last was not the year before last, and I had dinner with a big brother at the dinner table. (At that time, everyone had experienced it, and everyone who knew it understood it, and the chapter of the novel could not involve any sensitive words from those years.) ）

Halfway through the meal, he suddenly received a phone call, which was from his wife, saying that he had a cold and that it was not that the child had a cold.

We were negotiating a very important cooperation that day, and this big brother said to me, "Xiaoqu, you go buy some banlangen and come back." Then, someone at the dinner table said, "Now there is medicine for takeout, otherwise Mr. Qu will send it to the eldest brother's home?" ”

Fellow book friends, you must know that the people at this table want to make friends with this big brother, anyway, they talked a lot of nonsense, and then the big brother pushed it all, saying "no, no", "It's okay, I believe Xiaoqu can do this well." ”

So what did I do? I hurriedly asked Pan Dong next to me for instructions and asked him to give me authorization to use Pan Dong's driver to do this. Because I and Pan Dong both came together in his car, if I came to overstep the command of Lao Pan's driver, Lao Pan would have other thoughts about me, so I had to ask him first. Lao Pan and my iron buddies understand the reason behind me to get authorization from him. Therefore, Lao Pan gave it very quickly, and then I sent a message to the driver's master, asking him to go to the pharmacy to buy all kinds of banlan roots, the same six boxes. After the dinner, let him personally find Pan Dong for reimbursement.

Then why did my eldest brother ask me to go, but I didn't? Because, this is a means of existing in the dinner, although the eldest brother ordered you, but you yourself can't go. In this form, you can only arrange for someone whose identity is not very important in this dinner to do it.

The driver finished buying it, went downstairs to tell me, and asked me if I wanted to deliver it, and I said in the message, "Master, don't come up, just wait below". When the meal was about to end, I told the driver to wait on the floor where our meal was located, and the driver came up with a plastic bag. Then, after getting out of the box door, I met with the driver and handed the bag of banlangen he was holding to my eldest brother.

This eldest brother's surname is Chen, and I said, "Brother Chen, the banlan root you asked me to buy is all prepared for you." You take it back to your sister-in-law to drink, I don't know if the people below bought it right, anyway, there are four things in total, the same six boxes. I don't know what kind of medicine my sister-in-law is allergic to, and I don't know which banlangen makes my sister-in-law like it more, so you take it first. If there is such a place worthy of my service in the future, you will tell me a little bit about what drugs are more contraindicated by your sister-in-law. ”

Why don't I let these drugs show up at dinner?

First of all, Brother Chen is not the only one in this private room, but also me, Pan Dong and several other bosses. In order to protect this person, you must not offend other people in the private room, and you must not make others uncomfortable. If you only maintain this one person, showing how good you are at doing things if you have a driver or a subordinate in your company, then this matter of buying medicine will not be done beautifully. Remember, to be comfortable, is the ability of a person to live, and this is the way for you to really have the right connection with this society.

Secondly, Brother Chen named me and asked me to do this, and my status in this dinner is to represent our company, so I can't go out casually, so I arrange for others to do this, which is equivalent to handing in my answer sheet to Brother Chen. Not only did I do things for him, but I didn't get out of this kind of "embarrassing me as a partner of a dignified company", and I also made him feel that our company was sincere enough to meet his small request, so this big brother was maintained by our company.

Up to now, Brother Chen's osmanthus is ripe, and he wants to give us some; Or, when the sheep raised at home have grown up, they ask us to go to his house to eat roasted whole sheep. Brother Chen will talk to other bosses, intentionally or unintentionally, "Hey, is he coming to that little song?" ”

There is another similar incident to the above, which happened a few months after I met Brother Chen. At that time, it was my third grandfather's eighty-ninth birthday, and the dinner table was attended by relatives in the family or the descendants of my third grandfather. But the eldest son-in-law of my second uncle's family, perhaps for the sake of fun, brought a partner of his work to this kind of family dinner.

Except for my eldest brother-in-law, no one knows him as a partner, maybe he is a manager, but this is a family banquet in our family, and bringing such an outsider causes the people at our table to be very embarrassed. Some lively words, even more intimate words, cannot be said at this table.

There is a relative at the table who may be aware of the embarrassment of joining such an outsider, and wants to make the dinner lively, toasting the outsider with a glass of wine, and welcoming him to celebrate the birthday of my third grandfather, but the discerning person can see that almost no one will like such an outsider to join, even if he is the richest man in the world, but not our family, it is only embarrassing to come, not to mention such an important occasion, the outsider comes without gifts, let alone toast, it seems that this person appears more abruptly.

Although no one at our table ordered this outsider during the dinner, my second uncle was also at this table at that time, and he told my third grandfather's second son. After all, the organizer of this dinner was none other than my second uncle, and one day when my second uncle woke up, after learning about the situation, he never called his eldest son-in-law over to celebrate his birthday at the banquet of my third grandfather's 91st birthday this year. After that, I won't call him over again.

First of all, this is a family feast, and outsiders are not suitable to participate; Secondly, this outsider doesn't bring gifts and can't come to pay tribute to the elders' wine, so what is the meaning of his coming?

Perhaps, at this time, some book friends have already guessed that this outsider is here to eat. Since he is here to eat, why should he let the eldest brother-in-law bring such a similar outsider over again? In terms of etiquette, the eldest brother-in-law has violated the rules of the dinner, and even if his career is good in the future, the second uncle will not let him come over again on the big occasion of the family banquet.

And this year, at my third grandfather's 91-year-old birthday banquet, there was another incident that violated the rules of the dinner, and it is estimated that it will be taken out later by the Chinese New Year or other times. Because it was a family banquet, I bought a cake, and I ate almost every meal, and no one mentioned cutting the cake, nor did anyone share the cake, just let a few children at the children's table eat some cakes, and our family, including the third grandfather, the birthday star, didn't eat the cake at all. The cake itself is not important, the important thing is that we are all a family, and the family members should share it with each other.

If you don't eat it, that's our family's own business, and let's sit at the table, the focus is to eat cake for the third grandfather's birthday. Even if it's polite, it's going to eat a little; But as the children and grandchildren of the main family, if you don't mention cutting or cutting the cake, but only give the child the table to eat, that is a problem with doing things.

When my father woke up, he recalled the incident and asked all the family members present whether they had eaten the cake or not. The family didn't eat, so he was immediately unhappy, and ordered the two daughters of the second uncle not to do anything at such an obvious dinner, and he would be even more embarrassed in the future.

What can I say? After all, this is the will of other people's families, and people are unwilling to share, so you can't force people to give you this cake, right? Besides, every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and it is possible that the two daughters of my second uncle have considered that the family members have reached the age of fifty or sixty, and if eating a cake causes any unnecessary trouble, it will be very bad. (Before, when my grandfather was still alive, my father held a birthday party, and as a result, he almost drank an uncle and grandfather to death because of drinking, although he was rescued, but this incident may still have an impact.) ）

Of course, through the two birthday banquets of the third grandfather, most people can still see some things clearly, but the focus is not on the methods of my second uncle's family, but on the deeper level of the eldest uncle's family. The eldest uncle himself is honest and honest, and he never contradicts anyone, but the eldest aunt is not a fuel-efficient lamp. It is a trivial matter to spread rumors about our three families in the village, but the point is that I like to stir up the relationship between my parents, my aunt, and my aunt, which my parents especially hate.

Even the last time I greeted her, she didn't pay attention to me at all, which made me think that my aunt might be the kind of woman who looked down on other relatives' families. My aunt also didn't look down on me since I was a child, and I remember that when her son got married, she insisted that I go and roll the sheets at his house, thinking that this would ease the relationship between the two families. As a result, my aunt not only didn't give me any reward, but also kept that look down on me, and from these details, I deeply understood that my aunt was determined to fight against our family. Since that's the case, I have to throw my face at her.

Let me ask you, believe it or not, if you learn to deal with the small details of these three things, there will be a lot of noble people who will automatically appear in front of you? Moreover, your noble person will drive more noble people to become your noble person, this kind of thing you have learned, any insignificant little thing you can do well, as long as this noble person appears in front of you, then he will become your nobleman, he will change your fate, and even change the fortune of your family.

In which book can you learn this kind of? I'm telling you, people who know this kind of thing won't teach you.

Therefore, book friends, you remember, after you figure out these small details, your probability of getting opportunities will increase, and your probability of getting appreciated by those who have achieved it will also increase.

So if you create such an opportunity, is it possible for you to find the noble people around you?