I was in the dormitory that day, it was just noon, I was resting in the dormitory, but there was a knock on the door, I thought it was my little nephew to rest in my room, but when I answered, I found that it was not my little nephew, it was a student from a class next to me who asked me, teacher, do you have any water to drink?

In fact, I was really surprised at this time, because there is a water dispenser in every class, why didn't he go to another class to get water to drink, even if their class didn't have water to drink, but why did he come to my dormitory to get water to drink?

At that time, I really had an urge to lend him water to drink, but I suppressed my impulse, I was not as impulsive every time as when I just graduated, although sometimes it was like my own passion and enthusiasm, at that time, no matter what kind of requirements and statements the student had, I would accept it with such enthusiasm, and then I thought that at that time, because we had no experience, we would not know how to refuse, and sometimes it was something that should be rejected at all, but I did not refuse.

If it was just when I graduated, I thought that I would definitely accept such a thing, open the door, and bring him a glass of water, but after this continued, I didn't think about the consequences at all, because I had no experience at all when I first graduated, so I couldn't think of so much.

Now I actually say that I don't have water for him to drink, even though I have water in the water cooler, but I refuse him, because I know what will happen when I give him water to drink?

What happens when I don't give him water? I knew that when I gave him water to drink, the next classmate would come to me and say, "Teacher, I want to take water, and so on, and finally I found that we still couldn't accept it, one was connected to water, the second was connected to water, and there would be a third connection, and I would be very chaotic at noon, and I would have been serving others, but after that, I thought about it for a long time, and they didn't have a good reason for me to take water for him, but a very ordinary reason, that is, he didn't have water to drink, if they really took medicine, I think I would still lend them water, but their statements couldn't shake my opinion and decision at all。

Every time a few people like this come to my room to get water, my water will be borrowed for a while, and the most fundamental problem is that it will mess up their own lives, and in addition, it will make students think that a person like me is easy to get close to, and there is nothing wrong with being easy to get close to, but without the authority of the teacher, it is not a good thing.

In fact, many people are like this, they can get very close to students when they just graduate, and we are like this, we can get very close to students when we just graduate, but with a few years of work experience, we will know that sometimes we can get close to them, and some things should be kept at a proper distance from them, and later we will also find that they like those young teachers who have just graduated, and they don't like us teachers who have been experienced for a long time, and there are some reasons, maybe because of our refusal!

And those inexperienced teachers, every time they just don't know how to refuse, they will be interested.

It's a bit like a problem we talked about last time, that is, the problem of students going to the toilet every time I find such a result, and it was the same last time, this student reported that the teacher said she wanted to go to the toilet, and I agreed, and she went to the toilet, and as a result, there was a person behind her, and then she reported that he also wanted to go to the toilet, and I also agreed with this person, let him go to the toilet, and as a result, there will be a third person, a fourth person, they also want to go to the toilet, in fact, do they really want to go to the toilet?

I think they all want to go out and play, a lot of things are the same, if the first person starts, the people behind will continue to follow his way to do it, whether he does it right or wrong, they don't have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, maybe we adults will make such mistakes, but I have figured out the solution to such a problem, that is, the first person has to refuse.

They won't have similar things happen, because they also have a mental thought process, that is, the first person didn't agree, and the later people they won't apply again, and I refused such a request, and I won't go again, because of the same thing, and keep applying, maybe there are special circumstances to apply like this, and we will also provide convenience for ourselves and others in such a situation, I also found such a situation, such as going to the toilet, when they go to the toilet in class, they are not necessarily in a hurry to go to the toilet, or they can go to the toilet or not go to the toiletSometimes we also find that when you don't let them go to the toilet, they will also accept the reality and sit quietly in the classroom, so in this case, I think although one is a problem of drinking water and the other is a problem of going to the toilet, it is like the same kind of problem with similar characteristics, so when you encounter such a problem in the future, the first person's words should be refused, and then it will be quiet all of a sudden, and this kind of problem will no longer make you angry, and there will be no more people who will say a lot of words, and if the first person agrees,There will be a series of people later,There will be the same problem all the time,Maybe this is the problem that exists in real life,I also slowly found the solution to this problem after a few years of work,Sometimes it's not necessarily that I don't have such a good intention,This is the solution to such a problem,And sometimes I find out that I don't want to lend them water to drink,But find that I still have to use the right method to solve the problems in real life,Some problems have a fixed solution,Then use your own life experience to solve them,Instead of creating a lot of trouble for yourself and othersIn every matter, I found out the truth, I really don't want to lend them water to drink, but because of such a thing, this is the solution, I can only solve it like this, this is the best choice, or I still have to reject others in the end, it is better to be the first to refuse to come, so my approach should be right, I insist on my own point of view.