How is the gap between people widened?

I would like to send three words to all of you book friends - each side. Everyone goes out to see every side of every day, and the gap between you and others is widened in this way.

We also have customers in Shenzhen, not only customers, but also beautiful bosses who love Pan Dong. She made jewelry, that is, jadeite, agate, these things, I know a little but not very well. It was also because she asked us to turn the money in our hands into assets when we got the first pot of gold, and went to jewelry stores and gold stores to buy gold and jewelry in large quantities, that we knew that this is how it was to be a boss.

This beautiful boss's surname is Lin, I admire this young lady very much, she is only three years younger than me. It seems that when Pan Dong went to Shenzhen to find a business partner, she and Pan Dong met by chance, and then, she introduced her WeChat to me and Mr. Lu, he said let us follow Mr. Lin to learn to do business, although she looks young, but she is better than us in terms of managing the company.

We had our first meal in Shenzhen. She has her own small building specializing in jewelry business, and behind the small building is the club where she entertains guests from other places, and I still remember to eat beef hot pot. As soon as I sat down, Mr. Lin walked up to me and said to me, "Mr. Qu, I heard Mr. Pan say that you like to eat beef, I specially prepared a good beef for you today, which I asked my men to cut back in the afternoon, we only order their beef, and please give me some suggestions after eating." I said, "Okay," and then she went to entertain Pan Dong, who was next to me. She likes Pan Dong, even if Pan Dong is married, he also has the charm of a married man.

One person and a small pot, Mr. Lin stood next to me and gave me and Pan Dongsha. Where had I ever seen such a battle? In particular, the female boss who asked the business to be so big personally gave me shabu-shabu. Therefore, I was very embarrassed to stand up and say thank you, Mr. Lin, just let Mr. Lin go back, I can come alone.

When the shabu-shabu is finished, put it in a bowl and eat it. Mr. Lin still asked me to eat first, "Mr. Qu, try it, I want to see you eat it yourself." "I didn't understand at the time, why did she like Pan Dong but didn't tell him to eat first, but let me eat first? Later, as the dinner progressed, I slowly understood.

After eating the first bite, I felt that the beef was quite strong, so I praised it and said, "Mr. Lin, it is worthy of preparing good beef, which is very strong." She said, "Okay, I'll give you a second meat." After shabu-shabu, she put me in a bowl again and said, "It's very delicious, I promise you like it, Mr. Qu, you don't drink, do you?" Then eat beef. I said, "Mr. Lin, thank you so much for your hard work, and you will be able to break the bank by coming to Shenzhen." Mr. Lin said, "Don't mind, the whole club is mine, you can just eat, and then talk about filling your stomach first." I want to welcome the three of you to come, let me know that there is still a good boss like you in Laizhou. ”

I felt the enthusiasm of the people of Shenzhen, as well as the deliciousness of the beef hot pot. After all, Mr. Lin is also young, and his social experience is not so rich, he is a good person to others, and in the relationship, this is what netizens call the love brain. But she really did her best to entertain the three of us. She likes Pan Dong, she likes it very much, and the age difference between the two is not much, and there are a lot of common topics. So, in order to express her liking for Pan Dong, she can use her enthusiasm to take care of me and Mr. Lu, the two partners, after all, the company is ours, and if we take care of us, we will naturally be able to cooperate with Pan Dong for a long time.

After eating the whole meal, I can see Mr. Lin's way of doing things, and her reaction to the boss in her three, four, and fifties is different from that of those in their thirties, fourths, and fifties at the dinner. When you get along with her, you will feel that you are having dinner with friends of the same age, rather than pure business, bragging, and all kinds of fancy reasoning at the dinner. Why did she let me eat first, because I can observe people, understand faces, understand etiquette, understand the level and cognition of life, let me eat first, first of all, it is a respect, and secondly, it is also a good impression that makes me have a first impression of Mr. Lin. At that time, when I saw Mr. Lin's face, I did see that it was not so good, Bai Fumei was indeed Bai Fumei, and I had already seen what kind of setbacks she would face in the future. But there is a saying called "Heaven cannot be revealed", I can't cross her, because liking Pan Dong is her own choice, and love must be a problem that she has to solve in her life.

Mr. Lin has served me dishes at least ten times this meal, and I can't stand it a little. Dear book friends, can you afford a boss with a bigger business than you to keep serving you food at dinner? I've never been treated like this by a boss other than her, for the first time. Later, we often exchanged business and each other's lives with Mr. Lin, and after a long time, we became old friends who talked about everything.

I'm almost avoiding her now, why? Because she is too enthusiastic, I am afraid of being entertained in such a warm way, and besides, the family is as beautiful as a fairy, I am slightly handsome and of medium stature, I really dare not get along with such a beautiful boss for a long time. She's the ceiling of the enthusiastic bosses I've ever met, and no boss or client I've ever met since was more enthusiastic than her.

When she takes the elevator, she doesn't get on until everyone is on the elevator. She is always the last, no matter how polite others say to her, "Lady first" or "Little girl, you go first", she always says "If you don't go in, I won't go in, you are all my nobles, if you don't go, I won't leave". She is like this every time, this kind of self-cultivation is not something that any boss can pretend, and she is very arrogant with anyone, and she hardly hides anything in her heart.

The first time I met her, what struck me the most? After eating, I also made a review of the meal for her, but after we both left, she actually arranged for us to go to a hotel and ordered a cup of sobering tea for each of them. This small detail is usually something that only our family will do, and Mr. Lin treats us as his own family members by taking this small gesture.

This little girl has only met you for the first time, but she will make you remember herself forever. Then let's ask you book friends, we have met a lot of people and experienced a lot of things in our lives, but we will be forgotten in an instant, why is this?

We basically chatted a lot with Mr. Lin in WeChat, communicating business, communicating each other's lives, and communicating the integration of resources. She didn't have any friends she couldn't make, and then we went to Shenzhen and went to her house. Then, she saw that I had brought a little assistant with me this time, and immediately came up to discuss with my little assistant what contact lenses, cosmetics, nails and some things on the Internet. On the way back to Laizhou, I asked the little assistant next to me, what do you think of Mr. Lin? She said, "Mr. Qu, what kind of treasure boss have you met?" There is nothing she doesn't understand, cosmetics have drawn a lot of good links for me, there are our products, and there are other people's products. ”

See that, right? She didn't have any friends she couldn't make. Later, with the encouragement of Mr. Lin, this assistant next to me became a beauty blogger, opened a few live broadcasts, and became an Internet celebrity overnight, and with Mr. Lin's encouragement, they became good girlfriends. Mr. Lu is not a good girlfriend with her, the reasons are very deep, the most important thing is that Mr. Lu is relatively cold, belongs to the iceberg beauty, and is very strict with his subordinates, so Mr. Lin doesn't like an iceberg beauty like her very much, but will send warmth to Mr. Lu in daily life, send red envelopes to each other, business dealings, and the like.

Not long ago, I talked to Mr. Lin about writing a novel, and she also asked me, "Do you need sponsorship?" I'll give you a reward of tens of millions, so that you can also taste the taste of overnight popularity. "I refused, if it really became an overnight hit, I wouldn't have calmed down and written. Then I also told her if I wanted to write about you, and she said, "I don't have anything to write about, I'm just a jewel queen to others, but I really want to be friends with you, if you need help, just squeak." ”

I then asked her, "Why do you have such a big grin every time you eat?" She said, "I'm not actually a native of Shenzhen, I came here with 10 yuan, and I knew that it was not easy to invite others to dinner, and it was not easy to eat with others." Since everyone has the fate to sit at the same table to eat, I have to take care of everyone, no matter whether everyone can become my nobles in the end, I will treat everyone as nobles. ”

Her words gave me a whole new way of thinking and a new understanding of my writing of this book. Everyone has the fate to come to see my book, and whether you can give a reward for this book or not, I treat you as a book friend.

Dear book friends, have you ever had such a time, it's not that you are unwilling to serve food to others, it's not that you don't want to pour wine for others, it's not that you don't want to pour tea and water for others, it's not that you don't know that you should take care of others, and it's not that you don't know that you should be polite, but because you are too high, you don't want to do these things.

Since Mr. Lin, she broke the beginning of how to get along with interpersonal relationships, and she completely broke it for me. Later, Pan Dong summed up a sentence for her person, he said, "Look at Lao Qu, you will redefine what high emotional intelligence is from Mr. Lin, she may be young, she may be inexperienced, and she may not even be very good at speaking, but she just reacts quickly." ”

Quick response, that's the most important thing for a truly unfathomable boss to learn, and I think he's right. I also think that Mr. Lin's eloquence is not so good, and his speech is not at a high level, there are no idioms and no allusions, but high EQ is fast response, and this is the highest level of EQ, which is to use actions to reflect the recognition of you as a person.