Chapter 39 Xiangzhou Mansion Xia Family (1)

The doll is not a joke that the parents of both sides say casually, and it must be determined according to the rules, although it is not as cumbersome as the formal marriage contract, but the meaning is almost complete, roughly divided into four steps.

The first step is "proposing", which means that the man invites the matchmaker to the woman's home to formally propose.

The second step is to "look at people". The matchmaker will take the woman's parents to the man's house to inspect and see if the family is good.

"Look at people's homes" is not just about looking at the family background, but mainly needs the commitment of the father in the man's family, and the children will be given to those family properties when they get married, and the family property refers to the real estate and land, so that the woman's family can rest assured that the baby is married.

The third step is "Wending", the man carries a gift, and asks the matchmaker to exchange the "Geng post" at the woman's house, and the Geng post is written with the name, birthdate, hometown, three generations of ancestors, etc., commonly known as "Hebazi".

The fourth step is "Dading", which mainly refers to the man giving a deposit, a cake and a variety of ornaments, etc., as a gift for the formal engagement of the alliance. At this time, the two parties write a marriage contract and exchange tokens.

Through the above four steps, the doll is decided. As for the last two steps, it is necessary to wait for the child to grow up, and the man will first go to the woman's house with the marriage contract and tokens to "beg for the day", and finally welcome the relatives, visit the church, and get married.

The people here are the most important promises, after getting married, write down the marriage contract and exchange tokens, even if there is a major change in the family in the future, it becomes unmatched, and the marriage contract still needs to be fulfilled as usual.

Although it is possible for both parties to negotiate the dissolution of the marriage contract, it is not possible to dissolve the marriage contract unilaterally.

If one party repents, not only will it be considered very immoral and be poked in the backbone by the villagers, but the other party can bring the marriage letter to the government to complain, according to the law at the time, the marriage contract must be enforced!

There are also women whose family power is amazing, and after the man is down, the woman regrets and succeeds in marriage. But there is no impermeable wall in the world, and after the rumors of the matter got out, the reputation of the woman's family was ruined.

There are even literati and writers who compile the act of repentance of marriage into dramas and sing them to warn the world.

Since Hu Mei was not joking casually, Hu Hai also paid attention to it, so he and Hu Mei went to the old patriarch together, and the old patriarch was silent for a long time, and finally said: "It's better to marry a little farther!"

Since the family agreed, Hu Mei invited a matchmaker nearby, brought gifts, and officially went to Hu Hai's house to propose.

This matchmaker is just going through the motions, and she is the third aunt of the Hu family who is familiar to both parties.

The third aunt can become a matchmaker, not because she can speak well, but because she is popular. She is helpful, treats everyone equally, never quarrels with people, and everyone in and out of the village can talk.

The third aunt has never taken the initiative to be a matchmaker, and the matchmaker she does is not the kind that needs to fool people, but the kind of ready-made matchmaker.

In fact, the man and woman have already decided on the marriage, but they need a matchmaker to hear the truth, and this kind of matchmaker does not need to make any effort, it is more of a formality.

The ready-made matchmaker is also to thank the matchmaker, and the third aunt was used as an established ready-made matchmaker by the village, in addition to her good popularity, it is also a kind of reward for the whole village to help her, and it also advocates that "good people have good rewards".

The third aunt came to the door today, Hu Hai warmly welcomed her into the hall, the third aunt is in her forties, not too old, medium in stature, ordinary in appearance, and a few faint freckles on her face.

For a real matchmaker, matchmaking is her profession. For the third aunt, it is an honorable thing to say that the matchmaker is the recognition of herself by the people in the village.

People are in good spirits on happy occasions, although the third aunt is dressed as conspicuous as a real matchmaker, but the clothes are also very festive, with her radiant look and confident smile, showing an inner beauty.

Although the third aunt is a ready-made matchmaker, it is not easy to be a matchmaker this time. She handed over the gifts prepared by Hu Mei, and after saying an opening remark, she directly set three days later to accompany Hu Hai to Xiangzhou Mansion to "see people".

The Xia family is a big family and pays a lot of attention to it, although Hu Mei is favored in her own family, but her husband has to make up her mind about major matters.

This time I went to "see people", and I had to bring Xiao Zhengying with me to let the Xia family pass by. In fact, it mainly depends on whether the Xia family is satisfied or not, so that they can decide whether to get married or not.

Hu Hai doesn't care much about whether the family affair is successful, but he is still willing to go to Xiangzhou Mansion. Although he has only been admitted to the show for a few years, he has not been far away, and he has not even been to Sunset City.

In the last Xiangzhou Mansion's lifting exam, Hu Hai did not participate in it due to lack of preparation and his wife's lack of childbirth. There is less than two years to hold the lifting exam, and Hu Hai has no reason not to participate this time.

Now that he has the opportunity to visit Xiangzhou Mansion, Hu Hai is still very happy, but his wife has just given birth to a son, although his mother-in-law takes a maid to serve the confinement here, Hu Hai is not just leaving.

Fortunately, there were still three days to go, Hu Hai greeted his parents, arranged all the food at home, including firewood, and then reluctantly separated from his wife and children and took his daughter to Xiangzhou Mansion.

Along the way, Hu Mei and her two children sat in the carriage of the Xia family, while Hu Hai carried a simple bookcase on his back, a picture of a traveling scholar, and followed behind the carriage.

Xiao Zhengying is very sensible, and he doesn't recognize life when he is alone with outsiders, and tries to play with his cousin, just like a big sister letting her younger brother, Hu Hai can't help but feel a little sad, thinking that this will not wronged his daughter?

Hu Hai thought to himself, although the big family is good, you also need people to treat you. This time to "look at others", once the cousin-in-law's family shows that they are half unwilling, they can't force their daughter to give it to them, so that the daughter will suffer because of it. is such an excellent daughter, and she is not afraid that she will not be able to marry!

The coachmen of the Xia family are all sons of the Xia family, and they are all very loyal and very reasonable in terms of itinerary.

After setting off in the morning, I passed directly through Peach Blossom Town, arrived at Sunset City just before dark, and rested at the hotel for a night.

Seeing the bustling scene of Peach Blossom Town and Sunset City, although Xiao Zhengying still didn't laugh, his eyes were full of yearning.

In the afternoon of the next day, the carriage arrived at the location of Xia's house in the east of Xiangzhou Prefecture, Hu Mei led the child into the door of his house, and his son Xia Fang ran in a hurry, calling his father while running.

But there was no expected scene of the father's greeting, the house was deserted, only a few maids sat at home, and Hu Mei's husband was not at home.

Xia Fang lost face in front of Hu Zhengying, tears swirled in her eyes, and Hu Mei's face was also very ugly.

Hu Mei called the maids over and asked, it turned out that the lady of her husband's eldest brother's family gave birth to a big fat boy, and the whole clan was eating "Three Dynasties" wine in the Xia family sect, so the master was not at home.