I'll make up a few words below, so I don't have to worry about it.

Cultivating the mind

Knowing people does not have to be exhaustive, leaving three points of leeway for others, leaving some morality for oneself; blaming others does not have to be harsh, leaving three points of leeway for others, leaving some stomach for oneself; talent does not have to be arrogant, leaving one-third of leeway for others, leaving some connotation for oneself; the edge does not have to be exposed, leaving three points of leeway for others, leaving some restraint on oneself; meritorious service does not have to be invited, leaving three points of leeway for others, leaving some humility for oneself; there is no need to rob oneself of reason, leaving one-third of one's margin for others, leaving some tolerance for oneself; there is no need to exhaust one's favor for oneself, leaving one-third of one's leeway for others, leaving some backway for oneself; momentum does not have to be relied on, one-third of leeway is left for others, and some kindness is left for oneself; wealth does not have to be enjoyed, one-third of leeway is left for others, and some blessings are left for oneself; everything does not have to be done, leave three points of room for others, and leave some virtue for yourself.

In the face of failures and setbacks, it is a kind of optimism and self-confidence, and then regain strength, which is a kind of courage.

In the face of misunderstanding and hatred, it is a kind of calm tolerance to smile and pass, and then maintain the true colors, which is a kind of contemplation.

In the face of praise and encouragement, smiling is a kind of humility and sobriety, and then keep forging ahead, which is a kind of strength heart.

In the face of troubles and sorrows, smiling and passing by is a kind of peace and relief, and then trying to resolve it, which is a state of mind.

Write a family word with heart: stroke by stroke, point by point, just ten strokes, must be perfect, only to write a complete.

Write a family word with the day: light rice and coarse tea, sweet and sour, and beauty is warm, after the mood of the four seasons of cold and summer, only to write a spring.

The Three Treasures of Life:

Sun, air, water.

Speaking Sambo: Please, thank you, sorry.

The Three Jewels of Living: Modesty, Politeness, and Admiration.

The Three Jewels of Self-cultivation: Quietness, Kindness, and Calmness.

The Three Treasures of Family: Joy, Humor, and Thoughtfulness.

The Three Treasures of the Qi Family: Harmony, Harmony, and Peace.

The Three Jewels of Diet: Balance, Temperance, and Gratitude.

The Three Jewels of Health: Walking, Less Desire, and Harmony.

The Three Jewels of Sleep: Let go, not delusional, and lie auspiciously.

The Three Treasures of Travel: Broaden Knowledge, Be Safe and Happy, and Be Simple and Frugal.

The three treasures of financial management: establish a budget, open source and reduce expenditure, and be diligent and thrifty.

The Three Treasures of Knowledge: Utility, Breadth, and Reality. The Three Treasures of Learning: Reading, Writing, and Thinking.

The Three Jewels of Learning: Listening, Receiving, and Thinking. The Three Treasures of Friendship: Integrity, Integrity, and Contribution.

The Three Jewels of the Human Heart: Truthfulness, Kindness, and Tolerance.

In the face of failures and setbacks, it is a kind of optimism and self-confidence, and then regain strength, which is a kind of courage.

Crying does not mean that I give in, and taking a step back does not mean that I admit defeat.

Letting go doesn't mean I give up;

Smiling doesn't mean I'm happy! We always like to verify the promises made to us, but we rarely try to verify the promises we have made to ourselves.

Go in the farthest direction – even if the road ahead is confused;

Hold on to the greatest hope - even if the mountains and rivers are exhausted;

Insist on the strongest will - even if the sword is a mountain and a sea of fire;

Prepare for the worst – even if it's all over again. Don't talk to me about ideals, quit!

Don't forget what you once had, cherish what you have gained, don't give up what belongs to you, keep memories of what you have lost;

If you want to get it, you must work hard, and the most important thing is to take good care of yourself!

When you go to a place and miss a place, it's all because of the people there, not the scenery, a city will connect with you, but also because there are people who are the same as you, there are people you can't let go, many times, I like someone else, but she doesn't know, more often, I hurt someone else, but I don't know.

Like is a faint love, and love is a deep liking......

If you do something wrong, you can correct it, if you are sad, you will cry bitterly.

Tired - look back, tired - rest a little;

Desperate - helpless. 0101 Amitabha!

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How to cultivate the mind

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Live in the moment

Don't always think about tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday, but focus on what you want to do today. Because regret, remorse, guilt and sadness do not change the past, they only make it difficult to carry on with the current work.

Live here

We can't do anything about what is happening in the distance, we don't think about it, we worry about it in vain, we are worried about it, we are worried about it, we are worried about it, Remember that you live here and now, not somewhere else far away.

Stop guessing and face reality

Many psychological disputes and obstacles are often caused by "assumptions" that have no actual basis. If you greet a leader or colleague and they don't respond, you may suspect that they have an opinion about you. In fact, maybe they are preoccupied and uneasy, and they just don't pay attention to you. Therefore, there is no need to speculate meaninglessly.

Stop thinking and feel more

Many people think about how to do a good job, how to get good grades, how to do a good relationship with leaders and colleagues, etc., so it is easy to ignore or have no mind to enjoy the beautiful scenery, listen to pleasant music, and so on. Gestalt therapy emphasizes that "feelings" as the basis of thinking are more important than thinking itself. You can't think without feelings, and feelings can adjust and enrich your thinking.

Also accept unpleasant emotions

Pleasantness and unpleasantness are relative and can be transformed into each other. Therefore, people should be mentally prepared to accept unpleasant feelings. If a person is an adult and is always "happy" and "excited", it is not normal.

Don't judge first, give a reference opinion first

It's easy to jump to conclusions when someone else is a little wrong or fails. Gestalt therapy argues that the right approach to other people's attitudes and relationships should be: don't judge, talk about what you think. By doing so, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflicts with others, and you yourself can avoid unnecessary troubles and depression.

Don't blindly worship idols and authority

In modern society, there are many disguised authorities and idols, which will imprison your mind and tie your hands and feet, such as education, money, and so on. Gestalt therapy is negative about all of this. We should not blindly go along with the opinions of the people, thus losing the habit of independent thinking, nor should we be deprived of the ability to act independently by subservience to others without principle.

I am who I am, and I am responsible for myself

Don't say anything, if I were so-and-so, I would have succeeded. You should start from your own starting point and reach your full potential. Don't complain, "start from me, start from now", do your best to use your talents, do what you can do.

People tend to evade responsibility. For example, if you don't do well in exams, you will blame your failure on your poor family environment or school, and if you don't do well at work, you will blame your leadership for not being good or your conditions are too poor. Blame your own mistakes and failures on objective causes. One of the key tenets of Gestalt Therapy is to take responsibility for what you do.

Correctly self-estimate

Put yourself in the right place. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you have to fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position, if you do not follow the norms that are unanimously recognized by the society and everyone abides by, then you will be condemned and opposed by the society and others.

Be content, cherish life, cherish life, friends, family and yourself

Arrange your life reasonably, don't get angry, drink more tea, go out often, exercise more, play chess with others, etc., as long as you do more things that are beneficial to your body!

Enjoy life, to put it bluntly, it is the freedom of life, you have the right to live the life you want, you also have the right to go where you want to go in the summer, don't expect too much for the future, too much expectation, the deeper the frustration will be.

Look at what you are doing now, it will make you feel very comfortable, don't deliberately live for others to see, you will find that living freely is enjoying life

As long as we reach the following levels in our lives, our minds will inevitably improve.

Don't be greedy for fame and fortune, know when you should be content; always sum up and reflect on yourself, don't talk about or criticize others, let alone blame others; respect the virtuous gentlemen in the society, and find ways to make friends with them, and stay away from the villains in the society; don't be afraid of the hardships in life, don't be careful, dare to suffer losses when appropriate; think twice before you can let go, be able to persevere and not give up lightly; learn to "endure" and learn to "let go" Learn to maintain health and prevent laziness, and don't get contaminated and indulge in bad habits

To forgive others is to be kind to yourself.

Speak good words, think good intentions, and do good deeds.

As much as you do, you will get as much as you can.

It's not that being rich is happy, and having a clear conscience is the most peaceful.

Make a vow to make a good vow, and speak well to speak.

Saying a good word is like spitting out a lotus, and saying a bad word is like spitting a poisonous snake.

The width of the house is not as wide as the heart.

To appreciate others is to solemnize oneself.

If you forgive others once, you will be blessed again. Enlarge the amount of heart, and the blessing will be great.

To be optimistic about people, you must first be a good person.

To be able to eliminate troubles is wisdom, and to be able to give love is to be blessing.

Be willing to do it, rejoice in it.

More words are better than fewer words, and less words are better than words.

To be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others, success is the play of strengths, and failure is the accumulation of shortcomings.

Always be kind is always a good day.

The way of self-cultivation

Everything in the world, simple is not simple, and if it is not simple, it is simple. Enjoy life, to put it bluntly, it is the freedom of life, you have the right to live the life you want, you also have the right to go where you want to go in the summer, don't expect too much for the future, too much expectation, the deeper the frustration will be.

Look at what you are doing now, it will make you feel very comfortable, don't deliberately live for others to see, you will find that you live freely.