My buddy broke up with his daughter-in-law just now. I asked why.

He said she had changed, and she wasn't the one he liked anymore. She became like a shrew, always suspicious. Love pounces on him to smell if there is any perfume, always on his number, to delete some girls who have a good relationship with him, and not to give him freedom. He said he had enough and didn't want to lose his freedom.

He liked her at first, with a white dress and long hair, quiet and elegant. I thought about it and smiled. Brother, do you really love her?

White dress and long hair, quiet and elegant? Is there such a person in reality, you are talking about a fairy, not that she has changed, but that you have changed. It's not the person you fall in love with, it's the feeling of that moment. You said that she begged you not to go, and you said that she cried, made trouble, and hanged herself. You say she threatens you, you say you hate this woman who is as vicious as a scorpion and can't get rid of it.

You think you've been blind and loved her. I comfort you and say you'll meet something better. In my heart, I hope that the girl can meet a better one. She begged bitterly, only in exchange for your indifference, her threats only in exchange for your contempt, in fact, you didn't see behind it! Doesn't she love you too?

It wasn't worth it for her to do it. Sad as a joke, she deleted your female friend, hoping that you would only pay attention to herself, in exchange for your anger and indifference.

What a poor girl? Guys, do you hate your daughter-in-law so much? Have you forgotten how they fought when they didn't meet you? Have you forgotten their original innocence and cuteness? Don't always see others change, okay?

What did you do? Is it okay to cherish it? No matter how good it is, it's not your own, it's also garbage.

Cherish all the people around you, don't look at them as they have changed, but think more about how to keep them the same.

You're used to her. She has always been a lovely child. If you treat you coldly, she is the shackles of your freedom.

Breakup, a familiar and unfamiliar word.

Recently, my friend also tasted this bitterness. He told me that he had broken up with his significant other for the simple reason that she said he had changed and was no longer the person she knew. She said that he had become rude and no longer had the gentleness he once had; She said he had become selfish and no longer cared about her feelings; She said he had become apathetic and no longer willing to listen to her. As I listened to him, I couldn't help but think of a question: why did we change? Has time changed us, or have we changed time?

Once, he described her as the goddess in his heart, wearing a white dress, long flowing hair, quiet and elegant. However, in reality, she made him feel strange, she became nagging, suspicious, and unbearable. She started pointing fingers at his life, checking his phone, and even deleting some of his female friends. He said he had enough and didn't want to lose his freedom again. However, did he ever think that behind all this, was her deep love and concern for him?

We always say that to love someone is to give her freedom, but what is true freedom? Is it laissez-faire, or is it mutually supportive? Perhaps, true freedom is to find each other's balance, mutual respect, mutual trust in love. She said he had changed, perhaps because he no longer gave her a sense of security and made her feel afraid; She said he had changed, perhaps because he no longer gave her confidence and made her feel helpless.

He told me that he liked her at first, the quiet and elegant girl in a white dress with long flowing hair. I think he was right, because that girl was the best in his heart. However, did he ever think that people change, and the only thing that remains unchanged is our belief in love. If he really loves her, then he should accept her change because she is a part of him and she is the one who makes him a better version of himself.

At the moment of the breakup, she begged him bitterly not to leave, she threatened him, and she even committed suicide to keep him. He hated her, felt that she had become vicious and strange to him. However, did he ever think that it was all because she loved him too much, she was afraid of losing him, and she was willing to give everything for him. He comforted himself and said that he would meet something better, but in his heart he hoped that the girl would meet something better. He didn't know that in fact, that girl was his best choice, but he didn't cherish it anymore.

In love, it is always easy for us to see the shortcomings of others but ignore our own shortcomings. We forgot how they were in the world when they didn't meet us, and we forgot their original innocence and cuteness. We always say they've changed, but we don't want to think about what they've done. Love needs to be managed, and it requires the joint efforts of both parties. If you really love her, then please cherish her because she is the most important person in your life.

Brothers, do you really hate your daughter-in-law that much? Have you forgotten their gentleness and kindness when they didn't meet you, and their initial enthusiasm? Don't always see other people change, okay? You should also reflect on yourself, cherish the people around you, and don't let them change again.

Because, no matter how good a person is, if he can't spend his life with you, he is just a passerby. Cherish the present, cherish the people around you, so that love will no longer become regrets.