At noon the next day, my mother cooked a sumptuous meal for my sister to see her off.

Even though the food is rich and fragrant, everyone is lacking in appetite, except for the heroes, of course.

The image of gobbling, windswept and feasting is a stark contrast to the three of us.

Finally, the family of four "reluctantly" insisted on finishing the meal in the atmosphere of "smelling the needle".

The hero's decades-old after-dinner actions reappear in front of our eyes again: skillfully push the dishes and chopsticks to the middle of the dining table, take off his shoes and go to the kang, sit cross-legged, light a cigarette, swallow the clouds and spit out the fog desperately, fully enjoy the nicotine stimulation and anesthesia on the nerves, and then take the pillow with his hand, and after a while, the snoring sound sounded like thunder......

It seems that eating, smoking, and sleeping are the top priorities in life, and everything else is a floating cloud! It is even more than Mr. Yu Qian's three hobbies of "smoking, drinking, and perming his hair"!

"Mom, then I'm ready to go!" Xiaowei said to her mother.

"Oh......" As soon as she heard that Xiaowei was leaving, her mother's heart also went away, and she suddenly became listless: "Okay, Mom will bring you something delicious, go back and pay more attention to your body, pay more attention to rest, don't be too tired, eat well, and call Mom when you have time......"

"Woo woo woo ......"

As she spoke, her mother couldn't help but choke up.

The mother was worried, and before Xiaowei left, her mother's reluctance was undoubtedly exposed.

"Mom, don't cry, it's not like I'm not coming back!" Xiaowei instantly cried as soon as she saw her mother, and she also cried.

This scene reminds me of my grandmother, who always washes her face with tears when her children have to leave, burying that reluctant emotion deep in her heart and hiding it in the bottom of her heart.

Yes, when the children grow up, they will eventually spread their wings and soar above the blue sky and enjoy the beauty of the vast nine heavens.

At the moment, the mood of parents is the most conflicted.

They want their children to spend more time with them, even if it's just a meal together, watching TV, chatting, or doing nothing, as long as they are in the sight of their parents, they can feel great satisfaction...... I also hope that my children can display their talents in the vast world, and have a better future, a better life, and a more wonderful life!

There is such a sentence in "Warring States Policy": The love of parents is far-reaching.

Indeed, for the sake of their children's bright future and infinitely bright future, parents can only leave behind their "selfish thoughts" and let their children enjoy the infinite beauty of the wonderful world and the vast land.

Looking back, how much time do we really spend with our parents, or how much time can we spend with our children as parents?

Until the child is three years old, he will always be with his parents, and he will "have to" be by his parents' side, which is 3 years.

When the child grows up day by day, goes to kindergarten (3 years), kindergarten bridging class (1 year), elementary school (6 years), junior high school (3 years), high school (3 years), and the time to see his parents every day can only be the period from after school to before school, and we will not calculate it according to the actual meeting time, that is 16 years.

Not to mention during college, it's good to be in the same city, if the distance is far, it can only be winter and summer vacations, twice a year, adding up to more than 4 months, and the time to meet in college for four years is 16 months, less than a year and a half!

What happens after getting married and having children and busy with your career?

The number of times we see each other in a year should be counted by one or one day, right?

According to the above very imprecise calculation method, the total time that can be spent with parents continuously before marriage is 20 years. Calculate it a little more accurately, minus half of the time that you can't wholeheartedly accompany and communicate with each other under objective conditions such as sleeping at night, parents going to work, children going to school, etc., that is 10 years, 3650 days!

Of course, everyone's circumstances are different, living conditions are different, and the circumstances encountered are different, so the results are different, but this does not prevent us from roughly estimating the uncertainty of this time!

3650 days!

You might as well add the days with your parents after graduation to calculate another uncertain number.

It is calculated based on the average age of marriage after graduation is 25 years old.

When you start a family, can you live with your parents every day? I don't think most people do.

I believe that even if you live with your parents, you can and only live with one of your parents...... And there are many uncertainties in it, such as socializing, going to work, etc., let's not mention it. Uniformly calculate the number of days a year with one's heart and soul with one's parents, and set an approximate number of 20 days per year, which may be less, of course.

If the average life expectancy is 100 years old, the rest of your life is 75 years, and the days you spend seeing your parents are 1,500 days. But how old were our parents when we were 100 years old?

The result is an indefinite number, 4,400 days! About 12 years!

However, who can be sure that during these 4,400 days, they will be able to wholeheartedly accompany their parents to drink tea, eat, and chat, without distractions?

Of course, there are many, many uncertainties, and who can guarantee that they will live to be 100 years old? In the end, this 20 days a year will probably be greatly discounted, right? Then roughly subtract another 1000 days!

3400 days left!

At this point, I don't know if you have a sense of urgency? Human life is less than 36,000 days, and we spend less than one-tenth of our time with our parents!

Of course, this rough figure does not represent everything, but at this point, I hope that those who understand this number, whether you are a parent, a child, or both, please be able to cherish the people around you, cherish the people in front of you, and cherish the only time you have with your parents.

Life is always full of many unavoidable feelings, even if there are many reluctances, what should come will eventually appear in life, and what should go will not stay for a minute or a second.

The Buddha said: "All the people of the world have come for the tribulations, and they cannot escape the sins of the eight sufferings." The eight afflictions are birth, old age, sickness, death, love and separation, resentment, unwanted, and unwanted. ”

Birth, old age, sickness and death are not explained here, everyone knows very well.

Love and parting from suffering, in a popular phrase, ask what the world is like, and teach people to promise life and death. This is the case with the life and death of the person you love most.

Resentment will be bitter, and resentment is easy to understand, that is, there will always be people in life who you don't want to meet or even hate to see.

There is no suffering, the desire is always unable to reach the state of satisfaction, and it is difficult to get what you want.

If you don't want to leave the suffering, no one can leave this world alive, no one wants to leave this world, and if you are younger, you don't want to leave your parents to go to school, you don't want to leave your current work environment to go to another strange place, and so on, but you have to leave.

I've quoted this quote in my book before, and now I want to emphasize it again: companionship is the most affectionate confession.

My sister is gone.

The mother looked at her sister's back from the gate and disappeared from sight, just like her grandmother watching her mother leave, although she knew it was useless, she still chased a few steps, and her old tears were in tears.

It's the same goodbye, I don't know when and when we can meet......

For my mother and I, my sister is gone, which means that the Spring Festival is over, and the cold days have begun again...... And this year is more deserted than ever......

At about four o'clock in the afternoon, my father woke up and found that Xiaowei was no longer at home and her luggage was gone.

Habitually light a cigarette and continue to swallow clouds and exhale fog......

"Dunzi, Dad and his classmates are going to dinner in the evening, let's go with Dad!" my father suddenly opened his mouth and said to me.

"I don't want to go, you can go by yourself!" At this time, I was still immersed in the reluctance of my sister to leave, and my mood was a little low, so I said it in passing.

"Hmm, won't you come with me?" the father continued, a little displeased in his tone.

"No!" Listening to my father's slightly unhappy tone, I was also a little unhappy, and replied in a resolute tone.

Suddenly feeling that the atmosphere of the family was a little solidified, my mother hurriedly played a round, and gently pushed me: "Go, go, your father will let you go, anyway, you both eat for nothing, why don't you go?"

The moment my mother pushed me, I realized the seriousness of the matter, and secretly wiped the sweat in my heart: "Okay, okay, I'll go, I can't go!"

However, there seems to be something wrong with my mother's words, what is wrong?

......

When I arrived at the restaurant, I realized that following the hero to eat was the stupidest thing I had ever done in my life, and I was embarrassed to the extreme!

The restaurants in the town are not big, and there are a few small round tables and a cashier counter in a small room of fifty or sixty square meters, and there is a small kitchen behind the counter.

After entering the door, my father saw at a glance where their classmates were. There were 5 people sitting at the table, six or seven dishes.

"Zhang Xu, I'm here!" my father hurriedly walked over excitedly, sat down naturally, pulled a small round stool for me by the way, and happily said to a person next to him: "Haha, long time no see, come back for a few days this time?"

It's not just a delusion, but I suddenly see a man in the middle of the road showing a sincere disgust for his father's arrival, yes, just disgust!

The other three were obviously stunned for a moment, glanced at each other, and turned their eyes to the leader of the leader, who shook his head without a trace......

Only the person whose father called Zhang Xu politely replied to his father: "Well, that's it, I'm back, and I'm going to stay here this time and won't leave." ”

"Haha! You're up to the top!," the father flattered Zhang Xu with a smile.

"It's okay, it's a little bit better. Zhang Xu continued to say modestly.

The father obviously didn't notice the embarrassing atmosphere on the table, and said to the person headed by him with a bright smile: "Ma Jinshan, you are too inauthentic, you don't recognize your old classmates when you become the director of the public security bureau, Zhang Xu came back this time to invite dinner without saying a word, fortunately, I know that you often eat here, hehe......"

When I heard this, I realized that my lover didn't call him for dinner!

Actually!

This hero of our family is uninvited!