Sitting across from Happy and Happy, I felt for the first time that he had grown up, and that I could have adult conversations with him from now on, and that we could talk about anything from now on.

He's going to start college, and there are some things I have to say, and I have to let him know what I think, and hopefully help him in the rest of his life.

I smiled and looked happy, and said to him, "Mom wants to talk to you about love and marriage, is it okay?"

Happy said, "Yes." ”

I narrowed my eyes, trying to pull out a clear line from my numb past: "Mom thinks that love is the most beautiful thing in the world, and the feeling of mutual attraction and mutual admiration between the opposite sex is the best feeling in the world, Mom has always thought that the early stage of love is hazy, can't see many things clearly, always wants to show the best side of themselves to each other, and see that the other party is also with the color of admiration and ignores many shortcomings, and even when in love, the shortcomings of the other party will be considered advantages." So when you find out one day that you are in love, it is love, just a feeling, a beautiful feeling, it has nothing to do with right or wrong, only about love. ”

Speaking of which, I took a sip of my wine and glanced at the delight, he was thoughtful. I continued: "Mom doesn't know when you're going to be in love, I'm just reminding you to be clear about what to do when and when. Don't be against being in love, just don't ignore what matters most to you at the moment. And love is love, you are a boy, you must have a bottom line, and you can't hurt girls. ”

I couldn't stretch on the topic of love anymore, I looked up and was happy, he obviously understood, and nodded silently.

After drinking the rest of the wine in the wine glass, I poured another half glass, gently shook the wine glass, and watched the red wine reflect all kinds of light under the light, my head felt a little woody, maybe I drank a little too much today. But in this state I can express all I want to say. I continued: "Regarding marriage, my mother has more than 20 years of experience in marriage, and I think my mother should share with you my current view of marriage. The first point is that the person who wants to marry you in the future must have a good personality and a good attitude, and my mother believes that this characteristic will lay the tone of family life in the future, and no matter what atmosphere your family encounters, it will always be peaceful; the second point is that her academic qualifications are best graduate students, because girls who can be admitted to graduate school have an IQ online, and they must have perseverance and hard work to study, and your children will continue to turn knowledge into common sense in life in the future; third, girls should have good living habits, and there is no family history at home, because genetic inheritance is a terrible thing。 ”

After saying that, I looked up and was happy, and he smiled. said: "Mom, where do you have the self-confidence, your son and I are just an ordinary person, people are so good, how can they follow me?"

I smiled and said, "I'm glad that Mom thinks you deserve to be loved like this." What Mom said is also a story of experience, and it is also the words of a family, I just want you to know what Mom thinks about this matter. ”

Happy suddenly said seriously: "Mom, I agree with what you said, but I want to add one." ”

I looked at the joy with a little surprise, surprised that it was the first time that she had so approved of my opinion and accepted it, even with some extras.

I smiled and said, "I'd like to hear it." ”

Happy said: "Last year, grandma was sick, our family was about to go bankrupt to treat grandma, Mom, although you fully support Dad, but you must be unbalanced in your heart, right, you will blame Dad for not arranging grandparents' affairs in advance." Because you have reminded your father more than once that people have no long-term worries, they have near-term worries. ”

I didn't know that Happy would ask me from this angle, I didn't know how to answer him, and I said, "Your grandma is your father's mother, and if your father loses his mother, he will die of sadness." There's no reason not to support your dad's. ”

Xing Xing frowned for a moment and said, "Mom, you have changed your concept, I didn't mean this, I just want to say that if Dad could have thought of buying medical insurance for his grandparents in his early years, then this kind of thing would not have happened." Mom, do you remember? You bought me a critical illness medical insurance, and you told me that you can't stay with me for the rest of your life, and you don't want to see me lose my life in the future because I don't have money for treatment, and you have insurance to stay with me without you. Mom, this is your consciousness, I mean that the family of my partner I will find in the future must have a sense of insurance, a sense of security, or I am an only child, if my partner's parents have a serious illness in the future, I have to sell the house and land for treatment, I don't know if love can go through such a test. ”

I was shocked after hearing this, I didn't know what was happening at home would have touched him so much, but I have to admit that I grew up happily, really grew up.

Happy continued: "Mom, don't be sad because I didn't do well in the exam, I promise you that I will study hard in college, and I will definitely be admitted to graduate school, and I have to be good to find you a good daughter-in-law." ”

I laughed, we hadn't talked like this, so relaxed, so happy in years.

Happy continued: "Mom, stop examining yourself, your education has not failed. Although I didn't get into a good university, but after so many years of your strict requirements, at least I am an upright person, a kind person, and I am very filial, my self-care ability is very strong, these things are not better than grades in a sense? Also, Mom, you love life so much, every meal you make for me is hollow out, every meal is a kind of enjoyment, under your infection, I have my own principles of eating, when I am alone, I will also cook delicious meals for myself, instead of ordering takeout. Aren't these the most important things for a person?"

Hearing this, my eyes wet.

Happy to remember all my good and downplay all my bad. He was always a child who thought about others.

I breathed a sigh of relief, I was convinced by him, he was a good boy, and his future must be better than I imagined, because he was really good except for his grades, but I was narrow-minded, and I was blinded by the so-called greed of my parents.

Happy continued: "Mom, you always say that others don't hit the south wall and don't look back, I have to hit the south wall into a hole, climb out of the hole, and take a look outside the south wall, only to know that I was wrong, and I crawled back with blood all over my head." I'm not stubborn, but my understanding is worse than others, but Mom, once I realize, I will implement it firmly. So don't worry about me in the future. I will communicate with you in a timely manner, and I will also manage myself carefully. ”

I nodded, and I knew that the kid in front of me was going to fly away. He told me that I didn't fail in education because he didn't want my mother to worry about the college entrance examination. I was relieved.

All along, it was I who tried hard to reason with him, and today, I am glad to be reasonable.