The sun outside the window makes people can't open their eyes, the boiling heat wave makes people afraid to go out, and the asphalt on the road has been melted so soft that it is extremely sticky. The intellectuals in the trees also screamed sharply without a single voice.

The air conditioner in the room was blowing out a white mist.

Tang Yue, who was dressed in a thin quilt, was eating ice cream, there was iced mung bean porridge on the coffee table, and Yu Feihong's "Holding Hands" was playing on TV.

Qin Fan frowned, she had the impression that she had watched it last year, how could it be broadcast endlessly, this is the first TV series that positively reflects the junior, Yu Feihong plays the junior---- Wang Chun, this may be the first third party on the domestic screen who is not hated.

"Tut, Yu Feihong is so tender at this time!" Tang Yue praised with a sigh of relief.

"Can you see clearly?" Qin Fan glanced at the TV picture, which was too far worse than the clarity of later generations, which was also the reason why he was unwilling to accompany her to review some old movies.

Tang Yue didn't say anything to him, and said to herself: "I really don't know what Wang Chun likes about Zhong Rui?, a typical career-oriented little man!"

"You girls are really contradictory, a man is a dog if he doesn't have a career. Qin Fan pursed his lips and replied.

"Huh!" Tang Yue shook her head disapplausively: "I don't like this kind of person. ”

"You don't like any kind of man. Qin Fan, who had nothing to do, said casually.

Tang Yue threw the ice cream in his hand and threw it at him, and said with a smile in his mouth: "I like you type." ”

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"It's really hard to be a man, you have to have a career and a home. Qin Fan muttered.

"I know it's harder ----- you!" Tang Yue said mockingly in a long voice.

"Family man or career man, who is more suitable for ......," Qin Fan asked with a smile.

"It's not for me!" Tang Yue replied categorically.

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Seventy percent of the family man spends 8 hours at home, and 70 percent of the spare time of the career man is spent working and socializing; the family man belongs to himself completely, work is only a small part of life, and the career man belongs to his work, his employees, partners and friends from all walks of life at the same time.

A woman who marries a family man often says, "When will the meal be ready?" A woman who marries a career-oriented man often says, "When will you go home?"

Family men often break their fingers for firewood, rice, oil, salt water, electricity, and calculate, and the wives of family men often hold their husband's hands and bargain in the small market. Career-oriented men read business and workplace classics, and the wives of career-oriented men often dress noble and elegant, walking dogs, shopping, and doing beauty alone.

A family man has time to take care of his children and has no good conditions to educate his children, and a career-oriented man has good conditions to educate his children but has no time to take care of them. When something happens at home, a career-oriented man will pat your hand and say, "It's okay, I'll figure it out." ”

A family man is a "little man", and when married to a family man, a woman can ride on the man's head and enjoy simple happiness, and is one hundred percent the head of the family.

A career-oriented man is a "big husband", the "boss" and "backbone" in the unit, and it is rare to get used to being a deputy assistant when he returns home, and marrying a career-oriented man, and the woman is a nanny, a left-behind lady and a little daughter-in-law.

Career is the source of charm for career-oriented men, and caring for family is the value of family men. A career-oriented man is the most eye-catching doormark of the family, and marrying a career-oriented man can greatly obtain economic superiority and satisfy vanity.

Family men often do not have great development in the workplace, marrying a family man, first of all, have a normal heart, to find the happiness of ordinary people.

The aura of a career-oriented man is bright and dazzling, it is a natural idol chased by young girls, the benefits of a family man should be slowly experienced, and those who are concerned about a family man, if not his wife, must be a woman with life experience; family men are generally more loyal, and an important reason for maintaining loyalty is that they do not have the conditions to become bad, and career-oriented men are not necessarily more attentive than family men, but they have the resources to become "bad".

The attractiveness index of a family man is three stars in the eyes of outsiders and four stars in the eyes of his wife, and the attractiveness index of a career man is four stars in the eyes of outsiders and three stars in the eyes of his wife. When a woman gets married for the first time, 80% of them will choose a career-oriented man to be their destiny Prince Charming. When a woman gets married for the second time, 80% of them will find a family man to be her husband to live with.

Both family men and career men have their own advantages, and many of them are not available to the other parent. Therefore, women say that the ideal marriage is to marry a career-oriented man to support the family, and then marry a family man to take care of the family.

Some women have also tried to transform their career-oriented husbands into home-based men, and home-based men into pioneers in the workplace, but there are not many successful examples of transformation, whether a man is career-oriented or home-based, is his personality, hobbies, life experience and other factors, how can these be easily smeared and changed like blackboard paintings?

In fact, there is no shortage of true love for family men and career men, and many of them are model husbands. When a woman chooses a family man or a career man as her husband, she actually chooses two different married lives and different forms of love.

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"I just spoil my man. Tang Yue muttered and fell asleep. But Qin Fan was immersed in the memories of his previous life:

Like most men, he is trapped in various hurdles such as career and family, and he can't help himself. But as the pillar of the family, no matter how hard and tired he is, he can only grit his teeth and hold on, because the support and support of his parents, wife, and children are all focused on himself.

Just like what Zhang Ailing said in her book: When a middle-aged man arrives, he often feels lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who have to rely on him.

And the most fearful or painful thing is to enter the house every day, I hear my wife's complaints, I am tired after a day of work outside, and when I come home, I want a pure land, and I see that it is my wife's understanding and children who do not cause trouble, all of which will make people feel that it is worth it even if they are tired and tired outside.

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Listening to Tang Yue's dream, Qin Fan couldn't figure out what she wanted to do, knowing that she already had Xuemei and Dong Min, and she would never give up on herself. Is it really as she said, the person she loves is her and not someone else?

I have been a human being in two lives, and I still can't guess a woman's heart.

Qin Fan, who couldn't sleep after tossing and turning, remembered that Xuemei had talked to him about children's education, and at this time, educating children well should be his top priority!

As the saying goes: parents are the best teachers for their children, and their words and deeds will directly affect their children. After a child is born, he or she has to learn everything, and the first thing he has to learn is his parents and family. Parents' words, deeds and behaviors directly affect the development of children, children do not have the concept of right and wrong and right and wrong when they are young, and the unconscious imitation in the early stage is really what parents should pay attention to. Is it not bad for the growth of your own children?

Therefore, if you want your children to develop good living habits, if you want to make your children have a good ideological character, if you want your children to establish a correct outlook on life and the world, as parents, you must pay attention to learning and be a role model for your children everywhere and at all times!

The second is to exercise children's independence and autonomy, which is often a neglected corner of family education. A person's growth is bumpy, the child will encounter this or that problem in his growth, and parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime, so parents should cultivate their children's independent ability, guide their children to do more housework within their ability, and tell their children that diligence is a good virtue, and laziness is the root of all evil.

It is also necessary to cultivate children's belief in the courage to face setbacks and learn to adapt to changes. We parents understand these truths, but how many of them have really been achieved?

Through the small things in life, cultivate children's independent ability, as parents should not take care of everything that belongs to their children, which is harmful and unhelpful to children's growth.

Third, we should strengthen communication with children and be good friends with children. A child is a book, and many parents only care about turning it back, but it is not easy to really understand him. As a parent, you should communicate with your child frequently, communicate more, and care for and help your child as a good friend. Parents should look at their children with their children's eyes, put themselves in their children's shoes, and as their children grow up, children understand the world, and parents also understand their children, so they will naturally enter the children's spiritual world. Parents should communicate more with their children, experience their children's real feelings, have more understanding, and less scolding.

Therefore, as parents, we should patiently and meticulously communicate with our children heart-to-heart and communication, only in this way can we become children's bosom friends, only in this way, can we instill correct ideas and experiences into our children, and can we effectively prevent children from rebellious psychology. In particular, we should pay more attention to the ways and means of educating girls.

Fourth, we should gradually cultivate children's confidence in knowledge.

First of all, it is necessary to make children develop good study habits. Parents should be good at using various opportunities to let their children know the importance of study habits. Parents should pay more attention to their children's learning, do not ignore them, do not blame their children's bad study habits, and should guide them to correct them and re-establish their confidence in good study habits.

Parents should educate their children to develop the habit of not being ashamed to ask questions, thinking independently, and being good at analyzing difficult problems. Teach children to learn knowledge to be flexible, draw inferences from one another, don't memorize, read dead books, and dead reading learning methods are not advisable.

Use 10 to 20 minutes to play the English recordings you have learned and will learn repeatedly, whether you listen to it or not, and stick to it, it will become a habit after a long time, and it will have a certain effect on learning English well.

Second, stimulate your child's curiosity. Love is the best teacher for children, curiosity is the nature of children, is a reflection of children's curiosity, parents should not only respect and correctly guide children's curiosity, but also take the initiative to tap the curiosity of children.

Parents should answer their children's questions patiently, accurately and simply, and guide their children to find the perfect answer through reading and thinking. With the accumulation of knowledge, children are eager to know new things, and gradually stimulate children to explore new knowledge, and over time, children's curiosity evolves into a strong desire for knowledge.

Furthermore, it is necessary to cultivate children's broad interests and perseverance in learning. As a child's interests widen, his scope of knowledge expands, and his knowledge and experience increase......

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"You... You... What did you think about last night?. Tang Yue, who woke up in the morning, saw Qin Fan's "panda eyes" at a glance and asked in surprise.

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