As parents, we always hope that our children can become dragons or phoenixes to change the family's predicament. However, this hope is often too idealistic and ignores the challenges of real life. Real change needs to start with ourselves and provide a good starting point for our children's destiny.

First of all, we need to have a positive attitude towards our life, work and studies, and avoid falling into chaos and disorder. This will not only help to set a positive example for your child, but also ease their mental load. It is also important to note that we should avoid the use of force or intimidation to motivate children to learn.

Second, we need to understand the fact that real progress comes from our own efforts and growth. Many people turn the focus on what is expected of their children and neglect their own responsibilities first. The correct logical order should be: parents should first achieve certain achievements in society and create a superior starting point for their children through hard work. When parents are successful, children have the potential to outperform most with just the right amount of effort. On the other hand, if the parents do not achieve success, the children may not be able to escape the fate of the bottom of the society, even if they put in great efforts.

Therefore, as parents, our first priority is to take responsibility for ourselves, do our part, and keep working hard. Only in this way can we provide children with a broader starting point and help them to reduce setbacks in their future life journeys.

In addition, we need to realize that the root cause of family distress is often not caused by a single factor. Multiple factors such as the socio-economic environment, the uneven distribution of educational resources, and the pressure of employment may affect the development of the family. Therefore, we should not only rely on the achievements of our children to seek change, but also need to influence and change the entire family environment through our own efforts.

When facing family difficulties, we should actively seek various resources and support, such as educational counseling, vocational training, mental health services, etc. These resources and supports can help us cope better with life's challenges and improve our ability to take on parental responsibilities.

At the same time, we also encourage children to develop a sense of autonomy and independent thinking. Let them learn to self-plan, self-manage, and self-adjust so that they can better cope with various challenges in the future on the road of life.

As parents, we should be aware of our responsibilities and roles. We need to lead by example and face life's challenges and dilemmas positively. Through their own efforts and growth, we will provide children with a good starting point for their destiny. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the growth process of children, encourage them to develop their potential and talents, so that they can avoid detours in their future lives and achieve their own success and happiness.

In family education, we also need to pay attention to cultivating children's moral character and values. We need to guide our children to establish correct values and let them know the virtues of respect, gratitude, and integrity. At the same time, we also need to educate our children to take responsibility and responsibility, so that they understand that their actions will have an impact on others and society. By nurturing children's moral character and values, we can lay a strong foundation for their future development.

Finally, we must firmly believe that as long as we do our part, continue to work hard, and provide a good starting point for our children's destiny, they will be able to succeed and be happy in their future lives. We need to believe in our own strength, in the potential of our children, and in the future of our families. Only in this way can we remain steadfast and positive in the face of family hardship and embrace a better tomorrow.