Generally I think that in the family, it is better to get along harmoniously, because the family of domestic violence has a lot of drawbacks, in Ding Xuan's lecture, she endured domestic violence, maybe like the point of view of people of her age is like this, but in today's society, many people's views are not like domestic violence, and now many families, parents can still get along harmoniously, domestic violence family, only existed decades ago, the most serious family, I have observed, their family, parents always quarrel with each other, and even fight from time to time, a few days ago I saw a child of a family of domestic violence on the Internet, She didn't dare to get married with this child, she was afraid that after getting married, her husband would beat her like her father beat her mother, so in her world, there is a shadow of domestic violence, not only the girl I saw on the Internet, but also the girl in this family around me, maybe they all have similar ideas, at the beginning, this girl didn't get married, and others would always point fingers at what kind of reasons there were?

They are all very old, they don't choose a mate, they don't get married, and many people around them are anxious for others, but they are not in a hurry at all, and many times, everyone doesn't understand, because in such a rural area, how many people understand psychology, and how many people will analyze the psychology of people from different families?

In fact, there are very few such people who will just give their shallow opinion in the face of the outcome of the matter.

They always think that when they reach the age of marriage, they should get married and have children, and live the life of these normal people, even in the eyes of others, whether such a life is very boring, is it not in line with their fun, but in the eyes of everyone, the world is like this, marriage, having children, etc., these seem to have become a necessity in life, they don't seem to understand those who don't want to get married in their lives, what they think, the life and pressure they face every day, in fact, I later learned that people who can't bear pressure, just like me, silently accept other people's eyes, accept other people's ideas, and then get married, have children, but there are some people, they are very determined not to get married, they just want to be single for the rest of their lives, so they exist like this, they don't care about other people's eyes, although in the eyes of others, they are always different from others, they will always have something special, but what?

They still don't want to get married, this time I saw the girl on the Internet, and when I saw what happened to her, I realized that this was a psychological reason, those who don't want to get married, they all have some fear of getting married, and there is a reason, and we humans are like this, when a thing is hurt, we are often very afraid of something like this, this kind of psychology is really easy to understand, but in the face of some people who don't understand psychology, it is really difficult to understand them and be understood.

However, when I know such a point of view, I also deeply feel that this is the case, and I am also very pleased that I have learned a little bit of the simple psychological views and practices from this case, which is the harvest!

I also sincerely hope that those families who have domestic violence will stop!