I didn't expect this day to come so quickly!!!

His daughter is in the prime of sixteen years old, and she is getting more and more beautiful, it can be said that when the wolves are around, Yang Han has long listed all the male creatures that can get close to Yang Ruoyi, including Peng Peng's children's shoes and Wang Erniang's little Jingba next door, as the object of strict guard!

Of course, Peng Peng is okay, he is like Xiao Jingba, the threat level is relatively low, because Yang Han is staring at the village, he must not dare to make a mistake at will.

What Yang Han is really worried about is that those little boys in the school have no ability, and they look crooked and cracked, but under the influence of hormones, any swan dares to make up his mind!

Therefore, when Yang Han heard his daughter say that he didn't know how to refuse others, he subconsciously thought that his daughter had been confessed!

Who?

Who is so unsightly?

What did that stinky boy do?

Did you eat bear heart or leopard gall?

Or do you think my Yang Laohan's forty-meter knife is not long enough?

Yang Han, who was fried, subconsciously reached out and touched under his buttocks, although he did not bring a knife, but there was a bench!

"Dad, no, I'm not talking about this, here's the thing......" Seeing that her father was suddenly angry, and also heard his angry roar, Yang Ruoyi was stunned for a moment, and then understood that her father had misunderstood, she quickly grabbed her father and explained to him clearly what was going on with a smile.

"Oh, you said you wanted a gift!" As soon as he heard that it was not a confession, Yang Han's anger subsided for the most part, and he rearranged the small bench and sat down.

I have to say that although the sofa is more comfortable to sit on, but to eat, it is more suitable to have a small bench, after all, to sit on the sofa to eat, you either bring up the lunch box to eat, or you have to bend over to eat like lying on your stomach, how can Yang Han sit and eat more comfortably?

What's more, you can use a small bench with you as a big knife, can't you?

Back to the topic, although it was not confessed, the incident that Yiyi encountered, as well as the embarrassment and entanglement she shown, still gave Yang Han a wake-up call.

From kindergarten to the present, Yang Ruoyi has not gone through any wind and rain at home and under the meticulous protection of her father, so she has the simple and kind good character she has now!

But there is a good side to such a character, and there is a bad side.

The bright side is that she can get the love and support of her friends, because she is used to being submissive, and she is also used to helping others, and sometimes she is even willing to sacrifice her own interests to fulfill others.

But this is not a good thing, not knowing how to refuse means that others take what you want, it means that others want you to be like a post-it note, you can respond when you need it, and you can throw it away when you don't need it......

After all, what is too easy to get is not cherished, is it?

Of course, for Yang Han, in the case of his daughter, what he is most worried about is that if she continues like this, if she encounters someone to confess to her in the future, she will be helpless.

It is not necessarily that she will blindly accept other people's confessions, but her attitude of being embarrassed and dragging her feet is likely to bring infinite trouble to herself......

......

"Since you brought up this issue, then Dad will talk to you about how we should refuse others, how to refuse some very unreasonable, or undesirable requests!"

Yang Han put a disposable glove on his left glove, and then grabbed the whole jujube red and crispy, fat but not greasy, mouthful of oily roast duck legs, and talked to his daughter while gnawing on it deliciously.

"Uh-huh!" Yang Ruoyi nodded happily, she held the lunch box in both hands, took small bites, and looked at her father with big eyes, listening expectantly.

"First of all, you have to understand that you don't know how to reject others, and what is the crux of this problem! Is it because you don't have any opinions, you don't know what you want, so you just obey the calls of others? Or do you have your own ideas, but when you encounter other people's requests, you still feel that it will be very uncomfortable to refuse others, and you are afraid that others will be disappointed, so you have wronged yourself, went against your own ideas, and accepted other people's demands?"

Yang Han paused, gave her daughter a short space to think, and then smiled: "You are actually the second type, right? Dad thinks that you usually have quite ideas, but you care too much about other people's feelings!"

Yang Ruoyi nodded, and said weakly: "Yes, in fact, I know how to do it, just like today, I actually want to give a small gift to my tablemate, because she has been sharing her notes with me, what I don't understand, she is also very patient to tell me." However, Pan Guanliang and the others came around and said that they wanted it too, but I didn't have any preparations at the time, and then I didn't know how to refuse. ”

"What did you say later?"

"Then I said that I would definitely give it to him next time, no, and bring gifts to everyone. I'm not saying that I'm reluctant to bring gifts to everyone, but I just think that if I give them to the same table, they shouldn't want it too! It's too, it's too unreasonable...... "The girl actually wants to say "too thick-skinned", but she thinks it's not appropriate to say it like this, after all, they are all her own classmates.

"Actually, the gift is just a small thing, and you have no problem handling it like this. What's more, you don't know how to refuse, if you promise someone else, then next time you will have to bring a gift to everyone!" Yang Han smiled and said, "Doing what you say is also a good character." Either you just do it, refuse directly, don't give others a space to look forward to, like you, others will always be worried, if you drag it out and don't give it, others will have more opinions!"

Yang Ruoyi nodded obediently, she knew that she had to keep her promise.

"So, whether it's such a trivial matter, or some kind of confession you may encounter in the future, borrow money!" Yang Han spread his hands and said with a smile, "You have to think clearly, refuse simply and neatly, don't drag the mud and water!"

"If you want to learn to refuse, then, you must first draw a bottom line for yourself, and people who have no principles and no bottom line will not learn to refuse. You have to understand what kind of things you agree with, and what kind of things you don't approve of at all!"

"It's like when other boys confess, you have to think, no, I'm only sixteen, seventeen, eighteen, I still have to study, I still have to go to college, my father doesn't allow me to fall in love when I study, and it's not good for me to fall in love. ”

"Those little boys don't understand anything, their personalities are more indecisive than girls, they are more abrasive than girls, they think about this and that all day long, they don't want to do anything serious anyway, they don't have the ability to ask for this and that! Their minds are particularly immature! When they fall in love, there is only one word 'tired', what happiness is there at all?"

"And those mature men, don't look at all of them very stylish, they are also very mature and steady, but do you know how many girl friends they talk about? Maybe they still eat in the bowl, and look at the pot! They will also like the new and hate the old, and deceiving you is the same as cheating children, which is particularly unreliable!"

"Therefore, at a young age, reading more books and learning more things are better than you falling in love! Spending all your thoughts on maintaining your feelings, as a result, you delay your youth and work, and you can't think about it before you fall in love! You must establish this kind of principle and bottom line of not falling in love, so how to refuse later, Dad will do it as soon as he says it!"

Yang Ruoyi was a devout listener at first, but gradually she tasted a little bit of it......

"Dad, you can talk about how to reject others, just talk about this topic, why do you mix so many private goods?" the girl protested with tears and laughter.

She hadn't been in love, and she hadn't thought about it, but Dad couldn't always lie to her about how terrible it was to be in love! People are not stupid, believe you, you bad old man is very bad!