In real life, we found that the rejection of violence is a very real problem, whether it is for men, or for women, life should be more elegant, should live a good life, sometimes, only to feel that life is not something that can be completed by fighting, and sometimes we feel that a lot of things need to be communicated, to negotiate, in order to be able to do things successfully, rather than using violence to solve.

Sometimes I also want to tell all men, although your strength is greater, but all problems can not be solved with violence, some people have violence in the family, some people have violence in society, but such violence can not solve the problem at all, I remember a video I saw on the Internet some time ago, saying that several people in Henan were bullied in Zhongshan, when I saw this video, in our group, it was also our own people in Henan who said, why do people in Henan always like to fight and make trouble？

Sometimes we feel that this kind of fighting will not solve any problems at all, and sometimes it will still leave a bad impression on others.

When they say this, we will also feel that we have some problems, there are some shortcomings, that is, don't make trouble, when we encounter things, refuse violence, in the face of such violence, it is useless at all, nothing can be solved, there is something to talk about and talk about well.

I remember that some time ago, there was an impulse to violence, there was an urge to hit people, there was an impulse to cut others with a knife, in the face of such an impulse, I found that it was better not to do this, because, if you cut others, you still have to compensate, because this kind of cutting others seems to be a wrong choice for yourself, because I feel that I also have some problems, especially when there are mental problems, I also think that many ideas are very peculiar, sometimes it seems to use a knife to cut others, and sometimes I want to use a knife to cut myself, in fact, I have watched a lot of news, and some people thinkPeople with depression or mental problems always take revenge on society, maybe they can't control their emotions at all.

Actually, I have such a feeling, but I can still control myself, I can control my thinking, I can control my thoughts, and sometimes, such thoughts are just a momentary impulse and fever in my head.

But then I also thought very clearly, that is, don't use violence, restrain yourself, even if it is to make yourself sober.

During this time, I was also trying very hard to restrain myself, restrain my emotions, and restrain my thoughts, in fact, sometimes I found out that people with mental illness, some chose suicide to hurt themselves, and some chose to hurt others, I don't know what the reason is, but I saw the news that in fact, more than 2/3 of the mentally ill have suicidal tendencies, but when I heard the news, I told myself that I wanted to be the 1/3 of the people who did not have suicidal tendencies.

When I see some people who have violent tendencies to harm society, I also feel that I should not harm society, one of those people, this is a requirement for myself, although I have some difficulties recently, but I still have some sober consciousness, to be able to control myself, I hope that I can always control myself, let me be a person who can mentally restrain myself.

Even if you use violence, whether it is domestic violence in the family or violence in society, what problems can be solved?

My family has told me that in front of many things, it is still necessary to talk about many things, many things can be talked about and dispersed, and after talking, there is a good result and a compromise solution.

Therefore, in the face of these violence, no matter what the reason is, as long as there is violence, it is not right, there is a problem, and we also know this kind of violence, especially some people are not aware of such problems at all, and some people like to use violence to solve problems, and it is simply a wrong choice to use violence to suppress each other.

In fact, in this society, no one is afraid of anyone, there is such a choice, even if you yourself are a very violent person, and others will not feel very afraid of you, and sometimes we also feel that if a person is very violent, we will avoid some, and even sometimes, not to associate with this person, not to deal with this person, is the best choice, we will not feel afraid because such a person is violent.

In fact, when we were in college, a student told us that if two people fight together and scuffle together, what is the difference between this and animals?

When he said such a point of view, when he said such a language, we felt that he was right, we are human beings, although we are also an animal, but we are higher animals with brains and consciousness, so for violence, we don't need to attack each other like this, use violence to defeat each other, in fact, many times, we still have to live in harmony, when we can live in harmony, we will feel happy in our hearts, in fact, people are like this, when you get along with others, when you feel happy, the other party will also feel happy, and will feel very much want to get along with you, but, If it is unpleasant, the feelings of both parties are often the same, or similar, so in the face of such violence, there is no use at all, or even no benefit at all, so it is still necessary to be a harmonious person, just like an article I wrote a few days ago, I envy such people, in fact, they are also living in obscurity, not to attack each other's things, and not to ask for a lot, in life, they can live in such obscurity, as if there has never been such a person in life, but they have always existed, and have been living a good life in obscurity。

When I wrote this article, I also felt that when I have an impulsive consciousness in my mind, I should restrain myself, overcome my violent tendencies, filter out the violent factors from my life, and be a quiet person, a harmonious person, a person with connotation, and be able to live a good life.