Back to the hospital, there was nothing wrong, Wang Yirou also got off work, I asked Qiqi to wait for me in the office, I went to see Wang Yirou, Qiqi was not jealous, she was really a cute girl, obediently sitting in the office waiting for me.

I came to Wang Yirou's dormitory, and the door was not closed, which was really interesting, not afraid of attracting thieves?

"Sister Rourou, you don't close the door, you're not afraid of perverts, the ratio of men and women in our hospital is equal, and there are mostly single men, you are so beautiful and gentle, you are not afraid that those people will not be able to bear the loneliness, and they will rush in directly and give you the Fa on the spot!" I teased Wang Yirou.

"Heh, this is the hospital is full of surveillance, besides, what age is this, spending a little money, why take such a big risk, what do you want me to do?

"Don't dare to date, you have an appointment, I'm afraid that people will be jealous, I want to ask you if you feel used to it today, what help do you need from me, I will wait for work." ”

"Thank you, I'll be looking for you if you need to.,Really don't you want me to date?'re you afraid of that little girl?,Why,I haven't seen you for so long.,Girlfriends have changed.,One is younger than the other.,You like little Lori.。 ”

"You can see this, okay, I wish you a smooth date, I won't be a light bulb, I'm afraid people will misunderstand, if there is anything to call me, I'll go back first." ”

"Bye-bye, don't send it slowly. Wang Yirou smiled very happily.

Back in the office, Kiki was still scrolling through Tik Tok and was very happy to see me coming.

"Ah, Brother Wind Chime, are you finished?" Kiki said sweetly.

"What am I done?" I was a little puzzled, what did that mean.

"I'm asking if you're done talking to that sister?"

"Oh, it's over, it's over, let's go back. ”

......

Country Garden.

As soon as I got home, Kiki went back to the room, and Zuo Mi pulled me and smiled weirdly, looking like something was going to look for me.

"Tell me, what's the matter, big beauty?" I said directly.

"Hehe, I really can't hide it from my brother, do my sister a favor?"

"Say, say, there's no one here. ”

"Well, after the deed is done, there will be a great reward. ”

"Okay, let's talk about it, stop the ink. ”

"It's the one who was in my house before, do you still know him?"

"That Japanese, it seems that he is wearing glasses, he is the manager of the car company, I don't remember much, what's wrong, came to Chengdu?"

"Wow, you can guess this, that's it, waiting for me at the door every day after work, holding a bouquet of flowers, and it's a different flower every day, it's even more annoying than the previous Xu Liang, I'm disgusted to death, can you help me find a way?"

I'm a little confused.

"This, it's really hard to get it, you can't beat people up, besides, people are also infatuated, or like this, you can agree to others first, give people a chance, if it's really not suitable, you just refuse directly. "I had a bad idea.

"Ah, let you help me pay attention, what kind of idea are you, isn't this sincere to hurt me, are you my brother, hmph, ignore you!" Zuo Mi was a little angry, puffing up, turning his back to me, ignoring me, this is cute.

"Oh, Sister Zuo, I said, it's a good thing that someone is chasing you, it means that you are very attractive, no one is pursuing me, hey, what a envy, big envy, I said how did I see a person holding a bouquet of flowers at the gate just now, where are you waiting for someone stupidly?"

"Ah, she's all in our house, how does she know here, who is this, I hate stalking the most, no, I'm going to get rid of him and let the family see what it's like. ”

"Hey, Sister Zuo, why do you care so much, isn't it right for you to avoid him every day, just don't see him, he will know what you mean, he has nothing to do all day long, doesn't he work? You think too much. ”

Jin Wenhui came over and said, "What are you talking about, let me hear it?"

"Sister Zuo Mi's life is a big event, I went to take a bath first, I was too tired. I smiled and said to Jin Wenhui, and Jin Wenhui looked at me so seriously and went back to the room.

Back to the room, I was lying on the bed, I didn't want to move, through Chen Cheng and Yulin's affairs, and not allowed to be approved by Aunt Xiulian, I saw Zuo Mi wrote an article on Zuo Mi's computer, I think it makes sense, a person's maturity, in fact, from the farewell to the original family, I found in the process of accepting many people's consultations, many people are deeply kidnapped by the original family, unable to live the life they want. And if we want to be truly mature, a person must first learn to separate from the family of origin, which is the beginning of our true maturity and the beginning of our freedom to create our own life.

First, each is an individual, and psychology has found that the newborn baby is in a mother-child symbiotic relationship with us, but after six months, the baby and we enter the stage of separation and individualization. And by the time the child is three years old, he is already an independent self and can enter the Oedipus period with the theme of competition. The reason why many people are hurt by the original court is that in the face of the real world, their self-ability is weakened, and they are reluctant to step into society, or they are not confident in facing society. And if we want to heal the original family, we must see the deep shadow of the original family's shaping of us, character growth and personal thinking habits. But we have to tell ourselves from the bottom of our hearts that this is just a fragment of our life, and it does not mean that this will determine our life forever, and that we have the ability and hope to live our own life well.

We must understand that the family of origin is the family of origin, I am me, my parents are parents, and the key to surpassing our parents is that we can see the thinking of our parents and the influence of the family on me.

2. Everyone has their own issues

Many people have been kidnapped by their parents for their lives, and perhaps we should also understand earlier that parents are the lives of parents, and everyone has their own problems. It is very important to learn to distinguish between ourselves and others, which is fundamental to our happiness or not. There is a woman who is very afraid of divorce because her mother has been divorced since she was a child, she has been slandering men in front, she is afraid that she will divorce when she gets married, repeating her mother's life.

As everyone knows, the problems of parents are the problems of parents, and they must solve them, and we need to face our own problems. We are afraid of getting married, in essence, we dare not love, but we also do not know how to love, we need to find our own problems from the original family. And by repairing the obstacles and confusions we encounter in our own growth, we can regain our hearts. And the woman who is afraid of repeating her mother's life needs to understand from the source that we cannot dominate and decide on the life of our parents, we only respect them, and tell our own suggestions to help our parents re-understand their own lives.

3. Learning to say goodbye to your family of origin is the beginning of your mental maturity

We don't want to be hurt by our original family and affect our future development, so it is very important to learn to break away and say goodbye. You need to wean yourself from the heart, tell yourself that your life is determined by yourself, not by your original family, you need to enrich your inner soul, constantly enrich your inner self, and ask yourself what you want in life, so that you can break through yourself again.

It must not be the family of origin that can influence our future, but your expectations for the future and your actions in the present. When you know that your family of origin does not affect you all, you can draw a blueprint of reality from your own inner perspective and strive to achieve it with your own actions.

What can take us further is the inner dream. It is also our strength and warrior, never be limited by the original family, but tell yourself that the influence of the original family on you is from the moment your mind matures, you know that it is over, and the next life is for you to practice and constantly improve yourself, so that you will break through the shackles of life and move towards a rich and self-owned life.

Zuo Mi's article left a deep impression on me, this girl is not simple, I don't know anything else, the experience must be very rich. To be able to write such an in-depth article, both experience and writing level are indispensable.

If Zuo Mi's article is used on Chen Cheng is the most suitable, Chen Cheng's current situation needs to make a firm choice to prove himself, go out, even if he plans for the worst, he can't mix up any Mingtang, in fact, it doesn't exist, at least learn more, see more, this is also a kind of accumulation, distance produces beauty, staying at home will only increase the conflict between mother and son, and make the atmosphere of this family feel nervous, and Aunt Xiulian, after listening to Nuoyan's analysis, Nuoyan should understand, but he didn't say it so clearly, this is a typical anxiety disorder, this chronic anxiety disorder has existed for many years, and it is not a whimExcessive mental worry is at the heart of anxiety symptoms. Expresses constant concern about some unforeseen dangerous or unfortunate event that may occur in the future. Some patients are not clearly aware of the object or content of their worries, but only a strong inner experience of fear and trepidation, which is called free-floating anxiety. Some patients may worry about what might happen in real life, but the level of worry, anxiety, and irritability is very disproportionate to reality, which is called anticipatory anxiety. Patients often have a premonition of panic, and are upset, worried, restless, and feel like a catastrophe is coming.

Fortunately, Aunt Xiulian still has some reason that has not been overshadowed by anxiety disorder, which is a good thing, but I am afraid that as the condition becomes more and more serious, it will evolve into panic disorder, which is the most terrifying.

Aunt Xiulian and Chen Cheng are lucky through the help of Nuoyan, in fact, most families in this city, this situation exists, housing loans, car loans, childcare, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, life, economic pressure, many newly formed families will more or less make these contradictions, there is no strong mentality to actively face these difficulties, the family is broken, It is inevitable that wives will be separated, the reason why the divorce rate in this society is high now, because most people are selfish and have no patience, which is a big taboo, Aunt Xiulian is worried that she can't find a rich family, and it can't bring a sense of security, because she does Chen Cheng's failure in the last marriage is attributed to the incompetence of the other party's original family, coupled with Chen Cheng's inaction, which led to the current situation, so her mind subconsciously told herself that she must find a rich family, these can be avoided, as long as you have money, nothing is a problem, everything can be covered up, and Chen Cheng just doesn't like that Haiyan, It's not because Haiyan is not good, but Chen Cheng can't get the recognition of others, Chen Cheng needs recognition too much in his heart, his subconscious thinks that Haiyan is too powerful, and he is too mediocre, he is not a good match at all, and tends to be the same as himself Yulin, this is the contradiction between mother and son, although Nuoyan handles it very well, but I always feel that this problem will break out sooner or later, but the seed is pressed down, unless Chen Cheng goes out, this problem may be alleviated, but Chen Cheng's father may become a gas bag again, and family conflicts will break out again。