The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a major problem in life since ancient times, and the key is still unsolved.

Thinking of this, Hong's mother was also worried, she herself had never suffered a loss in this, because when she married Hong's father, her mother-in-law was not in good health, and she left within two years. And they don't live together, and they are quite harmonious with each other.

But many of her friends and colleagues around her are not as lucky as her, and even divorces provoked by her mother-in-law are very good.

It can be said that among the ten families, it would be good to have a mother-in-law who is sensible and does not mix with her son and daughter-in-law, and she is not so confident that her daughter will definitely be able to meet her.

But so be it.

I don't know why, people are so contradictory.

On the one hand, I want my daughter to find someone whose own conditions are better than her, and whose family conditions are better than her own, can be worthy; On the other hand, I am worried that if I find such a girl, I will be picked on and looked down upon.

But if you look for someone with worse conditions, you feel that your daughter is at a loss.

Worried about the future relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but if the man has no mother, he will think that the family is flawed and the character is estimated to be problematic.

In short, there is no one who is free of defects and can be 100% assured.

"Wife, think about it, Xiao Tie has no parents, but from our aunt's mouth, you can know that this child's personality is definitely fine. Maybe it doesn't sound good to say that you don't have a father or a mother at first, but what about later? When we get married and start our lives, aren't we equivalent to having another son? Then you are not marrying a daughter, but a son-in-law. ”

Hearing this last sentence, Hong's mother's heart was also shaken.

She remembered her parents who were teachers, although it was true that they were intellectuals, but sometimes they spoke really heart-wrenching.

Last year, my father was found to have a tumor in his lung, and if it was removed, it would be a major operation, and he would have been able to reimburse most of it in a public hospital, but he had to go to a private hospital, saying that the doctors there had come back from abroad, and the hospital had good conditions and good services. He's so old that he doesn't want to suffer any more in this regard.

Okay, if you want to go, go for it.

But the old couple didn't want to use their coffin book yet, and they wanted their three sisters and brothers to pay for the operation.

Hong's mother has an older sister and a younger brother, and it stands to reason that the three of them will pay for the operation, but her old mother's words can make Hong's mother angry.

"Your sister and your brother are sons in the family, and they have to save money to buy a house for them in the future, which is a big burden. You don't need it, it doesn't matter if Hong Jing's marriage dowry is more or less in the future, so you can get more for the operation fee and less for them, you don't have any opinion, right? ”

No comments? Why?

Fortunately, her brother was sensible and didn't agree, and said that even if he took more, he would have to take more as his son, and there was no reason to let his daughter take more.

Otherwise, this matter will become a thorn in her heart, after all, the old lady is old, if you object to appear to be inattentive to the old man, you are afraid of making her angry. But if you agree, how aggrieved you will be!

Why should I have to be a head shorter than a son if I have a daughter?

So recruiting a son-in-law, although it is not a recruitment, but Xiaotie's situation is similar to recruitment, so it seems to be good.

"How? Tempted, right? ”

Dad Hong looked at Mama Hong's face changing, and knew that she was moved by him, to be honest, he himself was moved by himself again.

"Wife"

"Bang Bang Bang"

Dad Hong wanted to make persistent efforts to persuade more, but suddenly there was a knock on the door outside, followed by their baby girl's voice, "Open the door, I want to go to the toilet, don't open my pants again!" ”

Hong Dad & Hong Mom:.

Hong's mother said angrily, "When did she become so rude and unscrupulous about this dead girl?" ”

Dad Hong covered half of his face and urged her, "Hurry up, open the door for her." ”

Hong's mother went out to open the door, and Hong Jing stood at the door and snorted at her mother.

"Huh? Who are you humming? You dead girl."

Dad Hong hurriedly went out and pulled her back to the bedroom, and Mama Hong said angrily, "Even if you agree, you can't agree to her so easily, look at what it looks like?" You're used to it! ”

Dad Hong:.

Okay, good habits are formed by you, and bad temper is caused by me.

"I'll talk to her, you can dissipate your anger first."

After Hong's father finished speaking, he turned around and went out, waited for Hong Jing to come out of the bathroom, and followed her into her room.

"Dad went to find Xiao Tie today, you know?"

Hong Jing looked up at him, silent, obviously waiting for him to continue.

"Although yesterday I had an idea with your mother, I don't agree with you two being together. But after going to him today, to be precise, it was Xiao Jiang who talked to me and changed my mind. ”

Hong Jing's eyes lit up, but before she could speak, her father said again, "Don't be in a hurry to be happy, I was trying to persuade your mother just now, and her heart was also a little loose, but look at your attitude towards your mother?" ”

Hong Jing lowered her eyes and was silent.

"Dad has to criticize you here, from the time you were born to grow up, your mother brought you up single-handedly, no matter what the circumstances, because of anyone, you can't treat her like this. You hurt your mother's heart like this, you know? ”

"But."

"You have to know that a lot of times you can't solve problems with sharp conflicts. You have to rely on your IQ and rely on conditions that can impress her to convince her. It's like yesterday, when you patronized and got angry with us, you seized on our disagreement to criticize us and lose our temper with us, but you don't want to think about it, does this make me and your mother have a worse impression of Xiaotie? Not only will they not agree, but they will oppose it even more strongly.

What is the rational way to do it? It is you who list the conditions that Xiaotie is beneficial to us one by one and show them in front of us, so that we can think about and weigh whether you are suitable for Xiaotie to be together.

Speaking of this, Dad still has to criticize you, the moment you decide to be with Xiao Tie, you should actually think that we will oppose it when we know it. So since you thought of it, didn't you prepare one or two countermeasures in advance? You're twenty-two years old, not a child, you're an adult. After graduating next year, I will soon enter the society, and the people I will come into contact with and the things I have to deal with will be much more complicated than now, and you will even need to look at one step and think three steps."

Hong's father took the opportunity to tell his daughter another big truth, although he benefited a lot, but Hong Jing also felt a little too verbose. However, she still heard the central idea of her father's words, that is, the two of them had agreed to the matter between her and Xiao Tie!

Because of this, she was a little more patient than usual to listen to her father's reasoning, and even when it came to how she would coordinate in the middle if Xiao Tie had a conflict with them in the future, she was quite moved.

The old man thought very far, and he thought about living together after getting married.

However, Dad said that Xiaotie was going to be admitted to graduate school?

When was this decided, how could she not know?

Good night!