"Okay, Auntie promises you." Lin Xia agreed, and the little boy's self-esteem still had to be protected.

Seeing that Lin Xia agreed, Xiaojun went home with confidence.

After Xiaojun went back, he didn't think about the New Year's money, but he was a little worried that Aunt Lin would tell his mother about it, but when he saw that his mother didn't get angry and beat people for two or three days, Xiaojun was relieved.

In fact, Lin Xia didn't have time to say it, because everyone was busy during the New Year, and Yang Hongmei didn't come to visit the door, she was busy celebrating the Lantern Festival for the two little guys and also busy celebrating the birthday of the two little guys.

After finishing a busy period of time, Lin Xia had time to go to Yang Hongmei's house, since she promised the child, she didn't say that Xiaojun wanted to change his mother, but just said the matter of New Year's money.

"Aren't you afraid of children spending money indiscriminately?" Yang Hongmei was a little surprised when she heard Lin Xia agree to the child.

After Han Wei's fetal image stabilized, she went back to work, He Xiao was not in class, and was busy making clothes for the child, listening to Lin Xia's suggestion, the child's skin was tender, and the cotton cloth used after washing was soft and skin-friendly.

"It's only a few dollars, and I don't lack these money, but I can just train them if I hand it over to the children." Lin Xia remembered what happened when he was studying, generally children who were strictly controlled by their parents would have a rebellious period, and the way to rebel was to go against it.

Whatever aspect is strictly controlled, she is rebellious in what aspect, her university is a prestigious university, and it stands to reason that she should be very hard to study in front of her to be admitted to this school.

It's just that she didn't expect her roommate to fail to finish her studies later, because in high school, she was forced by her parents to study, and she would be forced to ask why she was wrong when she scored 99 points in the exam, and she didn't understand the idea of caring about her roommate at all.

Later, when she came to college, her parents were far away and couldn't control her, so she abandoned her studies and played crazy during college, as if she wanted to make up for all the things she was missing before.

Lin Xia feels that communication between parents and children is still very important, "Don't look at children as young, but they are growing up, it is the time to have their own ideas, what we adults have to do is to understand and respect their ideas." ”

"They are not an extension of our lives, they should live as they want to be, so don't lock them up with our thoughts, just guide them when they go the wrong way."

Children will fly away when they grow up, they are independent personalities and lives.

It was the first time for Yang Hongmei to hear such words, and she instinctively wanted to refute it, but for some reason she thought of her own parents.

"You don't want the kids to say anything to you in the future, do you?" Lin Xia saw her hesitate.

Yang Hongmei immediately thought that she had nothing to say to her parents, and her parents knew that Wu Deye was a soldier and had a high allowance, so they told her to remember her family and help her family.

The thoughts imposed on her by her parents are not what Lin Xia said.

Thinking about it like this, Yang Hongmei feels that her heart hurts, the child she worked so hard to raise will not kiss you in the future, and she may not even want to go home.

He Xiao was stunned, she thought of herself, I don't know when she didn't want to go home, she hasn't been back to the countryside so far, and now she is only notifying her family if she gets married.

Lowered her head and reached out to touch her belly, this is her child, thinking of the picture Lin Xia said, if the child doesn't kiss her in the future, then what will she do when she is born!

"Communicate more with your children and listen to their ideas." Lin Xia saw that the two of them listened and said with a smile.

"How do you communicate this?" Yang Hongmei hesitated a little, although she listened to what Lin Xia said, she still felt a little awkward.

Since ancient times, children have listened to their parents, and now let her listen to her children, no matter how much psychological construction she does, she is still a little unacceptable.

"Hmm... Let's start with the New Year's money. Lin Xia thought about it for a while, and also thought about how difficult it is for people to change their consistent thinking, "You might as well ask the child why he wants to press the New Year's money, many things are better than being blocked." ”

"If they want it, I'll give it?" Yang Hongmei frowned, isn't this used to being a child.

"You can make an appointment with them for three chapters, you can give them money, but you can give them rules on how to spend it." Lin Xia gave Yang Hongmei an idea, "There is another way to let the children exchange the fruits of their labor for money, such as doing housework and helping you with errands." ”

"Do you want to give them money for running errands?" Yang Hongmei's eyes widened, a little unacceptable, she had never heard that adults had to spend money to ask children to do things.

Lin Xia knew that she couldn't accept it, but from An An's childhood to Lele Ningning now, she found that children actually like to help adults do things.

The sense of accomplishment of being trusted to be able to accomplish something independently and being praised after completion can cultivate children's self-confidence and their sense of responsibility.

But this will Lin Xia tell them about a sense of responsibility and self-confidence, and they will not understand that this kind of thing is not something that can be seen by her.

"The money you spend is just what you buy for them, and they buy it themselves, and the money they earn through their own labor will be even more reluctant to spend."

Just like when I was studying, it was easy to spend the living expenses I got from my parents, but the money I earned through sweat and tears would be remembered and cherished even more when I spent it.

Yang Hongmei thought about it, the children were clamoring to eat biscuits and snacks, even if the conditions were bad, they would be willing, speaking of which the money had never been saved, and now it seemed that it was not impossible to give them money directly.

"Then I'll go back and discuss with them and try it?" Yang Hongmei confirmed to Lin Xia that those words made her think a lot, but she inexplicably wanted to believe what Lin Xia said.

"Try it, it's not up to you to decide how much to give anyway!" Lin Xia nodded.

On the same day, after Yang Hongmei returned home, she called her three children.

Xiaojun saw his mother's serious face, and thought that she went to Aunt Lin's house today, and his heart suddenly hanged.

"I have something to tell you... Consult. Yang Hongmei paused, thinking of what Lin Xia said to communicate well.

"What's the matter?" When Dajun saw his mother so formal, he always felt that something was wrong.

When Xiao Jun saw this posture, his legs couldn't help but tremble, and he was thinking about where he would run and not be caught.

"It's okay to give you New Year's money." Yang Hongmei said slowly.

Both of them's eyes widened in disbelief when they heard this.

"But!"

Hearing this, the widening eyes of the two suddenly darkened.

Sure enough, how the could be so talkative!

"But what?" Niuniu answered the call with a milky voice, tilted her head and looked at her mother and asked.

The big army and the small army are also good at staring at their mothers closely.