Life will always come to this point, and the child will start a new stage of life with a wave of his hand, but the parents are in the same place, finding that they have been lost in the years of growing up with their children.

I used to have a lot of things in my heart about children, but now I only have the whip out of reach. Make an appointment with Happy, don't usually call, and ask for a video on Friday night according to the time, just know that each other is okay.

Every day when I get home from work, I am no longer in a hurry, because I know that I am the only one who goes home, and my husband usually doesn't come home until after eight o'clock. So I can walk for half an hour on the 10-minute journey home, looking left and right. I didn't know what to think, I seemed to be suddenly not interested in anything. I have a self-giving up thought from the bottom of my heart, I know that I have to rearrange my life, pull back the attention to the child, the child has soared in the vast world, as a mother, I need to clean up the empty nest, clean up the mood.

I asked myself, how am I going to live the rest of my life? I even began to fear my age, if I can live to be 80 years old, then at my current age, I only have 35 years, and between 70 and 80 years old is a sick year, that is to say, most of my life has passed, or the best years have passed, but I don't seem to have done anything, I am suddenly very afraid, what have I done when I come to this world, what is the meaning of my life?

For a few months, I was in a state of mechanical life, going to and from work, watching TV, sleeping, and going home to my parents. The colleagues around me all talked about me, and their smiles showed a kind of laziness.

I lost myself, I was full of regrets about my past life, I was full of fear about my future life, I didn't want to think about problems, and sometimes I didn't even want to talk. After nearly four months, I found that I began to forget, and one day I left the house without turning off the ironing machine, but fortunately my husband came home early that day, so a vicious accident was avoided. The chances of mistakes at work have also increased. I knew I couldn't go on like this, so I decided to join the crowd of people who worked out in the evening. The courtyard where I live is very large, and there are four groups of people dancing alone, some dancing ethnic dances, some dancing ballroom dances, some dancing aerobics, and some dancing square dances. Square dancing is the most popular. I prefer the folk dance group, the music is soothing, and the people look quieter. I followed for three days, and I found that my coordination was really bad, and I didn't like it from the bottom of my heart, and finally I gave up on the idea of learning dance.

I need to do what I love. After thinking about it for several days, I went to sign up for a tea ceremony class and learned the tea ceremony. I love tea so much that I want to have a deep understanding of tea. I had classes twice a week, starting with tasting various teas, and most importantly, I got to know a group of people who love tea, and I took classes and chatted together, and I suddenly felt that my life had a new content. Taste at least four kinds of tea in each class, carefully perceive the shape and smell of each tea, and understand each tea from the origin to the production process one by one, so that life is meaningful.

I like the color of green tea, make tea with glassware, make tea when the water temperature drops to eighty-five degrees after the water boils, the tea leaves begin to dance in the water, the green skirt flutters, the whole cup seems to be filled with a green spring, I like to watch the process of making green tea, just like a quiet woman reading a book under the willow tree by the river, green tea is beautiful and delicious, but I can't drink more, if I want to drink it must be drunk in the morning, if I drink it in the afternoon I will lose sleep. Drinking too much will upset my stomach, and drinking a little more will even cause stomach cramps. Green tea is not fermented, it is cold, I have a cold stomach, I like it but I can't enjoy it.

Every time I taste black tea, I don't fall off the cups, the black tea warms the stomach, and the whole body is warm and yang, and the stomach is also very comfortable. I think black tea is like a middle-aged woman, calm but flavorful, and most importantly, warm.

My favorite is the ripe pu, the teacher gave us the day she treasured twenty-eight years of ripe pu for us to taste, when the tea entrance, the taste is not very good, I seem to drink the taste of the old house, the feeling of turning out the old things, a cup of belly my stomach can not say the comfort, as if the greasy things in the stomach are instantly melted away by the tea, there is really a feeling of turning decay into magic. After three brews, the teacher changed the tea, and I laughed and said that I wanted to keep the taste in my mouth. After class, I asked the teacher for the amount of tea I had brewed, and I wanted to enjoy this magical feeling at home alone. I think Shupu is like a man with profound knowledge and strong martial arts, with a vicissitudes of the past, but a more exciting future.

After a tea ceremony class, I tasted all varieties of tea, and also learned about the planting and production process of all varieties of tea, I suddenly found that I had begun to leave the life of being wrapped by children, and moved forward a little, I also found that life is like white water, if you want what taste, you have to make what kind of tea. Although green tea is beautiful but I can't drink it, since it looks a little ugly Pu'er is suitable for me, then I will soak Pu'er, in order to improve the taste of life, then constantly improve the quality of Pu'er, store enough Pu'er for 30 years to drink, and live the life I want.

Through tea, I finally got out of the empty nest of my heart.

A friend who took refuge once told me not to worry about leaving, because being too concerned is actually a curse.

At first, I didn't understand the meaning of this sentence, but I slowly realized that children have left you to live independently, and you should believe that they have the ability to face life independently. If you are concerned about him, you will inevitably have to reimagine or speculate, imagine that he is not good, guess that he does not take good care of himself, or cannot cope with emergencies, etc., in fact, isn't that a curse?

When you leave, you are confident that your child will take care of everything, and if he needs your help, he will ask you for help.

If it's really like I calculated, there are still thirty-five years, I should be able to do a lot of things, I have to plan well, and I have to live the rest of my life clearly.

I like Chinese medicine so much, I will learn it systematically from now on, and I like guqin so much, so I will learn it from now on. It took me ten years to learn what I wanted to learn, and to learn what I could master.

At this age, the most important thing is to plan for your retirement, store your health, and let yourself live the rest of your life without dragging down your children.