"In troubled times, marriage is blocked, the water is far away and the mountains are far away, and it is difficult to send lovesick words. Lu Baixia is bitter, who will protect Baochai's light? Frequently traveled all over the world, chivalrous and tender, and wanted to spit on the Yiren. There is a east wind blowing and dark rain, and the moon is slanting and the wind is set to rise. Liang Yusheng "Butterfly Love Flowers • Troubled Marriages and Blockages"

Speaking of marriage, I think of Huang An's "Saving Marriage", and Quan named the title "Saving Marriage", and also thought of two stories in Buddhism.

The first.

There is a scholar who falls in love with a woman, and it is difficult to give up. But then the woman left him. This scholar was in pain, puzzled, and depressed.

The family called many doctors to no avail.

At this time, a traveling monk came to his house, and in order to enlighten the scholar, the monk took out a treasure mirror and let the scholar look inside.

In the mirror, there is a sea with a woman* lying on the shore, and the woman is dead.

At this time, a passerby walked by, sighed, and walked away.

When the second person walked by, he took off his blouse and put it over the woman, and also left.

When the third person passed by, he saw the woman's body exposed on the beach, and felt that he couldn't bear it, so he buried her.

The old monk explained to the scholar: The dead woman is the woman's previous life, your previous life is the second person, you have no marriage, but she remembers your gift of clothes in your previous life, and comes to repay you in this life, so you only have a short fate.

And her husband is the one who buried her in a previous life.

Marriage is born because of "fate", but how can we find our fate?

Think about it, who is the one who buried you in a previous life?

The second story.

A long time ago, there was a temple where many people came to worship the Buddha every day. On the beam in front of the Buddha in the temple, there is a spider with a web.

As a result of their frequent incense and devotional worship, spiders develop spirituality.

After thousands of years of cultivation, the spider Buddha nature has greatly increased.

One day, the Buddha went to the temple and was very happy to see the incense burning here.

When leaving the temple, the Buddha Lord did not easily look up and saw the spiders on the beams.

The Buddha stopped and asked the spider: "You and I have a fate, I know that you have spirituality, then let me ask you a question, to see what insight you have cultivated for thousands of years." ”

The spider was very happy and quickly agreed.

The Buddha asked, "What is the most precious thing in this world?"

The spider thought for a moment and replied, "The most precious ones are 'not obtained' and 'lost'. The Buddha Lord smiled and nodded and left.

After another thousand years, the spider was still cultivating in the temple, and its Buddha nature had improved a lot.

One day, the Buddha came to the temple again and asked the spider: "Are you okay, what do you know more about that question a thousand years ago?"

"I still think the most precious things are 'not obtained' and 'lost'

The Buddha said, "If you think about it again, I will come to you again." ”

Another thousand years passed.

One day there was a strong wind, and the wind blew a drop of nectar onto the spider's web.

When the spider saw the nectar, he saw that it was crystal clear and very beautiful, and he loved it.

The spider was very happy to look at the nectar, and it felt that it was the happiest time in thousands of years.

But another gust of wind blew the nectar out of the door.

The spider suddenly felt that he had lost a lot and felt very lonely and sad.

At this time, the Buddha came again and asked the spider: "In the past thousand years, have you ever thought carefully about that question: What is the most precious thing in the world?"

Thinking of the lost nectar, the spider said to the Buddha, "I think the most precious things in the world are 'not obtained' and 'lost'. ”

The Buddha Lord smiled: "Okay, since you have such an understanding, I will let you go to the world for a trip." ”

Therefore, the spider was reincarnated into a family of eunuchs and became a rich lady, and her parents named her Spider.

When the spider reached the age of sixteen, she grew into a beautiful girl, very beautiful and cute.

At that time, the new champion Ganlu High School was on the list, and the emperor held a celebration banquet for him in the back garden. During the banquet, many young girls came, including Spider and Princess Changfeng.

Ganlu performed a great talent during the banquet, and all the girls present were impressed by him.

But Spider didn't care at all, because she knew that it might be a marriage given to her by the Buddha.

A few days later, it was a coincidence that when Spider accompanied her mother to worship the Buddha, it happened that Ganlu also accompanied her mother.

The two elders spoke on the side.

Spider and Ganlu chatted in the hallway, and Spider was very happy that she could finally be with the person she liked, but Ganlu did not show affection for her.

Spider asked Ganlu, "Do you remember what happened on the spider web in the temple before?"

Ganlu was surprised: "Spider girl, you are beautiful and likable, but your imagination is too rich. ”

When the spider comes home, it is unpredictable. Since the Buddha had arranged this marriage, why didn't he remind him of that incident, and why didn't Ganlu feel anything about me?

A few days later, the emperor issued an edict ordering Ganlu and Princess Changfeng to get married, and Zhu'er and Prince Zhicao to get married.

This news was like a thunderbolt in the sky for the spider, and she couldn't understand how the Buddha Lord had arranged it like this.

For several days, the spider did not eat or drink, meditated, and the soul was about to come out of the shell and die. When the prince Zhicao found out, he hurried over, threw himself on the side of the bed, and said to the dying spider: "That day, among the women in the back garden, I fell in love with you at first sight, and I begged my father before he promised to promise you to me. If you die, then I don't live either. After that, he picked up the sword and killed himself.

At this critical moment, the Buddha came and said to the soul of the spider, "Spider, do you know who brought the nectar to you? It was the wind that brought it to you, and it was the wind that took it away." So Ganlu belongs to Princess Changfeng, and he is just an episode in your life. But Prince Zhicao was a small grass in front of the temple back then, he looked at you for 3,000 years, loved you for 3,000 years, and you didn't look down at it. Spider, let me ask you again, what is the most precious thing in the world?"

When the spider heard these truths, she seemed to have an enlightenment, and she said to the Buddha, "The most precious thing in the world is not 'not obtained' and 'lost', but the happiness that can be grasped now." ”

As soon as he finished speaking, the Buddha turned into a gust of wind and left, and the soul of the spider also returned to its place.

When she opened her eyes, she saw the sad prince Zhicao, and immediately dropped her sword and hugged the prince affectionately.

At this point in the story, can you grasp what the spider said at the end?

"The most precious thing in the world is not 'not obtained' and 'lost', but the happiness that can be grasped now. ”

Writing this, I am reminded of an ancient poem: "You are stupid, I am fascinated." So far, obsessed with two for whom. Ask how to know every day, Sauvignon Blanc, extremely acacia. I hope that when the marriage is not over, we will reunite in this life. Shi Xiaoyou's "Sauvignon Blanc, You're Crazy"

Many people in the world are obsessed with marriage, what is marriage, which makes people have a lot of thoughts.

Recently, I was shocked to hear a story told by a friend that he heard.

Many years ago, there was a young man, who was still very young, who went to the hospital for a blood test, and suddenly came across a patient's family member who needed someone else to donate blood.

As soon as I understood, it turned out that he was of this blood type.

So the young people volunteered to donate blood. It was a young girl who was rescued. When his family asked him what he needed, he left a note: "Don't ask for anything in return, just good fortune." Blessings are given by the decision of God. ”

So he didn't look back.

Then he grew into a young man, and one day a friend begged him to do a favor, and he met a little girl there, and the girl was standing next to the scene, and he inadvertently looked at the girl a few times, and smiled a few jokes.

Later, when he came out, the girl was very interested in his motorcycle, so he asked the girl to sit in the car and take her around a few times, and then the naughty girl twisted the accelerator and almost knocked him down, and he just laughed.

Before leaving, the girl asked him, "When will I see you again?"

The young man said, "When you are older, let's talk about it!"

"How much longer?"

"Wait until you're eighteen!"

But time passed, and in the blink of an eye, the young man became middle-aged, and the girl grew up.

But when the girl was eighteen years old, he did not appear, and he had already moved to another place.

Now, by chance, he saw a girl again, and the young man seemed to think that this was the girl back then, but he hesitated and couldn't judge.

But he liked that girl a little, although it seemed that there was a gap in their age, but he vaguely felt that this was why he had been single, maybe God had made him wait for someone.

He was very hesitant, could it be that there was a marriage in this world, but what would that girl think? He never said it, if it wasn't like that at all, maybe God was playing tricks on people.

However, he suspected that this girl was the same girl he had once donated blood, and then met her, and now he saw her again, perhaps he was mistaken.

But maybe it's a misunderstanding, and maybe it can only become a thing of the past.

But time passes, many things have passed, we don't necessarily believe in God, but we can also believe that there is really fate in this world, no matter how fate comes, whether there is fate or not, or whether you can grasp it, but people in this world will not get together because of a fate, no matter what kind of person you become in the end, acquaintances or strangers, or others.

Some people may say that fate is just a fabrication. But I also want to say that if a person is just a layman in the world, even if he sees a story about Buddha-nature, he will only think of some slanderous words. Therefore, people have to have some spirituality, whether you believe in the dark things of this world or not, just like you can't see the tears of a fish, but the tears of a fish are in the water.

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