Dear book friends, I ask you if there is anyone in your life who can save your life at a critical moment?

For example, when you need money, he can do his best to help you, when you need social resources, he will have his super connections to deal with problems for you, and when you encounter some unfair or unjust treatment, he can help you turn things around.

I don't know if there are any such people around you, if you are in your twenties, it is not normal; If you're in your thirties, it's not normal to do so, and society has given you ten years of growth to run these networks on your own, but obviously you don't understand this at all.

If you haven't reached the age of forty, then I have to say that the first half of your life was a failure, and you don't know that the law of survival of the whole society at the same age is that the winner is king; If you are fifty years old and have not met such a person, then sorry, there is less and less time left for you, maybe you need to go all out to find this person, or these people; If you are sixty years old and have not met it, and you may feel that you don't need such a person around you anymore, because you have lost expectations of yourself and have no risk assessment for the future, so how to find such a person and how to manage your interpersonal relationships should think about it. In fact, it's not that you don't know how to manage relationships at all, but you don't even know how to manage yourself.

Without these people by your side, do you know how difficult this life will be? In a person's life, if you leave the help of others and rely only on your own struggle and efforts, it is simply too difficult. And you will see those who are accomplished, and the reason why they are doing well in this society is because there are many, many people who help them.

This is a very simple truth, and it is very easy to understand.

If you want to get the noble person in your life, first of all, you need to understand that no one will help you for no reason. If you want someone around you to lend a helping hand when you need it, then you need to learn to manage your relationships on a regular basis. This is not a utilitarian act, but a mutually beneficial one. When you have more connections around you, you can get more help. Secondly, you need to learn to understand others. If you want someone around you to lend a helping hand when you need it, then you need to learn to understand people on a daily basis. Knowing their interests, strengths and weaknesses, etc., will help you connect better with others and find those who can help you.

You need to have a grateful heart, and if you want someone around you to lend a helping hand when you need help, then you need to learn to be grateful to others in your daily life. Being grateful for the help and support of others will help you maintain your relationships better and will make you appreciate those who are willing to help you. Whether there is someone in your life who can save your life at a critical moment is not the most important thing. The most important thing is whether you know how to manage your own relationships, whether you know how to understand others and be grateful to others. Only when you have these qualities will you be able to get help and support from others, and you will be able to make your life smoother and more successful.

If you don't have someone around you who can help you, then you don't even enter the circle of this society, you are still at the level of a kindergarten, and your future will not only cause trouble for your own relatives, but also become a burden to the whole society, of course I can say this about you, because you have no reason to object.

You may think that my speech is difficult to hear, but this is the truth, and this is the law of survival in this society. You may contradict me, you will say, "I have people around me, my classmates, my colleagues, my relatives." ”

Then I want to ask you, did they help you when you were in trouble?

Did they lend you money when you needed it?

Did they provide you with the network resources when you needed them?

If none of them have helped you, do you think it makes sense for them to be there for you? They simply can't be the nobles in your life.

So, don't think that if there are people around you, there are noble people, that is actually useless. You need the kind of person who can help you, who can save your life when it matters most.

What is the purpose of our lives? It is to put ourselves in the chain of gratitude of "being helped by others" and "helping others", not the food chain.

How many people in this world live in the food chain? Thinking about selling others every day, thinking about closing others every day, you remember that the most meaningful money in this world is exchanged for your own value.

If you have value yourself, how much money you get in exchange is a matter of course.