"Uncle, you're so miserable." Xie Simin took pity on Qin Feng.

"I'm not talking about how miserable I am, I just want you to understand the helplessness in your relationship. You keep telling me that you love me, girl, do you know what love is? Qin Feng asked Xie Simin.

"Love...... Isn't love like someone? ”

"Accurate, but not accurate. Love is liking, or the premise of love is liking, but it is not just liking. It's like when you go to the mall and see a beautiful dress, you like it very much, so even if you spend a month's living expenses and would rather eat instant noodles the next month, you have to buy it and take it home and keep it for yourself. ”

"Love, then?" Xie Simin asked.

"Love, love is that you like this dress very much, very, very much, but you know that this dress is not suitable for you, the style and color do not match you, you can't wear it to reflect the beauty of this dress, it will only spoil this dress. So you'll give up on buying this dress, preferring to look twice a day when you pass by the store. ”

Of course, the analogy is not accurate, the clothes are not people, it has no emotion, but the meaning is the same. Like is a preference, and love is an emotion, liking is an animal instinct, just like children are born to like toys, women are born to like clothes, men are born to like beautiful women, like to want to possess, this is a desire, a kind of demand. ”

"And love is the kind of giving, as long as he can live well, I am willing to give everything for it, love is a kind of emotional sublimation, therefore, love is giving, not possession."

"Girl, tell me now, do you really love me?" Qin Feng asked Xie Simin.

"I ...... I...... I do not know. Xie Simin was confused by what Qin Feng said.

"You may like me, because you are in love, and I happened to appear in your world at the age of your first love, so you have a crush on me. If it wasn't me who appeared in your world at that time, but another man who made you less annoying, you would have a crush on him as well. Qin Feng tried to convince Xie Simin.

"No, it's not like this, Qin Feng, don't try to subvert my cognition, I'm twenty-one years old this year, although I still don't understand the difference between love and liking, but I know very well whether I like you or not." Xie Simin said coldly, she was very angry.

"Okay, then I'll change the word, let's stop talking about love and liking, I'll talk about my three relationship experiences now, you should have some insights after listening to what I said."

"My first relationship, with my college girlfriend, I ask you a question, why when we were in college, we could be desperate and swear that we would stay together for the rest of our lives no matter whether each other was poor or rich in the future, but when we entered society, we immediately changed completely?"

"Because she's a green tea." Xie Simin said fiercely.

Qin Feng shook his head and said, "Her essence is not bad, if her essence is so bad, she would not have chosen to be with me, a poor boy, and there are a lot of rich second-generation people chasing her in the school." The reason for this is that school and society are two completely different environments, which is the difference between ideals and reality. ”

"Ideals can be very beautiful, just like the simple and beautiful world of school, but once you enter the society, everything is cruel, and there will be no more beautiful simplicity, in the face of reality, ideals are worthless, because there are many things that are more important than ideals and love, such as survival."

"The inappropriateness of the two of us is that you have not yet entered society, you have not experienced the cruelty of society, you are still too simple, living in your ideals. When you enter the society, you will find that in fact, your liking for me is nothing at all, and you will also realize that it is impossible and inappropriate between you and me. ”

"Let me talk about my second relationship, the second relationship is with Zhou Qian, you know something about this relationship, I love Zhou Qian very much, she loves me, I love her, love is dead and alive. I love her so much, why didn't this marriage last half a year even if I got married in the end? ”

"It's because I have different values and worldviews from her, and it's also because of my personality differences. People's values and worldview are closely related to the environment in which he lived since childhood, and two people with completely different living environments will have completely different perceptions of the world. ”

"Girl, do you think we both have the same three views? Although the age difference between me and you is not so terrifying, in fact, I am two generations from you, and my way of life and understanding of the world are closer to your parents' time. ”

"You like to drink Coke, I like to drink tea, you like nightlife, you like to be lively, I like to be quiet, I like to read, you can not sleep at night and never wake up in the morning, and I am used to going to bed early and getting up early, you like freshness and excitement, and I like the same life every day......"

"The music you like is the so-called hip-hop rap, and I feel sick to my stomach when I look at these people, you like to follow entertainment stars, and I don't know any of them, I don't even watch TV, I like to read newspapers and watch the news."