How to cultivate the mind

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Live in the moment

Don't always think about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday, but focus on what you want to do today. Because regret, remorse, guilt and sadness do not change the past, they only make it difficult to carry on with the current work.

Live here

We can't do anything about what is happening in the distance, we don't think about it, we worry about it in vain, we are worried about it, we are worried about it, we are worried about it, Remember that you live here and now, not somewhere else far away.

Stop guessing and face reality

Many psychological disputes and obstacles are often caused by "assumptions" that have no actual basis. If you greet a leader or colleague and they don't respond, you may suspect that they have an opinion about you. In fact, maybe they are preoccupied and uneasy, and they just don't pay attention to you. Therefore, there is no need to speculate meaninglessly.

Stop thinking and feel more

Many people think about how to do a good job, how to get good grades, how to do a good relationship with leaders and colleagues, etc., so it is easy to ignore or have no mind to enjoy the beautiful scenery, listen to pleasant music, and so on. Gestalt therapy emphasizes that "feelings" as the basis of thinking are more important than thinking itself. You can't think without feelings, and feelings can adjust and enrich your thinking.

Also accept unpleasant emotions

Pleasantness and unpleasantness are relative and can be transformed into each other. Therefore, people should be mentally prepared to accept unpleasant feelings. If a person is an adult and is always "happy" and "excited", it is not normal.

Don't judge first, give a reference opinion first

It's easy to jump to conclusions when someone else is a little wrong or fails. Gestalt therapy argues that the right approach to other people's attitudes and relationships should be: don't judge, talk about what you think. By doing so, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflicts with others, and you yourself can avoid unnecessary troubles and depression.

Don't blindly worship idols and authority

In modern society, there are many disguised authorities and idols, which will imprison your mind and tie your hands and feet, such as education, money, and so on. Gestalt therapy is negative about all of this. We should not blindly go along with the opinions of the people, thus losing the habit of independent thinking, nor should we be deprived of the ability to act independently by subservience to others without principle.

I am who I am, and I am responsible for myself

Don't say anything, if I were so-and-so, I would have succeeded. You should start from your own starting point and reach your full potential. Don't complain, "start from me, start from now", do your best to use your talents, do what you can do.

People tend to evade responsibility. For example, if you don't do well in exams, you will blame your failure on your poor family environment or school, and if you don't do well at work, you will blame your leadership for not being good or your conditions are too poor. Blame your own mistakes and failures on objective causes. One of the key tenets of Gestalt Therapy is to take responsibility for what you do.

Correctly self-estimate

Put yourself in the right place. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you have to fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position, if you do not follow the norms that are unanimously recognized by the society and everyone abides by, then you will be condemned and opposed by the society and others.

Be content, cherish life, cherish life, friends, family and yourself

Arrange your life reasonably, don't get angry, drink more tea, go out often, exercise more, play chess with others, etc., as long as you do more things that are beneficial to your body!

Enjoy life, to put it bluntly, it is the freedom of life, you have the right to live the life you want, you also have the right to go where you want to go in the summer, don't expect too much for the future, too much expectation, the deeper the frustration will be.

Look at what you are doing now, it will make you feel very comfortable, don't deliberately live for others to see, you will find that living freely is enjoying life

As long as we reach the following levels in our lives, our minds will inevitably improve.

Don't be greedy for fame and fortune, know when you should be content; always sum up and reflect on yourself, don't talk about or criticize others, let alone blame others; respect the virtuous gentlemen in the society, and find ways to make friends with them, and stay away from the villains in the society; don't be afraid of the hardships in life, don't be careful, dare to suffer losses when appropriate; think twice before you can let go, be able to persevere and not give up lightly; learn to "endure" and learn to "let go" Learn to maintain health and prevent laziness, and don't get contaminated and indulge in bad habits

To forgive others is to be kind to yourself.

Speak good words, think good intentions, and do good deeds.

As much as you do, you will get as much as you can.

It's not that being rich is happy, and having a clear conscience is the most peaceful.

Make a vow to make a good vow, and speak well to speak.

Saying a good word is like spitting out a lotus, and saying a bad word is like spitting a poisonous snake.

The width of the house is not as wide as the heart.

To appreciate others is to solemnize oneself.

If you forgive others once, you will be blessed again. Enlarge the amount of heart, and the blessing will be great.

To be optimistic about people, you must first be a good person.

To be able to eliminate troubles is wisdom, and to be able to give love is to be blessing.

Be willing to do it, rejoice in it.

More words are better than fewer words, and less words are better than words.

To be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others, success is the play of strengths, and failure is the accumulation of shortcomings.

Always be kind is always a good day.

The way of self-cultivation

Everything in the world, simple is not simple, and if it is not simple, it is simple.

In life, you must be able to eat, sleep, and get things done.

Whoever does things must first be a man, and a man must be responsible.

One cannot be proud, but one cannot be without pride.

The benevolent love the mountain, the wise man is happy with the water, the first thing to be a man is to be kind to others, honest and frank, honor and disgrace are not shocked, work hard, and treat people with sincerity.

The spirit is suitable for cultivation, and the heart is usually peaceful.

"Forbearance": Forbearance is not blindly forbearance, but forbearance, forbearance, forbearance, should not endure. How to cultivate the mind

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Live in the moment

Don't always think about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday, but focus on what you want to do today. Because regret, remorse, guilt and sadness do not change the past, they only make it difficult to carry on with the current work.

Live here

We can't do anything about what is happening in the distance, we don't think about it, we worry about it in vain, we are worried about it, we are worried about it, we are worried about it, Remember that you live here and now, not somewhere else far away.

Stop guessing and face reality

Many psychological disputes and obstacles are often caused by "assumptions" that have no actual basis. If you greet a leader or colleague and they don't respond, you may suspect that they have an opinion about you. In fact, maybe they are preoccupied and uneasy, and they just don't pay attention to you. Therefore, there is no need to speculate meaninglessly.

Stop thinking and feel more

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Many people think about how to do a good job, how to get good grades, how to do a good relationship with leaders and colleagues, etc., so it is easy to ignore or have no mind to enjoy the beautiful scenery, listen to pleasant music, and so on. Gestalt therapy emphasizes that "feelings" as the basis of thinking are more important than thinking itself. You can't think without feelings, and feelings can adjust and enrich your thinking.

Also accept unpleasant emotions

Pleasantness and unpleasantness are relative and can be transformed into each other. Therefore, people should be mentally prepared to accept unpleasant feelings. If a person is an adult and is always "happy" and "excited", it is not normal.

Don't judge first, give a reference opinion first

It's easy to jump to conclusions when someone else is a little wrong or fails. Gestalt therapy argues that the right approach to other people's attitudes and relationships should be: don't judge, talk about what you think. By doing so, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflicts with others, and you yourself can avoid unnecessary troubles and depression.

Don't blindly worship idols and authority

In modern society, there are many disguised authorities and idols, which will imprison your mind and tie your hands and feet, such as education, money, and so on. Gestalt therapy is negative about all of this. We should not blindly go along with the opinions of the people, thus losing the habit of independent thinking, nor should we be deprived of the ability to act independently by subservience to others without principle.

I am me, responsible for myself in modern society, there are many disguised authorities and idols, they will imprison your mind, tie your hands and feet, for example, education, money, etc. Gestalt therapy is negative about all of this. We should not blindly go along with the opinions of the people, thus losing the habit of independent thinking, nor should we be deprived of the ability to act independently by subservience to others without principle.

I am who I am, and I am responsible for myself