"Is it really all wrong about Juan'er in your mouth? Have you reflected on your own reasons, let me ask you this, are there any memories between you and Juan'er that you yearn for?" Nuo Yan's question was very sharp, and Li Guangsheng was speechless.

After about a minute, Li Guangsheng still didn't say anything.

"I'll help you answer, when you proposed to Juan'er, it should be the thing you yearn for the most, you were blinded by hatred, and you chose to block this memory in your brain's subconscious, but you can't remember, just now I have proved that since Juan'er took away all your savings for more than ten years, you have been in a state of collapse since then, until now. ”

Li Guangsheng covered his face with his hands, at a loss, it was obvious that every word of Nuoyan spoke to his heart, it was indeed the case, when he got along with Juan'er, he always blamed Juan'er for being so wrong, that was wrong, never reflected on his own problems, and was used to relying on Juan'er to live, so that without Juan'er, he couldn't even take care of himself sometimes.

"You're right, I have a big problem with myself, in the past few years since Juan'er left, I have often reflected on myself, whether I did something wrong, or I care less about Juan'er, and I can't catch Juan'er's heart anymore, but I still think that all this I have today is caused by Juan'er, and I can't get over this hurdle in my heart. Li Guangsheng said weakly.

Nuoyan also saw some clues, Li Guangsheng's language revealed his love for Juan'er, and also revealed a kind of helplessness.

"Have you ever thought about changing yourself?" Noyan said.

"I thought about it, I'm not too young, I don't have revenge and ideals like when I was young, and I can't afford to fail, the important thing is that I have no money, and I took away hundreds of thousands, this is all my savings, I don't know what to do now, so I still pin my hopes on Juan'er. ”

Nuoyan said: "I can understand your feelings, in the process of getting along with Juan'er, there is a fatal point that you ignore, that is, pay attention to each other's feelings, pay attention to each other's feelings in order to truly respect and value each other." Only by paying attention to the other party's feelings can the other party accept you from the heart, trust you, and be willing to listen to your opinions and suggestions. Paying attention to the other person is a key that opens the door to interacting with people. If we don't pay attention to other people's feelings and don't understand what they are thinking, it's easy to make them feel uncomfortable. Even if you think something is happy and happy, if you don't consider whether the other party likes it or not, and is willing to accept it, you will impose it on others, and the other party will often not appreciate it. In life, most people often lament that they don't know how to eliminate the estrangement with strangers, and then make both parties familiar and start dating. Everyone wants to win the care and approval of others, but they ignore the care and recognition of others, and as a result, no one cares about themselves. The relationship between people is mutual, you respect me, I respect you. If you don't care about others, they won't care about you, and if you just want others to pay attention to you and make others interested in you, you will never have sincere and sincere friends. If you try to care for others with your heart, even strangers will become friends. To make others like you or to develop a true friendship, to get help from others, and to live a more enjoyable life, then start by changing yourself: genuinely caring for others, loving others. ”

Li Guangsheng was in tears by Nuoyan, thinking that he and Juan'er would never come back from the previous period together, he was very sorry and desperate, maybe Juan'er is married now, and he is still treated everywhere by his family as a neuropath, he is really too much of a failure.

Seeing this, Noyan continued: "What you want is like sand in your hand, the tighter you hold it, the faster it will drain away. Once upon a time, I drew a blueprint for the future in my mind, and just thinking about it made me look forward to the future. In the life of groping, the indispensable thing is to hit the south wall, and then return to start from scratch, I have always known what I want, but I have never let go of the fetters, and in the end I can only be confused and fall into the deep valley. At the same time, I am also glad, at least I still have the energy and ability to fight, the past is experience, even if it hurts, I will smile and say: Thank you for your existence, let me know how to move forward in the future. Instead of wandering around many goals in our lives, it is better to do only one thing in our lives, which can not only make us live more peaceful and calm, but also improve our ability to do things to the extreme. When you live life to the extreme, you will gradually find that the more you let go, the richer you become. But human desires are endless, when you become a slave of your desires, what joy and happiness are there in terms of let's slowly unload the burden of desires, don't be a puppet of material desires, only in this way can we live calmly and calmly, and will not deviate from the planned life route, we want to do a lot of things, but our energy and time are limited, after all, we still have to learn to abandon those that are not important, and find the most important things. A reasonable goal can not only boost our life, but also reduce the burden on our soul and make our life easier. ”

Li Guangsheng said: "What is a reasonable goal?"

"The smaller, the fewer, the better. For example, if you set a goal of earning 100 million yuan a year, do you think it can be achieved? If you combine your actual situation, the possibility of achieving it is too small, so it is easier to make yourself feel happy by setting a goal that can be reached on tiptoe. Second, the more specific the goal, the better, and the general goal can only be a fantasy, to read 100 books a year, but how to read these 100 books? Save 300,000 yuan in three years, and then there will be no more. A specific goal, preferably accurate to the point of day, is a bit tedious, but allows you to see your progress every day. Once you have a goal, the next step is to put it into action, and the goal of shouting slogans is to play hooliganism. In this life, whether it is long or not, whether it is short or not, there are many things we can do and how many things we can accomplish. Finally, start with the things you are interested in, interest is the best teacher, and finding what you are interested in will definitely get twice the result with half the effort. Because you like it, even if you encounter difficulties, you will try your best to solve them, and if you are asked to do something that you are not interested in, every day will be like a year. ”

"Taught, Dr. Noyan. Li Guangsheng said.

"How do you know my name?"

"You have a badge on your overalls. ”

"It shows that you are a person who is good at observing details, this is a good thing, the wife can be found again, but the premise is that you have the strength, give up illusions, start from your own reality, even if you do not reach the goal in your heart, at least you will see progress, work hard in that direction, you will not be wrong, if you still can't get out of the estrangement in your heart, in a few years, you will become a real psychopath in the mouth of others, by then it will be too late, you can't change others, just change yourself, read more books, I believe you can succeed, as a psychiatrist, there are too many patients like you, and good results have been achieved under my treatment, you are welcome to contact me at any timeIf you have any confusion in life and any emotional feelings that you can't grasp, you can contact me, this is my phone number. Nuoyan handed Li Guangsheng a business card.

After Li Guangsheng left, Yan Musk Deer walked in.

"Nuoyan, I've been eavesdropping outside the door just now, it's so exciting, such a stubborn person, I was persuaded by you. ”

"Yan Dong, there, I'm all some three-legged cat kung fu. ”

"Haha, I like low-key people, do you think that Li Guangsheng can do it?"

"It's hard to say, but there will be a feeling in my heart, he will think seriously, and I am sure that he will not become a psychopath. ”

"yes, it's too hard to change a person, can you tell me more about reasonable goals, I still want to hear it?"

"No, Yan Dong, in front of you, I am a junior. ”

"Don't say that, I'm too bad for you in some ways, really. ”

Psychologists divide human knowledge and skills into three circular areas nested in layers: the innermost layer is the "comfort zone", which is the various skills we are proficient in, the outermost layer is the "panic zone", which is the skills that I cannot learn for the time being, and the middle layer is the "learning zone". Reasonable goals, the right way, and then perseverance to persevere, it is possible to achieve success. And don't develop a pleasing personality, there is a kind of "inch effect" in psychology, if a person accepts a small request from others, then others put forward a higher request on this basis, and this person will also tend to accept. To be honest, there is no shortage of "good old people" around us, and according to common sense, this kind of person should be more popular. In fact, this is not the case, what they do, others will take for granted, it is really thankless. In the face of other people's requests for help, we must know how to say no, and we must know that we are not omnipotent, and we cannot do everything. All off topic?" said Noyan embarrassedly.

"It's okay, go on, it's very good. ”

"Maybe it's because I watch too many idol dramas, and I have a wrong perception of love. When I was young, I always envied those vigorous loves, and when I fell in love, I always wanted to take him for myself, and if I didn't reply to the message for a day, I would let myself think about it for a long time. In order to avoid two people arguing, try your best to suppress the truest emotions in your heart. thought that such a compromise would be exchanged for a long-term relationship, but in fact, it pushed that person farther and farther away. I have always been a person who is especially grateful for the experience, because it is because of these experiences that I know the meaning of life and what people are worth it and what things are worth it. Whether emotionally or in life, I am no longer the person who only blindly pleases others. In fact, the first time I said no, I was mentally empty, and the first time I made a request, I thought that I was willful and would not be understood. However, when I did do this, others did not resent me for my refusal, and my family did not think that I was unreasonable because of my request, but they felt that I was right and were willing to cooperate with me. What kind of person you want to become, you have to work hard to change, a person who doesn't care about you, you won't feel it if you accommodate the other party, a person who cares about you, will find subtle changes in you. We are faced with so much information every day, and wanting to live a simple life has become a luxury. But I believe that as long as we want it, it will be fulfilled eventually, and the simpler we get, the more we can hear our inner voice and the easier it is to perceive happiness. ”