You try to send her WeChat and text messages every day, ask for warmth, weather forecasts, common sense of life, and humorous jokes without stopping...... QQ and WeChat keep asking if you are there, are you free, are you having a good time today, and rest early when you are tired...... Or try to ask the other person out, say please dinner, please watch a movie, or even a concert...... All of these actions have a common result: she ignores you.

In recent years, after meeting enough students and brothers, and listening to their pain and distress, a special feeling has always haunted me. I didn't pay much attention to it before, but now, I have cleared the fog and distilled this looming feeling in words - in the simplest terms, it is: I like a girl, I am unreservedly considerate and affectionate with her, and I am desperately good for her, and she doesn't seem to appreciate it, hot and cold, fluctuating. Some brothers tried to confess, but were coldly rejected by the woman.

The simple summary is the above few sentences, to the woman handed over your heart but received such feedback, it seems that it does not hurt or itch, but the performance described below, I dare to say that it can hit 90% of the brothers who read this article: you try to send her WeChat and text messages every day, shh......h

QQ and WeChat keep asking if you are there, are you free, are you having a good time today, and rest early when you are tired...... Or try to ask the other person out, say please dinner, please watch a movie, or even a concert......

There are many more similar actions, but they all have a common result: women ignore you.

The other party generally doesn't reply to WeChat, at best, oh, well, I know, I'm going to take a bath, I'm sleeping, (goddess 3 treasures). It's even harder to make an appointment - I've made an appointment, I have something to do, I have a document to work on......

Even if you finally make an appointment, you find that you also brought a girlfriend, at the end of the day, eating, drinking and having fun, your wallet is empty, the key is that the other party hasn't paid much attention to you, and you have become a free ATM.

Brother in front of the computer and mobile phone, has the above situation happened to you? If so, please bow your head and observe three minutes of silence - everyone may know a word, spare tire, although it is not good, but unfortunately, you are the other party's spare tire.

Don't be anxious and sad, we always have to get things out, since we are dead, we must also die to understand, but many brothers for various reasons, after becoming a woman's spare tire, or sinking alone, indulging in Internet tobacco and alcohol, or venting their grievances, friends and family have become punching bags......

A real man is not like this, they will settle down to analyze the reasons, improve themselves, and wait for an opportunity to make a comeback. If you are also this kind of brother, then please close the door, calm down, word by word, carefully look down, and then I will tell you why you died if you did this.

First of all, I would like to give you a word, 99% of the love methods you know are ineffective.

In general, the method of love you know is nothing more than from TV, novels, movies, and TV series, where the male protagonist is good to women, and you also learn to be good to women, but people have the halo of the protagonist, and women will fall in love with others, but your goal will not fall in love with you because you are good to her.

However, if your target becomes a man, and you care about him, talk to him often, and play with him, it is not surprising that you will become very good friends, and the other party will take the initiative to care about you and open up to you. But if you do this to a woman, you will generally die, because: first, if you do this, it is easy for the woman to see through the intention, that is, you want to pursue her, and at this time, there are two situations, 1, the woman happens to like you too, so there is a fairytale ending, 2, the woman has no feelings for you, so there is the ending described at the beginning.

Second, the woman you want should be an attractive woman, there must be no shortage of suitors around such a woman, but you won't know that it's not just that you're good to her, she's surrounded by a lot of people like you, she receives enough care and love, according to the weakness of human nature - people don't cherish those things that are at their fingertips, too much and they get bored, she won't care about these concerns, at this time, you show the same hush and warmth as everyone else, it will make the woman feel very bored.

3. When you do this, you are currying favor with women, and when looking for a boyfriend, a woman will look for those real people who can really lead her, who can rest assured that she can leave everything to the other party to lead, looking for the feeling of sitting on her father's bicycle when she was a child, rather than those who are like a little brother to please her, give her expensive gifts, invite her to dinner and watch movies, and humbly ask "Can I hold your hand?"

Speaking of which, some brothers should understand, but some people still don't see the coffin and don't cry, and release the last killer move: not only seen in movies, TV, and novels, but also many examples in reality show that when men do this, women will eventually be moved, and then they will be happily together.

Here I want to give you an example, just imagine, a girl you don't feel, buy you breakfast every day, say good night to you every night, she is the first time to comfort you when you are unhappy, etc., in this case, you will also be very moved, but will you be with her because you are moved?

Of course not! Touched is not the same as attracted, you can expect a woman to be moved, and then the woman says to you, you are really good, you are a good person, I am very moved, but we still be friends, this will be longer.

Women don't stay with you because they're moved, take a step back and say, if that's the case, there's a chance that anyone who can move her will take your place. Even if she is with you, one day, if the man who can really make her heart pound appears, she will still leave you without looking back.

Having said all this, I believe you should also understand the real reason for your failure.

But don't be sad, know that at least two-thirds of the men in the world will be like you, because I used to be like that, and the other mentors in our team came from this threshold.

A few years ago, when I was rejected for being kind to a woman, I began to think about the failures (no one would have shown me such an article at that time), I began to observe the good people around me, and I began to look for answers from foreign language sources, and gradually I found the reason.

What first caught my attention was the fact that whether it was in TV series, movies, novels or examples around me, those unruly gangsters, little ruffians never seemed to lack women around them, even if they punched and kicked women, women still did not give up, even if they broke up, a week later, a new woman would appear around them.

This situation is no stranger to everyone, which is contrary to our usual logic, we think we should be good to women, but they are not "good" to women at all.

Of course, being bad for women here is not bad for women, adding up bad words or slandering and contempt, and if you look closely, you will find that they usually have an indifferent attitude towards women. To put it bluntly, that is to say, you are here, I will not please you, if you leave, I will not try to keep you, and even do not attach much importance to your attitude, often ridicule or make jokes about women, and women are not only not angry, but also more and more sticky to them, and finally come together.

Later, I gradually understood the truth of this, many of our brothers are good to women, which is a kind of "flattery", which is manifested in: pay attention to how women see themselves, whether they like themselves or not.

It doesn't matter if a woman thinks she is rich, handsome, and tall.

We care about too many things, and those who are very good at dealing with women seem to have never cared about women, they don't care about women, which is manifested in: 1. I don't care what women think of themselves, women think they are handsome, handsome, they don't care, they don't care if they like it, they don't like it, in stark contrast to most of us. And this looks very masculine.

Second, if I have assets of hundreds of millions, I definitely don't care about money, and if I have more than a dozen sports cars at home, then I will definitely not be blushing at those famous cars. In the same way, they don't care about women like this, maybe we can't feel it, but a woman's unusually sharp social intuition will tell her that they are not short of women, they must be surrounded by women, and they are liked by many women, so they don't please women, they don't care, they are like those limited edition bags, it is a huge temptation.

3. This seems to be very confident, in the popular language, it is unrestrained and foreign, with connotation, crazy and cool, and it is not flattering to women, but it is friendly. Such a man will be like a mandala flower in hell, with a fatal attraction, which fascinates women and wants to understand them more deeply, because they don't try to please her like other men, they are like a fan, and women will be crazy to uncover the mystery - and this is what we often call attraction, a very strong attraction.