Those who specialize in the lower parts of towns find that there are differences in age, creed, education, and background among these poor souls.

Some of them are quite young, some are old, a few are university students, and a small number have basically no school attendance and no formal education.

Some are married, some are single.

Either way, these people do have one thing in common, and that is:

Each of them has experienced failure, beatings and even beatings.

Everyone has faced insurmountable difficulties, and everyone longs to be able to tell you about his experience and the fatal blow he has suffered.

These experiences include: "My wife abandoned me,"

"I have nothing, I am homeless" and "I have done a few things that make people hate me, which is why I came to this kind of place." ”

When people from these inferior areas are transferred to ordinary citizens, we will find that they have significantly different habits of life.

But, again, we will find that the person who has been inactive will give the same reason for his mediocrity.

He is now overly cautious, he toils dullly, cannot share the joys of life, and is not satisfied with himself.

He was frustrated, and he was convinced that it was all fate.

In fact, he is a failure, just a way of failing that people can accept.

Now, if we take the ladder to the sparsely populated realm of success, we will once again find people of all kinds of backgrounds.

Company CEOs, government officials, and leaders in various fields may come from a variety of families, such as poor families, wealthy families, and broken families.

People who excel in every aspect have been through every kind of hardship you can imagine.

Compare the aspects of people living in underprivileged areas, those who do nothing, and those who are high-achievers:

Including age, intelligence, background, nationality, etc., you will find that the obvious difference between them is the attitude towards failure.

After the people in the lower area were knocked down, he couldn't get up again, he just lay there. The inactive man will get up, but he will crawl away and flee in the opposite direction so as not to be beaten again.

And the successful person will react differently, he jumps quickly, learns the lesson, forgets the pain, and moves on.

One of my best friends is a very successful management consultant.

When you walk into his office, you really feel sorry for yourself, look at the beautiful furniture, the carpets, the people coming and going, all the high-ranking officials, all of that tells you that this is a thriving company.

A sarcastic person might say:

"This must be a liar."

But he was wrong, this is not a liar.

A successful person does not have to be a smart person, or a wealthy or lucky person.

But what is needed is a persistent person who will never admit his failure.

Behind such a prosperous company, there is a moving story of a person who has gradually succeeded through struggle and struggle:

He lost his 10-year savings in the first 6 months of opening. Forced to leave the office for several months due to lack of money to pay rent. Because he has his own lofty ideals. Therefore, the so-called "good job offer" was denied. He also often hears people say that his future is not good.

In the seven incredibly hard years he spent fighting for success, he never complained about anything to anyone.

"I've been learning, this kind of business has always been very competitive, and since it's so profound, I've been learning desperately," he explained. ”

That's what he said, and that's what he did.

I once asked him if his experience must have cost him a lot.

His answer was:

"No, I didn't give much, on the contrary, I learned a lot, a lot."

If you look at the lives of people featured in the Who's Who of various countries, you will find that people who have achieved remarkable things in one area have experienced many embarrassing situations as a result.

Almost every one of these illustrious personalities has encountered opposition, blows, setbacks, and personal misfortunes.

If you read the autobiographies or biographies of great men, you will also find that each of these people has had great setbacks, but none of them have surrendered because of it.

You can also try it like this.

Research the background of your company boss.

Or the past of your mayor, or the history of any person you think is successful.

You will find that these people have overcome great difficulties and obstacles.

It is impossible to achieve great things without opposition, setbacks and hardship.

But these setbacks can also be used to motivate people to improve.

Let's take a look at how we can do that.

According to a recent airline report, there is only one crash for every 100 million miles flown away.

Nowadays, airplanes are the safest way to travel, and unfortunately, air crashes still happen.

But as soon as an accident occurs, the Civil Aviation Authority immediately looks for the cause of the incident.

Retrieve some broken cores miles outside of the accident site and piece them together.

Experts from various fields then work together to determine the cause of the accident. Interviews with witnesses and survivors can last for weeks, or months, until the cause of the incident is identified.

Once the Civil Aviation Authority has identified the cause of the accident, it will immediately take measures to prevent the recurrence of similar accidents.

If it is caused by mechanical design, other aircraft of the same type will be modified, and if a certain machine fails, it must be maintained and repaired and replaced with parts.

Through the investigation of the Civil Aviation Authority, hundreds of aircraft safety equipment have been generated.

The Civil Aviation Authority (CAAC) ensures the safety of customers' lives and property through the study of failures.

It is clear that their efforts have not been in vain.

Doctors ensure the health and longevity of humans through studies that have failed many times.

Often, when a patient dies of an unknown cause, doctors conduct a cause-of-death analysis so that they can learn more about the functioning of the human body in order to save more lives.

A friend of mine who is in charge of sales has a monthly meeting to help his salesmen discover why they are losing big business.

They will go through the rut and scrutinize the lost business.

In this way, the salesmen learned how to avoid similar failures in the future.

A soccer coach who wins more than he loses will work with his players to analyze each game and find out why they lost.

Some coaches will video each game and then let the players see every mistake they make more intuitively.

There is only one goal: to play the next game.

Civil Aviation Authority officials, successful salesmen, physicians, football coaches, and professionals in all aspects adhere to this rule that leads to success:

Learn something from each failure.

When failure befalls us, our first instinct is often to be so upset that we forget to learn from it.

Professors know that a student's performance when he or she fails an exam can predict his likelihood of success in the future.

A few years ago, when a friend of mine was a professor at a university, he had to give a low grade to a college student who was about to graduate, which was undoubtedly a big blow to him, and he had already made a graduation plan, which could not be canceled.

He had only two options, to get his degree after a make-up sit, or to drop out without a degree.

I would expect the student to be very disappointed and even go crazy when he knew about this failure.

It turned out that my friend was right.

It was only when the student knew that his grades were far from the norm that he admitted that he had never taken a class seriously.

"But," he continued,

"My past grades are at least average, don't you think about that?"

However, my friend pointed out that I could not think about this aspect.

Because the exam can only be scored each time, we have strict discipline to prohibit any excuse from changing the grade, unless the teacher makes a mistake.

Only then did the student realize that it was absolutely impossible to change his grades.

He became very angry: "Mr. Professor," he said, "I can name at least 50 successful people in this city who have not taken this course, or even heard of this course, and they have all succeeded in one aspect or another, so what's the great deal about failing this course?" A few points less will not affect my degree certificate. ”

"Oh my God!" He added, "They never look at the surface of things like you professor. ”

My friend was calmed for 45 seconds (I already know the best way to avoid a war of words when you are slandered, and to calm down for a long time before answering. ）

Then he said, "Classmate, most of what you said is correct. It is true that there are many successful people who barely understand this subject. It is entirely possible to succeed without this knowledge. Throughout life, this class will not completely determine your success or failure. But remember, the attitude you show towards it is more important than your grades. ”

"What do you mean by that?" The student asked.

"That's just the way it is," my friend replied, "the outside world will rate you the same way I do." If you don't do your job well, you won't get any promotion or raise. ”

My friend Professor paused for a moment to get him to understand the meaning of the sentence.

Then, my friend, the professor, said, "Can I give you a piece of advice?" You are now in a state of high disappointment. I'm not happy with how you're doing now, but I don't blame you for being too much to me. However, look at this with a positive attitude, and here's a particularly important lesson: if you don't work hard, you won't achieve anything. Learn this lesson now, and in five years you will realize that this is the most beneficial lesson of your life. ”

A few days later, the professor was overjoyed to hear that the student had re-enrolled in the class.

This time he completed the course with honors, and later, he called the professor to make an appointment to meet and tell him how grateful he was for the last time we had a discussion.

"I learned a lot from the failure of the last exam," he said.

"Professor, this may sound a little weird, but I do rejoice that I didn't pass last time."

We can turn defeat into victory.

Learn the lesson, accept it, and then when you look back, you smile with relief and never regret it.

The well-known Zhang Haidi, she suffered from spinal hemangioma when she was a child, resulting in high paraplegia. But she never gave up, studied hard and went to college. In 1983, she began to engage in literary creation, and "China Youth Daily" published "It is a meteor, it is necessary to leave the light to the world".

She said, "To live is to be a person who is good for society".

As a result, she became the Chairman of the 7th Presidium of the China Disabled Persons' Federation, a member of the National Committee of the Chinese Writers Association, the head of the Chinese Sports Delegation to the Beijing Winter Paralympics, and the Chairman of the Organizing Committee of the 4th Asian Para Games.

High paraplegia, which did not make her give up on becoming a writer and chairman.

When she graduated from college, she once said to people:

"My disability will actually be an asset in my career. We should never judge people by their appearance, so that everyone can get a second chance. ”

Isn't that an example of turning defeat into victory?

Failure is just a state of mind. Nothing remarkable.

I have a good friend who is a successful stock investor.

He carefully curates each investment based on his past experience.

He once told me, "When I started investing 15 years ago, I wanted to get rich as soon as possible." Instead, I quickly went bankrupt. But that didn't stop me. I know the power of the economy, and I know that over time, if you only choose stocks, most investments will be successful. ”

"I see the first failure as an investment in education, or as paying for tuition."

He laughed.

At the same time, I know other people who have become completely insecure after making a few failed investments.

Instead of analyzing the reasons for his failure and finding out what the problem is, the loser comes to a completely wrong conclusion.

They believe that buying stocks is nothing more than a bet and that everyone will end up losing.

From now on, learn a little from each of your failures, and the next time something goes wrong at work or at home, be sure to calm down and find out what happened, this is the best way to avoid making mistakes again.

If you can learn from it, then it's worth it.

Humans are strange animals.

We are happy to accept the rewards of success. When we succeed, we want the whole world to know about it, and we want people to point to us and say:

"This is the one who does something and succeeds."

This state of mind is quite natural.

At the same time, humans also tend to condemn a person when he fails.

When an item is lost, the salesperson naturally blames the customer;

When things go wrong, the boss will reprimand the employee.

It should be said that this is very common.

When it comes to family issues, it is completely understandable for husband and wife to quarrel a few words.

In the world, it is inevitable that someone will find fault with us.

However, we should often get along with ourselves. Our failures are often due to the limited abilities of individuals or personal negligence.

To ensure success, remind yourself to be as perfect as possible, to be objective, but not to be completely perfect.

Putting yourself in a glass tube and then observing yourself for yourself will get a sense of yourself from the beholder.

See if you have any shortcomings that you haven't noticed in the past, and if so, fix them immediately.

Many people are used to themselves;

I don't see any progress on my own.

Writing in Reader's Digest, Rise has said that in his most unhappy moments, she received counsel she never received.

In the early days of her career, Miss Rise had failed many times, and she was particularly sad after each failure, "I longed to hear," said the teacher, "my voice was better than the other girls' voices, and it was clear that the referee was unfair and that I was not on the way to success." ”

Instead of pampering her, her teacher said, "Honey, have the courage to face your flaws." ”

Rise goes on to write:

The teacher's words rang in my ears all the time. That night, it was the teacher's words that woke me up. I can't sleep until I face my shortcomings. I lay in the dark, and I asked myself, "Why am I failing?" If you fail this time, how can you guarantee to win next time? I admit that my voice is not as good as it used to be, I have to improve my voice, I have to master more rules and techniques. ”

Rise continues to portray how facing shortcomings has not only helped her succeed on stage, but also helped her win more friends and develop a better personality.

Self-criticism helps you grow, which helps you gain the strength and efficiency you need to succeed.

Constantly condemning others is harmful, and proving another person wrong will not make you gain anything.

Be constructive and always self-critical, and don't give up on difficulties.

Like a true professional, they can identify their own shortcomings and shortcomings and correct them.

That's what enables them to become professionals.

Of course, don't try to find your own shortcomings, don't get along with yourself.

So you say to yourself, "This is another reason why I'm failing."

In turn, one should look at one's shortcomings in this way, "This is another way I could become a successful person." ”

Someone once said:

"A failure is only one person's fault, but for a person's experience, it cannot be bought with money."

After each failure, we may blame ourselves for bad luck.

We'd say, "Okay, just let it go." ”

But stop and think that for some reason, the ball can artificially not bounce in a particular way.

The way the ball bounces is determined by three aspects: the ball, the formula for throwing it, and the surface it hits, and it is the specific laws of physics that determine how the ball bounces, not luck.

If the Civil Aviation Authority issued such a statement: "We are deeply humble about the air crash. But as the saying goes, that's how the ball bounces, and no one can avoid what happens. ”

You'll definitely say that it's time for a new Civil Aviation Authority.

Let's say a doctor says, "I'm sorry, I don't know what's going on, just let it go!" ”

That way, when you or a friend gets sick, you won't go to that doctor again.

This "that's how the ball bounces" approach won't give us anything.

If a football coach says after a defeat on Saturday, "Guys, that's how the ball bounces." ”

That will definitely not prevent the team from losing again next Saturday.

Verne wrote "Five Weeks in a Balloon" and submitted it fifteen times without success, and he was so angry that he wanted to burn the manuscript, but his wife stopped him, and he revised it again, and the sixteenth submission was successful.

Don't blame luck, carefully analyze the reasons for failure.

Lessons should be learned after each failure.

Many people always complain in their lives about "bad luck", "not having that fate", "being born in the wrong place" and so on.

These people are still as immature as children, begging for sympathy, and before they know it, they don't notice that they have more and more opportunities to become self-reliant.

Stop blaming luck, if you keep doing this, no one will achieve their goals and ideals.

I have a friend of mine, Mr. M, who is a writer, literary consultant, and critic, and recently talked to me about the main reasons why he has become a successful writer.

"Many people who want to be writers,"

He explains:

"It's just that I'm not taking what I'm going to write too seriously. They just try to write for a short time and give up when they find that they need to put more effort into it. Such people don't have much patience because they're always looking for shortcuts that don't exist at all. ”

"But", he continued:

"I'm not trying to say that you just have to be consistent, it's usually not like that."

"I sent a colleague who had written sixty-two novels, but none of them were published. It's clear that he's obsessed with becoming a writer. But the problem with this one is that his novels are the same, and he has never really created anything that is his own. What I'm trying to do now is to get this gentleman to adopt some new methods and techniques, and he has the ability to do that. If he were willing to try, I am sure that most of his work would be published. However, before that, he may have to suffer a lot of setbacks and failures. ”

The advice of this cultural advisor is really good. We have to be persistent in everything we do, but perseverance is only one factor in victory, and we can try again and again.

But you have to combine persistence, experimentation, and science, or you'll just keep failing.

Edison is known as one of America's most persistent scientists.

It is recorded that he did many experiments before inventing the light bulb, and he persevered in inventing the light bulb, but he combined persistence with experimentation and science, and finally got his wish.

In some ways, perseverance doesn't always win.

But if you combine persistence, experimentation, and science, you will succeed.

Recently I read an article that reported on the continuous search for oil.

The article says that oil companies should carefully study the formation of rocks before drilling oil wells, and even then, despite their scientific analysis, seven out of ten of the wells they drill are dead and oil-free. Oil companies are persistent in finding oil.

It is not necessary to drill one well to how deep it is, but to drill a new well immediately when there is no oil in a well.

Most people who have a lifelong spirit of perseverance and also show great ambition.

However, they still failed because they did not experiment with new methods.

Stick to your goals and don't waver in the slightest.

But don't push yourself too hard, and if you don't get results, you might as well try another new path.

All people who have firm confidence and tenacious spirit have a fundamental quality to achieve success.

Here are some suggestions for setting up a new experimental method:

Tell yourself that "there is still a way, and there are always more ways than difficulties." ”

When you tell yourself, "I lost, there's no way to beat it." "Your mind will immediately react with negative thoughts. Every cell in your mind will justify the idea that you will fail.

In turn, it should be believed that "there is always a way to solve the problem," so that the positive factors will immediately fill your mind, and the wise cells will soon lead you to find a solution to the problem.

Therefore, believing that "there will be a way" is the most important thing.

The same is true of marriage, which can only be saved if both parties realize that "we can still win happiness again." "Only then will it be possible to save happiness, otherwise, everything will be of no avail.

There are thousands of businesses in society today, and in five years, only a small fraction may still be operating as usual.

Most of the losers will say, "The competition is so fierce that I have no choice but to close my business." ”

The real problem is that when these people encounter difficulties, they immediately think that they must fail, and the result is only failure.

When you believe that "there is a way", you will automatically hold on to the negative energy (forget it, back off!). Translate into positive motivation (keep going, don't give up halfway.) ）

A puzzle, a difficulty, can only really not be solved if you believe it can't be solved.

A solution will only be found if there is a solution.

Usually the longer you face a problem, the more you will not find a new solution.

An engineer friend of mine was hired a few weeks ago to work on a brand new aluminum structure.

In fact, no one has ever studied and designed this in the past.

I met him just a few days ago and I asked him how he was doing.

"Not very good", he replied:

"I think I've been spending too little time gardening this summer. When I'm faced with a difficult task for a long time, I have to leave for a while before some new ideas come to me. ”

"You may be surprised," he continues.

"When I'm growing flowers and watering trees, a lot of engineer ideas come to my mind."

At a press conference, a president was once asked why he spent so much time on weekends.

His answers are educational for everyone who wants to be as creative as possible.

Here's what the president said: "I don't believe that anyone, whether it's a car driver or the president of the United States, can do a good job just by sitting at a desk and reading one book after another all day." And in fact, as a president, he should get rid of some small things and think on his own, so that he can make more accurate and clear judgments. ”

One of my subordinates goes on a 72-hour outing with his wife every month.

He found that this practice of stopping and starting again greatly improved his productivity, and his work was so good that he became more and more prominent among the staff at the hospital.

When you get a little stuck, don't give up the whole plan easily, but quiet down and start from the beginning.

Think of everything as relaxing as listening to music or going for a walk, rather than being overly stressed.

When you face this difficulty again, you will quickly find the answer.

To see the good side of things, it makes sense in many situations.

A young man once told me how he found the good in things when he was unemployed.

Here's how he explains it:

"I was working for a large shopping mall. One day, I received a notice telling me to leave the mall. Because they were in financial difficulties, they had to lay off some of the staff who were not very important to the mall. “

"The salary of this job is not very high, but I live on it. I felt very sad within a few hours of being fired. Not bad, but later I saw this kicking out as a relief. I really didn't like that job for a long time, but I stayed there anyway, and now I think I can't stay any longer. It wasn't long before I found a job that I preferred and paid more. Being fired from this company was a bad thing at the time, but it was a good thing for my life. ”

Remember, in all cases, you can perceive what you want to see.

Look at the bright side and don't just think about failure.

As long as you're right. Everything will turn for good.

Here's a quick refresher, this will work for you:

A person's attitude towards setbacks, disabilities, blows, and other things that don't go their way determines whether he succeeds or fails.

Here are five things you can do to turn a defeat into a winner:

1. By studying the reasons for failure, you can find out the path to success. Whenever you fail, learn from it and try to succeed next time.

2. Dare to be a self-critic. Identifying your own shortcomings and weaknesses and then boldly correcting them will make you an expert.

3. Don't blame yourself for bad luck. Carefully study each failure to find out what the problem is. Remember, blaming yourself for your luck will never succeed.

4. Be patient, but also be good at practice and innovation. Stick to your goals, but don't get caught up with yourself. A new approach is often adopted, which is to constantly practice and innovate.

5. Remember, there is a bright side to every situation. Find it, see the good side, and drive away the discouraged gods.