"Little handsome guy, how do you feel?" Ye Xuan's words made me laugh, and now I am starting to learn to flirt with others.

"That, beautiful sister, I'm a stupid person, and it's not easy to understand the big truth, can you give an example or something?"

"Well, I once read an article on the Internet, the story is like this, Li Yang, who studied business English in college, graduated into a foreign trade company, and it took 5 years to finally climb to the position of manager. Although the position is not too high, for Li Yang, who is more introverted, he has experienced a lot of twists and turns during the period. When she first started working, Li Yang thought that as long as she did her job well, who knew that after she really started working, it was not her business ability that stumped her, but dealing with new customers. Because he is not good at talking to strangers, Li Yang always asked his colleagues to help receive new customers at the beginning, but his colleagues' performance became more and more popular, while his own performance became more and more dismal. At first, Li Yang doubted her ability, and even doubted whether she was suitable for the job, and even wanted to change jobs, but her character of not easily admitting defeat still made her try to change herself.

For the next period of time, Li Yang forced himself to deal with strangers. There was a lot of contact, but the result of the negotiation was unsatisfactory, and even two customers left "inexplicably" halfway. Later, Li Yang deliberately found a colleague with a good relationship to accompany him to meet customers, firstly, to embolden himself, and secondly, to let his colleagues observe himself to see if there was something wrong with his speech. As a result, in less than half a day, the colleague found out that when Li Yang was talking to strange customers, he always habitually put his hands behind his back, giving people the feeling that the leader was talking, which made the other party feel uncomfortable. After finding the problem, Li Yang's next efforts have a direction. During the day, I practice my body movements in front of my colleagues, I go home at night to practice in front of the mirror, and sometimes I go to the library on weekends to read books on related subjects. Slowly, Li Yang also summed up some rules, such as reaching out as soon as possible before accosting a conversation, showing a clear willingness to shake hands with the other party, so as to make the other party feel that you are modest and enthusiastic, and you can also avoid unnecessary embarrassment.

In fact, understanding body language can not only correct one's own body habits and make others happy, but also can figure out the psychology of others by observing their body language. In fact, Li Yang does just that, in the communication with customers, if the other party is restless and does not know where to put his hands, she will usually find a comfortable sofa for the customer to sit down and hand over a cup of coffee; if the other party's expression is calm, and her hands are naturally placed on her chest, she will continue to talk about the product, and if the other party waves her hands and her face is anxious, she will finish decisively. In order to get customers to sign orders quickly, I gave an example of signing orders, of course, there are a lot of people's body language, and here are some common body language that can be easily done and are very conducive to pick-up, do you want to hear that?"

"Body language, just smile. ”

"Well, a lot of people think that smiling isn't a body language, it's just a facial expression. Of course, this explanation is reasonable, but any kind body language will lose a lot of color if it is not accompanied by a smile, and a smile is the most direct and effective way to show kindness to others and gain the favor of others. Sometimes, when you get along with strangers, even if you don't talk or do anything, just a slight smile on your face, it will make both parties feel like they are telepathic. ,You,I personally think that there's no point in just talking to you here.,Go out and practice.,Well,Think about it.,For example, parks.,Blind date conferences.,This kind of sociality is a little stronger.,And things like bars and cafes and the like.。 According to what I just said, didn't you take notes, test the water first, find out the problem, we can contact us by phone and WeChat at any time, and I will give you some guidance, okay?"

"But, I ...... I don't dare to go to the places you mentioned!" Zhao Ping looked a little shy.

"Oh yes, I almost forgot, find a better hair studio, go to the Internet to check, your dressing is very problematic, go back and do it immediately, send me a photo when it's done, I'll take a look, the image is very important, if you want others to see you shine, then do as I say, go, little handsome guy, you will find your own little girl." ”

Zhao Ping happily left with the small notebook he recorded, and said that he would definitely invite us to a big meal after success.

I smiled at Ye Xuan and said, "Ye Xuan, it's very powerful, I didn't expect you to know so much knowledge, talk to you and have so much knowledge, and be taught." ”

"Haha, brother, I'm also talking nonsense, I just like to read books in this area, my mother often says that I, I read some unserious things, but then again, like Zhao Ping's situation, I think, if you really want to do something, then even if there are many obstacles, you will do everything you can to do it. But if you don't really want to accomplish something, then even if the road ahead is smooth, you will do whatever it takes to stop you. ”

"Well, it's true, working hard is not to move anyone, nor to show that person, but to give yourself the ability to jump out of the circle of your disgust at any time, and have the right to choose, and live your life in the way you like. Just like Zhao Ping, no one cares about his depression, and no one cares about his loneliness, but everyone has a common characteristic, if you are brilliant, others will look up to you and shape yourself, the process is very painful, but you can eventually harvest a better self. ”

"Brother, do you think Zhao Ping can find the girl in his mind?" Ye Xuan looked at me intently.

"Yes, he will always become mature, even if it doesn't work this time, it won't work next time, sum up the experience, don't blame others, spend all the time on himself, there will be girls who like him, there is a process. ”

"Hopefully, this weekend, my brother will be okay in the afternoon?"

"Of course there's something, does it count as accompanying you?"

Ye Xuan said sweetly: "I think my brother has always been with me." ”

"Ye Xuan, you've been dishonest lately, let's go downstairs and take a look, it's too boring to stay in the office all the time. ”

Holding hands with Ye Xuan and walking downstairs, I found a place with few people, and I said to Ye Xuan: "Ye Xuan, is there anything in your hometown that particularly attracts you? Or the kind that makes you forget to return." ”

"Well, think about it, when I was in elementary school, every summer vacation, I would follow my sister-in-law to pick honeysuckle in the Qinling Mountains, take it home to dry, and sell it to the vendors who walked through the village to collect medicinal herbs, in exchange for the tuition fees or books for the next school year. The buds of the honeysuckle that have never bloomed are the most beautiful flowers and hopes that swayed in my childhood.

Honeysuckle prefers to grow in river avenues, rocky piles and sloping roots and hungry bushes. Instead of climbing higher hills and walking farther, we often leave early in the morning and come back by noon.

My sister-in-law picks all kinds of herbs and wild vegetables in the mountains all the year round, and is very familiar with the terrain in the mountains and the growth habits of various herbs.

The two sides of the Panxi River, which we most often go to collect mountain springs and streams from the deep mountains of the Qinling Mountains, have grown. The Panxi River flows out of the mountains along the middle of the cascading and winding mountains, and the gravel road leading to the deep mountains stretches along the Panxi River, much higher than the riverbed. In order to pick the honeysuckle, we will go down the sand and gravel slope along the rocky road to the river, and the clusters of vines almost reach into the river, and the honeysuckle rooted in the rocky crevices of the riverbed swayed with the cheerful and clear water, exuding a special herbal fragrance, which made us excited.

Clusters of honeysuckle vines have oval-green leaves, and pairs of rod-shaped yellow-green buds emerge from the axils of the leaves, like the tentacles of snails, fresh and attractive, we go around the thorns and carefully grasp the small trees or weeds on the side of the rocks, drag the honeysuckle vines up, and pluck the pair of buds that cling to the axils of the leaves, and many times even the two small leaves are plucked together.

Some clusters of honeysuckle with dense buds may grow in steep places, and my sister-in-law will climb over on her stomach, cut off the branches of the honeysuckle with the sickle in her hand, and throw them to us, so that we can sit in the safety of the river beach, and pluck the buds one by one. The rudeness of picking flower buds, along with the destruction of branches, was unsettling to me. My sister-in-law said that honeysuckle branches are the easiest to live, and if you throw them anywhere, as long as there is an opportunity, there is soil, and the sun shines, a rain will make it take root and sprout again. Besides, the cut is only the branches, the roots are still there, and they will sprout and blossom when they see the sky, and the honeysuckle has such a strong regeneration ability, I was very curious when I was young, and now I feel so great in an instant, which makes me have to admire this seemingly weak branch and vine.

The honeysuckle has thick buds and thin buds, and the shorter it is, the more valuable it is. If the buds have grown to nearly a centimeter, and the color has changed from yellow-white or greenish-white to yellow or white, it is about to bloom and can no longer be picked for medicinal herbs. Those buds that we deliberately give up on the ones that are about to bloom, and the next day, they will bloom into brilliant yellow and white flowers with two slender stamens. They are slender and slender like a pair of mandarin ducks swaying on the vines, which makes people look happy. I can't help but imagine what it would be like if all the buds that sprouted on the vine had a chance to bloom brightly. The medicinal fragrance of honeysuckle is a faint and special fragrance, and even its leaves and branches emit the same fragrance. Even if the honeysuckle does not bloom on the rocky slope where the weeds are overgrown and thorny, the different special medicinal fragrance can make people recognize it at once. When I grew up, I was away from my hometown for many years, and the special fragrance of honeysuckle has always been engraved in my memory. Once I went to the zoo, I smelled a medicinal fragrance from afar, and I didn't need to look at it, I knew that it was honeysuckle, and the yellow and white flowers that were as beautiful as the mandarin ducks dancing in their minds immediately came to mind.

I love honeysuckle, not only for its special medicinal fragrance and its delicate flowers, but also because it sacrificed the opportunity to bloom for my living expenses, when our family was still relatively poor, and my childhood was full of hope because of its graceful swaying. Honeysuckle does not choose the growth environment, no matter how barren the barren mountains and rocky beaches, it can take root, even if it is ravaged by harvesting, as long as a breath remains, it will still take root again and sprout happily blooming beautiful flowers, but it has been swaying in my mind to inspire me to be strong in the face of life, I hope that my brother and I can be like honeysuckle, tenacious and brave and calmly live. ”

Ye Xuan closed his eyes and was reminiscing about his childhood, I couldn't bear to interrupt Ye Xuan, it seems that the story of picking honeysuckle with his cousin and sister-in-law when he was a child left a deep impression on Ye Xuan, Ye Xuan is worthy of being a girl with higher education, and being able to speak such beautiful sentences makes me immersed in it, as if I was watching Ye Xuan picking honeysuckle when I was a child.