In fact, people's need for relationships is innate, people are relationship animals, people can't do without relationships, so people are in relationships, so they can starve their soul and psychological life to survive, so relationships are the air, water and sunshine of people's psychological life. Emotions are the bonds that connect one relationship with another, generally speaking, there are four kinds of emotions, love and hate, and relationship is an expression of the four kinds of love and hatred.

In the evening, Lele shared this case with us, which really made us feel a lot of emotion, Zuo Mi felt that this kind of love was innocent, and Jin Wenhui thought that this child was very lucky, because he met Lele. I didn't express my opinion, and Kiki is the same, tomorrow is the weekend, I have a day off, and I want to learn from Lele.

Very early the next day, Ni Jing sent Xiao Hao to Lele's consultation room, I observed all this in the Lele lounge, Qiqi went to work today, let me pick her up after work, Ni Jing sent Xiao Hao and left, Lele got up and said something to Xiao Hao, I was deserting, I didn't hear it, they went out, and I followed.

"Xiao Hao, do you know why I brought you to the river?"

"I don't know, Sister Lele, does this mean anything?"

"Look at the slow flow of water, and the sun and the earth, and the air we breathe, there is no noise, there is no noise, it is quiet, here you have no troubles, you can forget those unpleasant things, and it is convenient for me to treat you. ”

"What do you always feel shortcoming?" Xiao Hao said.

"I'll tell you what's missing, aunt, father, mother, Xiaomin, if these four people stand in front of you with a smile, maybe you will smile too. ”

"Well, I miss them, but I know they won't come back. ”

"Look at the water and the air and the sun, as time passes, maybe you will see the sun tomorrow, they are not static, they are in a state of flux, what you see in your eyes is not the truth, and you can't see it. ”

"You're right, there are many things that I can't see, watching the people closest to me leave and die in front of me, the world is very unfair, watching the children of other families be happy and harmonious, the family is holding hands, why is this really the situation?"

Lele held Xiao Hao's hand and said: "I was like you when I was a child, my mother abandoned me and my father very early, at that time the information was not so developed, I wanted to call my mother and I had to go to a rich house to have a phone, lonely, hesitant, every time I New Year, I look forward to a family of three to reunite, but often the ending is not so good, Xiao Hao, you have to know that this situation happens to many people, so what is the reason for this situation? Do you know?"

Xiao Hao shook his head.

Lele said patiently: "Communication, even if you are related by blood, if you don't communicate, you will have points, Xiaohao, have you ever wondered why Dad left and why Xiaomin left?"

"The relationship between my father and my mother has always been bad, I don't know the specific reason, and Xiao Min doesn't quite understand. ”

"Think about it from your father's point of view now, what is Dad's departure for, a distant foreign country, Dad will also feel lonely, and your mood is the same as at this moment, but Dad has to do this, she wants to give the family a good life, let you live a good life, your mother is a strict person, she has affected your father in venting her emotions, Dad's departure is only temporary, he just wants to calm down Mom, Dad still loves you, his departure is a last resort, because he has to work to earn money to support the family, you can understand Dad。 ”

"Sister Lele, I'm too naïve, I only care about my own feelings, and I don't know how my father feels, but I miss my father so much. ”

"Then you should work hard to recover as soon as possible, your father doesn't want to see a child who is depressed and depressed all day long, and he doesn't want to see a child who is as emotional as his mother, Dad meets a happy, happy, smiling child, do you understand? When you recover, I will take you to see Dad!"

"Really?"

"Really. ”

It is not easy for Xiao Hao to go from the continuous bowing of his head just now to the current chest and head up.

Lele continued: "Let's talk about your aunt again, after all, there are seven years of affection, and from your words yesterday, I can imagine that your aunt is a kind and amiable person. She loves you very much and cares about you very much, each of us does not know what will happen tomorrow, medicine has high limitations, there are births and deaths every day in this world. The departure of relatives, grief-stricken, your aunt on the morning of her death, asked you to wear more clothes, it was cold outside, she loved you, she didn't want you to be wronged, she was looking at you from afar, you want your aunt to see your smiling side, I think this is also your aunt's greatest wish. ”

"Yes, I have been with my aunt for seven years, happy and happy, just like Sister Lele said, there are births and deaths every day in this world, this is the law of nature, not only reflected in people, but also in animals and plants, I can understand my aunt, and I can also understand the laws of nature. ”

"Great, I'm glad you can know me like this, and finally let's talk about Xiaomin, Sister Lele asks you, is she just your confidant in your heart or in your subconscious?"

"Confidant?I'm very happy with Xiao Min, we have the same experience, only Xiao Min can understand my feelings, those classmates and teachers are not the same kind of people as me, they all think that I am a person with mental problems, only Xiao Min doesn't think so, she can read my heart, Sister Lele, I don't hide it from you, I want her to be my wife. ”

"Really, maybe this is love, Xiao Min may have the same idea as you, she left you to cheer you up, she wants to see a healthy Xiao Hao, even if all kinds of factors, you can overcome. Maybe we are talking here, she is watching you from a distance, let go of the depression in your heart, study and play happily with your classmates, let Xiao Min know you again, you have been recognized by Xiao Min's father or mother, Xiao Min will become your wife just around the corner, isn't it?"

Xiao Hao suddenly stood up and looked around, looking for something, Lele knew that he was looking for Xiao Min.

"Sit down, Xiao Hao, you are classmates, you will meet every day, don't rush this time, do you know what you should do next?"

"Got it, Sister Lele, let go of depression, loneliness, hesitation, and try to accept the world, because this world also has a beautiful side, just like this water and sunshine, I want to be a normal person, study hard, I want to let my father go home by myself, let Xiaomin recognize me, and let my classmates and teachers recognize me. ”

"Well, I'll send you back, come to me every day to share the joy you see, say what you think, and you'll get better soon. ”

Lele sent Xiao Hao away and came to an old-fashioned community on Muhua Road, Tianfu New District, and the doorman said that it was on the fifth floor of the second unit.

After entering the door.

"What do you call you? Wang Hui said.

"Call me Lele, I'm here for Xiao Hao's business. ”

"Wait a minute, I'll make you tea. ”

Lele took advantage of the time when Wang Hui was making tea to observe the furniture and decoration in the room. Indeed, after Xiaohao's father left, Wang Hui was just an office worker, and after paying the tuition fees, there was not much money left, and the actual situation of this family was far more difficult than I thought.

"Drinking tea, my child only comes back once a week, the homeroom teacher has called me many times, I really can't do anything, the stricter the control, the more rebellious the child is. Wang Hui said as tears fell quietly.

"Do you know Xiao Hao, or what he likes to eat and wear, tell me!"

"We have been together for a short time, he likes the pair of sneakers that his deceased aunt bought for him, I don't know what brand, he always washes it clean when he goes out, as for what he eats, he doesn't seem to be a picky eater, he eats what I cook. ”

"It seems that you don't know Xiao Hao, he told me that you are different from my aunt, you are very strict, there is nothing wrong with being strict, what is wrong is the way and method, you impose your method on Xiao Hao, like a spring, the more you put pressure on him, the farther it bounces, Dad's departure has caused him a lot of trauma, in my psychotherapy, he has become much happier, he told me that his greatest hope is to see his parents happy and be by his side, although I know it is difficult to achieve, but I try to make him accept this situation and make him work harder, he told me that he wants to change this situation through his own efforts, this is just a child in the first year of high school, you can't ask him too muchHe has his own ideas, his own cognitive concepts, and as a mother, he should support him, right?"

"Lele, yes, Haohao's father's departure has a lot to do with me, it's because I'm too emotional, very strict with his father, and I don't take into account his father's feelings, so I will leave me, I know it's wrong, maybe this is God's punishment for me." ”

"Don't blame yourself too much, you have a sensible child is not, it means that you have hope, don't interfere with his thoughts, as long as you don't touch the red line, you just let him do it, you can't live in your own world forever, Xiao Hao returns home, communicate more, understand his inner thoughts more, don't blindly blame, you are a good mother, many mothers can't do you like this, Xiao Hao's father's departure you didn't look for it again, prove that you care about Xiao Hao, I am proud of Xiao Hao for having a mother like you who loves him, sometimes if you can't control your emotions, there are many ways to release your emotions, travel, mountaineering, or even if you go downstairs for a while, Dad's departure hopes not to happen to Xiao Hao, don't build your emotions on the pain of others, get along more between mother and son, go shopping, go to the park, cook him a delicious meal, increase the relationship between you, Xiao Hao hopes that you can be like your aunt. ”

As soon as Lele spoke, Wang Hui realized his mistake, and his crying became louder and louder, releasing the depression in his heart, and crying was much better.

Before leaving, Lele said: "I will come to see Xiao Hao at any time, and finally say that Dad has left, Xiao Hao can't leave, Xiao Hao can't leave you, this is a sum of money, you take it, get Xiao Hao some delicious food, buy some new clothes, let him be the same as other children." ”

"I can't ask for this money, you've helped us too much, how embarrassed to take your money. Wang Hui excused himself.

"We counselors are professional listeners, we don't have a lot of money, and there's only so much I can help where we need to be, goodbye. ”