Chinese have a stinky problem, generally do not praise people, more are loud people and humiliate others.

At first, I thought this was very extreme, because since I was a child, I had never met such a person who humiliated others, and I received the same education method as in the textbook, and the family atmosphere was very harmonious, and I had never heard humiliating words. Later, after graduating from college, I saw for the first time from a cool novel, "I am obviously reasonable, but I always can't tell others" speechless, and I saw that "obviously one thing is because of a misunderstanding or misunderstanding of angle, but it always deepens the contradiction under the continuous misunderstanding" can be regarded as a real understanding, and this is how it humiliates others in society. It also figured out that the reason why schools do not teach students these humiliating words is also to protect young people's yearning for a better life.

After stepping into the society, we find that we often put ourselves in a very good position, but we don't praise others, even if we praise people, it is similar to "Oh, this is what you made, the taste is okay, don't do it next time" (the taste of a dish is obviously very good, and I want the other party to cook more next time, and even feel sorry for the other party to cook for themselves) This kind of seems to be cold, but it is actually the meaning of the opposite.

When I first left campus, I worked as a chorre in a low-end noodle restaurant, a back kitchen in a hotel, and a low-end circle, and I often encountered people demeaning each other and improving themselves. However, the people I met in the high-end circles such as Xinghui Building and Beihai Hotel were basically sincere praise, mutual appreciation, and mutual respect from the bottom of my heart.

In the low-end circle, you will find that everyone is similar to: "Which hair salon did I go to yesterday, which girl I got along with the day before yesterday, and when I came today, a waitress girl smiled at me".

This is the low-end circle, you know what happens if you go to the high-end circle?

For example, if I was wearing a very ordinary dress today, I didn't even wear a very expensive dress, and someone would come over and say: "Yo, Mr. Qu has never seen this dress today, is it Gaoding or nostalgia for youth?" "Mr. Qu, I heard that you have recently written a novel, which platform?" I'll definitely go and read it when I have time. "Mr. Qu, why did you come here alone today, and you changed into yuppie style clothes, you are really getting more and more like a great writer."

Guys, am I right? These words sound a bit flattering, but people in high-end circles also have hidden words from their mouths, and they can listen to all of them but not believe any of them. Because, if I really want to help you, I will do it silently for you a long time ago.

Including if I say another logic, people with low cognition often think that people at the top of society show hypocrisy in terms of etiquette, politeness and etiquette.

Do you know how I saw it? The year before last, I went to Hangzhou to participate in the Comic Con, and I sent a sincere invitation to a girl who cos Conan, and some people saw me laughing and thought I was laughing very hypocritically. Then, after a long time, someone saw me smiling and invited cose

I don't think my polite smile is hypocritical.

Through the above description, do you want to be a superior or a subordinate person?

Just now I wrote about the bureau of people and people, they are all derogatory to each other, I am the boss of the cow. What is a human being? You're a cow, you're the boss. These two kinds of people are completely different, so at this time I will write a logic with you.

The higher your level of etiquette, politeness, and propriety in interpersonal interactions, the lower your social costs. So, sometimes I look at it, and all the education systems are not in place for politeness, etiquette, and etiquette.

Not long ago, I was having dinner with some post-95 ladies in our company. Before the new dish came to me, several young ladies near the door of the room began to stretch out their chopsticks to clip it. Later, after I had finished the meal, I said I would give a suggestion to a few of them.

"You remember, when a lot of dishes are first served, they don't turn to me, and you already make a mess of them. But I didn't say until now, not because of how high my cultivation is, but because you are all girls, and ladies are preferred. I'm a gentleman, or I've done it, right? But next time there is no such rule. Your parents may not teach you these rules, but in the homes of our bosses and partners, you will be whipped off with chopsticks if you pick up food casually. Go to the finance and pay the fine yourself, one hundred yuan per person, the penalty is not the goal, so that you can learn politeness, etiquette and etiquette is the goal, girls read more books, there are benefits. ”

Because it's a single room in a hotel, some of the words take into account the face of the girls, and they don't say much ruthlessly. After all, everyone is in their twenties, they have just stepped into the society for a few years, and the social education they have received is still shallow, and I am willing to help them correct this little problem. But if they dare to pick up dishes in front of customers, large occasions or wedding banquets, it is not a matter of penalty.

If they eat like this with their parents at home, and their parents are still indifferent, then I am really speechless. If you don't teach, your father's fault, these six words can't become empty talk. And I also hope that the girls will send a sincere apology to their parents when they go home after they are fined for this meal.

Ladies and gentlemen, just one action can already have a basic judgment on a person, do you think what I said is correct?

First of all, there must be a lack of tutoring at the dinner table. Secondly, it must be that the social level of the parents is not high. Third, there must be no self-knowledge, and I feel that I don't know who I am when I go to college and have a college, bachelor's, doctoral, or master's degree.

Taken together, these three points are basically one word – silly kid.

So, do you know how many people don't understand these truths nowadays? Even, everyone disagreed.

Let me ask you a question, a polite person, a polite person appears in front of you, do you think this person is very powerful? Do you think this person is amazing? Yes, right!

Fellow scholars, you should remember that your etiquette, etiquette and politeness are part of your strength.

Therefore, whether in school or in society, we should focus on cultivating our own manners, politeness, and etiquette to show our own qualities and accomplishments. At the same time, we should also respect others, interact with others in a sincere and friendly manner, and establish good interpersonal relationships.

In the high-end social circle, people pay more attention to mutual respect and appreciation, while in the low-end social circle, people pay more attention to mutual depreciation and self-improvement. But no matter what circle we are in, we should be sincere and kind in order to build real relationships. No matter where we are, we should pay attention to our self-cultivation and etiquette in order to show our demeanor and charm. At the same time, we should also respect others, interact with others with sincerity and friendliness, and jointly create a harmonious and beautiful social atmosphere.