In order to prevent her from thinking crankily again, the moment QQ popped up the friend application, Yuan Jia immediately approved the application, and he knew that if he delayed for a few more minutes, it might be the biggest torment for her.

The most obvious manifestation of social phobia patients in the process of social interaction is excessive interpretation of objective facts, always thinking that they are not good enough, and they can't help but unconsciously think about their performance just now, which sentence is wrong, whether it will cause others to be disgusted, so it produces uncontrollable anxiety and extreme tension.

The other party's QQ number is a new account, the nickname is also called Gardenia, the other information is blank, there is no signature, there is no photo, and the avatar is a stick figure of a bouquet of gardenias.

Yuanjia hasn't used QQ for a long time, and compared to before, the function of QQ is full of bells and whistles.

Gardenia: "Teacher Yuan, what are you doing?"

Xu Nanyu was so anxious that he fidgeted, and the words in the chat box were typed and deleted, deleted and typed.

In the past, when she played virtual characters on the Internet, she could call people she didn't know online 'NPCs', just playing social games.

But when I was really chatting with people in reality, my brain was down again, and I wanted to talk to Yuanjia, but I didn't know what to say, so I had to ask him what he was doing.

Yuanjia: "I'm thinking about how to talk to you." ”

Gardenia: "I'm also ...... [grievance]"

Yuanjia: "We are good friends now, you can call me Yuanjia, what is your name?"

Seeing this, Xu Nanyu subconsciously became nervous, she didn't want Yuan Jia to know her true identity, and she had a sense of fear of being honest, as if she was exposed to the square.

Wonjia was waiting for her reply, knowing full well that asking for a name would inevitably make her uneasy, but it was a necessary process to treat social phobia, and patients had to challenge their willpower step by step, which was also the core of systematic desensitization therapy.

A person's fear should be lowered step by step, not all at once.

If you let the person with social phobia go out directly to socialize, it is tantamount to letting her die, and you must go from far to near, step by step, only increase a little anxiety at a time, gradually increase, and finally reach a point where you can face it freely.

Of course, every small step of success must be supported and encouraged, which will give them a sense of satisfaction, which can effectively suppress anxiety and nervous reactions.

Gardenia must overcome this step on her own, otherwise Yuanjia will not be able to do anything about her illness.

Yuan Jia waited for a full ten minutes, he sighed secretly, it seemed that the other party had decided to give up.

Xu Nanyu didn't know how she mustered up her courage, her face was pale and her mind was roaring, but she still typed her name in the chat box.

Gardenia: "Nan Gardenia." ”

Looking at these two words, Yuan Jia was stunned.

Immediately came to mind the girl who he used to think was super introverted and especially able to make people protective-Xu Nanyu.

Could it be her......

After less than half a semester of getting along, and ten years have passed, I'm afraid Xu Nanyu has long forgotten him.

Yuan Jia did not extend or ask questions on this topic, if it was really Xu Nanyu, she would definitely not want Yuan Jia to recognize her, or just tell her name, it was already her limit.

Because of social fear, Xu Nanyu is destined to be unable to get along with him like an old friend, and being recognized will only make her afraid and uneasy.

It's like meeting an acquaintance on the street, because you don't know how to say hello because you're embarrassed, so you hide in the corner and wait for the other party to leave......

Pretend not to know Yuanjia - Xu Nanyu

Pretend not to know Xu Nanyu - Yuan Jia

On this issue, the two surprisingly reached a consensus.

Afraid that she would be cranky again after a long time, Yuan Jia hurriedly replied: "Nan Yu, your name is very good. ”

Over there, Xu Nanyu was also a little calmer, and he didn't seem to recognize it......

Slightly lost, but more relaxed.

Gardenia: "Really......"

Yuan Jia: "Well, the beauty of the south, the gardenia is blooming, it feels very beautiful~"

Seeing his praise, Xu Nanyu showed a shy smile on her face, and she looked at her phone stupidly, flipping through this sentence over and over again.

The uneasiness she had when she told him his name had also vanished, because she especially liked the phrase 'beautiful lady of the south, gardenia blooms'......

......

Dada——

A gentle knock sounded on the door, and then the sound of the door lock turning was heard, and Xu Nanyu's mother, Bai Yan, opened the door and came in.

Bai Yan is about the same age as Yang Hemei, in addition to being more delicately dressed, her appearance looks even older than that of the housewife Yang Hemei, her daughter's illness broke her heart, she has seen many doctors, but she has never seen any better, and the most headache is that Xu Nanyu has begun to resist the doctor.

She held a glass of warm water in her hand, as well as two white pills, which had the effect of sleeping and calming her mind, Xu Nanyu couldn't sleep at all without taking medicine, but Bai Yan didn't dare to let her take medicine by herself, for fear that something would happen to her, so she sent her medicine on time every night.

Xu Nanyi's door is never locked, if it is locked, it will be the turn of her parents to think wildly, except for them, no one will enter her room, and there is not even a nanny in the villa of Nuoda, it is all taken care of by her mother.

If it was usual, Xu Nanyu would either sit by the floor-to-ceiling window and look outside in a daze, or draw on the table.

But tonight, she sat by the window and did not be in a daze, but held the mobile phone in both hands, her eyes were focused and serious, her shallow eyebrows and soft lips still had a smile on her face, and her cheeks were slightly red, and she didn't even notice that her mother had come in.

How long has it been since I've seen her like this?

Bai Yan was also stunned, holding a glass of water and medicine, not knowing whether to disturb her.

Xu Nanyu finally came back to her senses and found that her mother had come in, she quickly typed a few words, and then hid her phone behind her.

"Mom......"

The tone is lighter than ever.

Bai Yan stepped forward, put the water cup and pills on the table, and then helped Xu Nanyu make the bed.

"Who are you talking to?"

"No......"

Xu Nanyu likes to touch her nose when she lies, Bai Yan smiled, and she didn't care about her.

After all, it's been a long time since I've seen her have such a positive mood, and even with it, Bai Yan's mood has also become positive.

Xu Nanyu is twenty-five years old this year, but in fact, her mental age is not very old, and sometimes she is still stubborn like a seventeen or eighteen-year-old girl, after all, since she dropped out of high school, she has hardly had contact with other people.

Bai Yan made the bed, but her mind was thinking about what her daughter looked like just now.

The shy and sweet smile on his face, his eyes staring at his phone without blinking, his long eyelashes trembling slightly, and his fair and flawless skin revealing a faint pink, reminded him of a girl in love.

It would be a great joy if she could find someone she liked......

Xu Nanyu and Bai Yan sat down on the edge of the bed and talked for a while, because of their illness, their emotions were often unstable, and many times even their mother became cautious when talking to her.

For the most common words such as 'going out', 'friends', 'going to school' and 'falling in love', my mother is more sensitive than she is, and she will never mention them when she speaks.

Every now and then, Xu Nanyu would hate himself and feel that he was very useless.

"Mom, I decided to change myself, I want to talk to people normally, I want to make friends, I want to go out and ......"

Xu Nanyu looked at his mother's eyes, as if he had made the greatest determination.

Bai Yan immediately felt distressed, why was it so difficult for other girls to do what other girls could easily do when it came to their daughter.

She could clearly hear her daughter's voice trembling a little when she said this, which was really too difficult for Gardenia......

"Gardenia, Mom understands your difficulties, you don't have to force your ......"

Xu Nanyu smiled and said, "Mom, you have to encourage me." I'll tell you, I'm very happy today, very happy!"

Bai Yan pulled up her hair, looked into her eyes, and said softly: "That's good, no matter what you do, Mom will support you." ”

After taking the medicine, Bai Yan gently closed the door and let her daughter rest.

Xu Nanyu turned off the lights, hid under the covers with his mobile phone, and looked at the chat history with Yuanjia over and over again.

didn't talk much, just like the first time they met, the two got to know each other again.

The last message was sent by Yuan Jia.

[It's almost eleven o'clock, I have to go wash up, it's about half an hour, and then it's time for me to go to bed, if you send me a good night, then I'll wake up tomorrow and chat with you]

Yuanjia's news is like a planner, but Xu Nanyu feels very comfortable reading it, and he won't think about 'why he didn't reply to me for half an hour', 'will he look for me tomorrow', 'did I do something wrong'

Sleepiness gradually welled up, as if I couldn't wait for him to come back......

Xu Nanyu struggled to hold his eyelids and sent him a message.

Gardenia: "Good night~"

She began to ......

Looking forward to tomorrow.

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