"Ye Xuan, Deng Qiuju's matter is finally over, my heart has finally calmed down. ”

"Brother, Sister Meihui is really amazing, I want to study medicine with me. "Ye Xuan sandwiched a piece of carrot for me.

"Ye Xuan, this thing is not easy to learn, but only if you have the perseverance to persevere, it is not necessarily, I will have to call you Doctor Ye when I walk in the future. ”

"Haha, brother, I like this title, Ye Xuan has decided, I want to study psychology with Sister Meihui and acupuncture from my brother. ”

"Ah, you made a decision so quickly, don't you think about it?"

"Don't think about it, decide, keep learning, and persist every day, it's not good to waste your youth. ”

"Okay, I like people with perseverance, I'll go get you a book. ”

"Brother, what book are you getting?"

"You are stupid, if you don't read and study, what do you read?"

"Oh, I'll go with you. ”

"No, I'm going to look for a while. ”

Back to Zuo Mi's office, there was a person standing at the door, a little familiar, this is not Zhao Ping.

"Yo, young man, long time no see?" I said.

"Doctor, don't laugh at me, didn't you just see me two days ago. ”

"Oh, it seems to be, look at my memory, how is it, did the girl take it? yes, it's a big change, jacket, ninja hairstyle, leather boots, jeans, it's amazing. ”

"Doctor, that's what I'm here for. ”

"Come in, don't stand all the time, let's talk about what's going on?" I said to Zhao Ping as I was busy looking for books.

"Doctor, what are you looking for?"

"Tell me about you, talk about it, be sharp. ”

"Alas, yellow, doctor, am I useless. ”

I found the basic theories of anatomy and Chinese medicine, and said to Zhao Ping with the book, "Come with me." ”

Back in Ye Xuan's office, Ye Xuan was making me tea.

"Brother, so fast!"

"Let's read these two books first, keep yourself busy, and save yourself from worrying about the people of the Lin family all day long. ”

"Thank you, brother, who is this person behind you, brother?"

"Zhao Ping, as far as the matter of consulting emotions that day, Ye Xuan or you came to teach him a lesson, this child, straight men, women are like water, if you want to drink this sweet water, you have to take it step by step, this child just wants to take a sip, is it possible?"

Ye Xuan said with a smile: "Brother, don't hit others, little handsome guy, introduce yourself, sister will answer your questions." ”

"Zhao Ping, what do you call your beautiful sister?"

"Ye Xuan, the leaf of the leaf, the whirling Xuan plus a king character. ”

"Alas, beautiful sister, my parents said that I have no emotional intelligence, I don't know what to say, saying that I am stupid, how could I give birth to such a stupid son as me, I am very uncomfortable to hear, so I came to you. ”

"Put your parents' words aside, have you ever accosted you?"

"Talking, no, my mother said that I was less daring than a chicken, and I dared to talk there. ”

Ye Xuan smiled: "Then let me explain to you the pick-up, take the note, learn a little, in the eyes of traditional people, it is a hooligan, it is vulgar, but in the eyes of modern people, it is an important communication skill." In addition to the existing concepts, there are also people's potentially distorted thoughts, such as the fact that when some people think of a pick-up, their minds will reflexively associate with a beautiful woman to a date, and their thinking will jump from dating to hugging and other intimate actions. So, when you talk about pick-up in front of these people, they tend to use a disdainful attitude as a disguise for their own dirty thoughts. And some people who are good at picking up and often talk to each other often often use a kind of mentality to describe the pick-up in their eyes. And this is in line with what the ancients often said: A gentleman is frank, and a villain is a relative.

In the eyes of some people, accosting implies an unseemly affair, but in the eyes of a gentleman, it is the opposite. We often hear some people study pick-up as a science, while more people take pick-up as an art to appreciate, comprehend, and experience. Living in a metropolis full of modernity, it is also a wonderful life experience to be able to talk to the opposite sex who shuttles through it. Compared with the various full-filled, violent, and bloody arts in today's society, pick-up is definitely an elegant art. The art of picking up a conversation is not only between people of the opposite sex, but also a necessary skill in social situations. ”

Zhao Ping interrupted Ye Xuan: "Sister Beauty, there is so much knowledge in accosting, don't I understand this art too much?"

In addition to satisfying people's curiosity to explore unknown territories, another important reason is that pick-up has tangible benefits for people, such as improving self-confidence, expanding social circles, looking at the world more optimistically, and knowing themselves more rationally. Although many successful people have never been trained in the skills of pick-up, they can show their pick-up charm wherever they go. To a certain extent, we can think that these people are artistically gifted in terms of pick-ups, that is, we can also summarize an element of successology: pick-ups, which may seem far-fetched to some people, but if we regard pick-ups as a sign of high emotional intelligence, I believe many people will agree. It's good to have talent, but no talent doesn't mean that you don't have a chance to talk to you, as long as you learn some skills in pick-up, and master some of the rules summarized by the pick-up master, anyone can experience their own fun from the art of pick-up.

The worst outcome of a conversation is rejection, and the best outcome is to meet true love, without having to weigh it precisely, and the pros and cons are obvious. Whether in life or in the workplace, we need to grasp the initiative of social interaction, actively seize opportunities, and create a life full of surprises. Only by knowing a little pick-up skills can you have more possibilities for encountering beauty and success. So, from now on, get out of the stereotyped thinking, get rid of the vulgar consciousness, learn the most basic foundations, and you will succeed. ”

"Sister Beauty, my head is stupid, why can't I understand it?" Zhao Ping touched his head and said.

I didn't interject, this guy is really stupid, he can't understand the art of picking up such a simple conversation.

Ye Xuan said patiently: "It's okay, let's take our time, do you care about face very much?"

"I ...... I can't say it, it's just that I'm embarrassed to see a woman. ”

"It's okay, I'll tell you a story, have you heard of Xiao He Yuexia chasing Han Xin, considering the importance of Han Xin under Liu Bang, whether there will be a "Han" dynasty may also become a variable. Han Xin's experience of "humiliation under the crotch" back then, who it puts on him, is an extremely faceless thing. However, Han Xin proceeded from the overall situation, endured humiliation, and finally lost face, but also achieved his own fame. Therefore, later generations also summed up such a truth based on the humiliation of Han Xin's crotch: The eldest husband can endure what the world can't bear, so he can do what the world can't do. Compared with the humiliation of Han Xin's crotch, do you think the face of accosting is worth mentioning?"

"This ...... It's really not worth mentioning. ”

Ye Xuan continued: "In addition, when Han Xin became famous, when people looked back at the "humiliation of his crotch" that he suffered back then, in addition to having more respect for him, who else would regard his behavior as a manifestation of timidity like the onlookers back then? The question is, if you fail to pick up a conversation, can you really not affect your mood at all? The answer is no, no matter how good the general is, if he loses on the battlefield, he will feel more or less lost. So, what do they rely on to stabilize the morale of the military and their own minds? That is, to change their state of mind. So, when you look at this from a different angle, your mood will also change a lot. It's the same thing with pick-ups. While there are many practical tips for successful pick-ups, no single pick-up expert can guarantee a 100% success rate for random pick-ups, which means that the risk of failing a pick-up is objective for anyone. ”

I didn't expect Ye Xuan to say this, I just thought she was just a little girl, or that kind of shy little girl, but I didn't expect it to be unexpected today.

"Sister Beauty, I probably understand what you mean, is it for me to be brave enough to talk?"

"Yes, I see that your personality is a little shy, do as I say, start with the smallest, and slowly, you will not have so much stage fright. ”

"But I didn't know what to say, and I was nervous when I saw a woman, and then I couldn't speak when I was nervous. ”

This is normal, so you should talk to people who are called "masters" not because they have a higher IQ than others, nor because they are more handsome than the average person, but because they have experienced more failures. Think about it, if you have to indulge in every failure for a long time to get out, then the probability of potential success will be greatly reduced. Failure is the mother of success in everything, and success will in turn stimulate people's hearts, so that they can recover faster after the next failure, and at the same time, they can no longer fear potential failure. For those who are eager to talk but do not go to the conversation because of the sake of face, in the short term, although they save face, in the long run, they will lack corresponding encouragement because they did not succeed in the conversation, and they will become more and more face-saving. Of course, at the beginning, it may really be just for the sake of face and not to talk, but after a long time, the inner desire will be due to the long-term backlog, which will turn the original face problem into psychological problems, such as depression and timidity. Therefore, a correct understanding of the success and failure of pick-up is the first step to get out of the inner barrier and start to take the initiative to pick up a conversation. ”

Ye Xuan came over and whispered to me: "Brother, I feel that this person is quite stupid, I don't know if I can teach him well." ”

"Try your best, some things don't form in a day or two, after all, people give money, if you don't learn something from us, it won't sound good to spread it. ”

"Oh, got it, brother. ”