Qian Mangui's home, Gu Xinting took Duoduo to watch TV in the living room, and in the gazebo in the courtyard, Li Mai and Qian Mangui sat facing each other, drinking tea and talking.

Li Mai smoked a cigarette one by one, and the sadness and confusion on his face were very obvious.

After coming out of the dwelling, he drove aimlessly around the city, his mind was chaotic, and all kinds of thoughts and considerations appeared at the same time. Slowly, he found that what really bothered him was not the forced cancellation of the birthday celebration, but the fear in his heart that had never been discovered.

I don't know why, he came to the house full of money.

As an investor with Qian Mangui, Li Mai usually has very little communication with Qian Mangui, and there is no need for him to come forward when he handles business matters. It stands to reason that when a person is most irritable and confused, the first thing that comes to mind must be the best friend, and from there he can usually get a way to untie the knot.

For no reason, what Li Mai remembered was that it was full of money. As for why this happened, perhaps the married life between Qian Mangui and his wife touched Li Mai.

When he first met Qian Mangui, he complained almost every time that there were losers in the family, this is not good, that is inappropriate, all kinds of contradictions, and even divorce. Maybe Li Mai hasn't taken these things to heart for so long, but when he suddenly realizes that he is about to enter marriage, he will suddenly remember this lesson from the past.

All doubts and fears will come together and suddenly erupt, and the fuse is the cancellation of the birthday celebration.

Li Mai shook his head unconsciously, looked at Qian Mangui, and said slowly, "Old Qian, I definitely love Zhang Xiaoyu, and there is no one who makes me so deeply in love." However, an hour ago, I suddenly dreamed about my married life, only to find that there were contradictions everywhere and unhappiness everywhere...... That always feels ...... I couldn't tell clearly, I was scared, and I was very uncertain. But I can't tell exactly what it is. ”

Qian Mangui filled him with tea, was silent for a while, and said seriously, "Mr. Li, you call me old money, I am a few years older than you, and I am also earlier than you in terms of marriage and children. I'll tell you what I think. ”

Li Mai listened attentively.

Sighing slightly, Qian Mangui looked at the night sky and said, "I want to tell you about my marriage with my wife at that time. I was a college classmate with her, in fact, you also saw it, I threw it into the pile of people and couldn't find a rough man, she was beautiful and had many suitors. The only reason I was able to chase her down was because I told her that I wanted to find a suitable woman to marry. She told me that what many people who chase her wants is vigorous love, sweet love. I was the first to get married, so she agreed to me. ”

After a pause, Qian Mangui continued, "She believes that a man who wants to marry is a man who is responsible. The combination of two people is not a simple change in the household register, nor is it a poke from the Civil Affairs Bureau, but a complete integration of two people and two families. Things that you can not consider when you fall in love, you must consider them everywhere when you get married. As a man, marrying a woman is equivalent to putting a family pressure on your shoulders. ”

Looking at Li Mai, Qian Mangui said, "The fear of this situation before marriage is caused by the storage of this potential pressure. The more you love her, the more terrified you become. Because you're going to worry and doubt yourself all the time, is it true that you're capable of giving her the life she wants? I don't think anyone would dare pat their chests on this and say I promise. ”

Smiling, Qian Mangui said, "At the beginning of marriage, because of the limited economic conditions, in order to have a better life, our energy was focused on earning money and working together. As a result, enough money was earned, and all kinds of contradictions began to appear. The root cause is that everyone's energy has begun to shift from career to family. Two people have two hearts, the most complex thing in the world is the human heart. When you are idle, you start to suspect me and I suspect you, so there are contradictions and conflicts. Before the divorce was reached, it was the trivial contradictions that accumulated to a critical point. ”

"Speaking of which, I have to thank you. Without your help, I am afraid that we may have regained our bitter but happy days, but we will also lose our superior living environment. ”

Shaking his head with a wry smile, Qian Mangui said, "It is one person who is in love with you, and it is another person who is married to you and has children." Mr. Li, to be honest, I personally agree with this sentence. Because life is full of examples of this. Exceptions like me are destined to experience the ups and downs of marriage. If you can get through these moments together, you will be able to completely integrate with each other, and all the contradictions and conflicts in the future will only be small problems that will inevitably arise in life. ”

Smiling again, Qian Mangui said, "Mr. Li, you suddenly feel bottomless and fearful now, according to me, you care too much about Teacher Zhang, so you are afraid that your life after marriage will not be what she hopes." If this happens, you will feel guilty and you will blame yourself. ”

Li Mai's eyes drifted a little, and his mind was constantly digesting what Qian Mangui said. Obviously, when it comes to doing business, he is a hundred times more expensive than money. But on the issue of marriage, Qian Mangui's perception is more profound than his.

"I thought I had figured out marriage. Back then, I went to register my marriage with Haohao's mother in private, but after less than two months of getting along, I went to the army. Li Mai groaned and said, "Maybe I experienced the sweetness at the beginning, but I didn't experience the five flavors and stale tastes that came later." ”

Qian Mangui nodded and said, "Every marriage is like this. From the initial sweetness, it slowly became bland and lost passion. Everything we did together before has a freshness and will be remembered very clearly. After a long time, it becomes natural to do those things again. People are like this, the desire for freshness and excitement in the heart will always exist. The key is not to let these desires dominate. ”

"Marriage means responsibility, it embodies responsibility. Without a sturdy skeleton, it is difficult to carry such a burden. Qian Mangui said solemnly, "Marriage is the grave of love." There is some truth to this statement. The transition from love to family affection, marriage is a watershed. Love can be beautiful most of the time, but family affection is heavy most of the time. Being in the midst of such emotional changes, the views and opinions of two people will naturally be affected. Hence friction and contradictions. ”

Qian Mangui suddenly smiled and said, "But one of the truths I have realized during this time shows that these are not problems - as long as the hearts of two people are still together." ”

Li Mai looked at Qian Mangui with admiration and said, "Old Qian, you surprised me. I didn't expect your understanding to be so profound. ”

"Alas, life is a lifelong mentor, and man is a lifelong student. Who wants to hurt their brains, but life forces you not to think. If two people don't think about it, then the contradiction will never be resolved. Qian Mangui said, "Mr. Li, in fact, I think you have thought too much. I've heard about you and Mr. Zhang. To be honest, Teacher Zhang is not a big beauty, I believe you think so yourself. The family background is not much superior. But the most important thing is that you and her, fit. ”

"Suitable ......" Li Mai repeated these two words, thinking, and said slowly, "I often see such a phenomenon. Many couples, if the man is a handsome guy, then his wife is bound to look bad, if the woman is a beautiful woman, then the man must be ordinary. Many times I am very puzzled, how can such a beautiful woman find such a dirty man? How can such a handsome guy marry a woman who is not very good-looking?"

Smiling, Li Mai said, "The only explanation is what you just said, appropriate." ”

"Haha! That's right!" Qian Mangui patted his thigh, pointed to his neck and then to the room, "I am a typical example." ”

"Alas, God is just. The so-called handsome men and beautiful women come in pairs, and I am afraid that more often they will only be stored in TV dramas. Li Mai said helplessly.

Qian Mangui nodded approvingly, thought about it, and said, "Mr. Li, have you ever thought that the life you imagine Teacher Zhang wants may not be the life she envisions. ”

Li Mai didn't react for a while, "What do you mean?"

"What you think Teacher Zhang wants in life may not be what she wants. Qian Mangui said, "Perhaps, what she wants is just a reliable man, a man who can stay with her until she is old." As for what kind of situation the life of two people together will be, whether they are rich or poor, I am afraid it is not the focus of her consideration. They are all adults, and I believe that Mr. Zhang also has a very cautious idea of his own when considering marriage, so he is psychologically prepared. ”

After a pause, Qian Mangui summed up with a smile: "In other words, you are scaring yourself and giving yourself inexplicable fear." ”

This time, Li Mai pondered for a long time. In recent days, there has been very little communication between him and Zhang Xiaoyu about this. The topic of marriage has never been raised. What Zhang Xiaoyu was thinking in his heart, did he know? As Qian Mangui said, maybe this qiē is simply Li Mai himself scaring himself.

A woman who takes care of her son for herself without a name and no money, endures the gossip outside and even almost gets expelled from school. Can't you see something?

"I think I'm sluggish, very sluggish. Li Mai said guiltily, "I should have understood that she had already expressed all her thoughts and attitudes with practical actions." ”

Qian Mangui smiled slightly and said, "Mr. Li, I'll go back with you, take a lot with you." ”